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is it normal?

  • 04-08-2014 10:07am
    #1
    mrty
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 139 ✭✭


    Hey all, just looking for a few opinions really. The story is I was in a fairly long term relationship with someone I loved very much. It was well over three years. So we broke up three months ago, me being the dumpee unfortunately. My problem is why can't I get over her, its been three months for gods sake, surely by now I should have well moved on.
    Im in my thirties and have been in several relationships but have never had this trouble I've always just, well moved on. What the hell is wrong with me is this normal. I've never really been in love in any past relationship so I'm thinking maybe its just gonna take time. Am I right? Or have I lost it? I can't seem to stop thinking about her. This should not be an issue after three months surely? I recently even had the opportunity to start dating a very pretty lady who I was very attracted to in the past, and I passed it up. Argh. What's wrong with me am I broken or something? What has she done to me. :(


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  • #2
    Obliq
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,371 ✭✭✭Obliq


    mrty wrote: »
    Hey all, just looking for a few opinions really. The story is I was in a fairly long term relationship with someone I loved very much. It was well over three years. So we broke up three months ago, me being the dumpee unfortunately. My problem is why can't I get over her, its been three months for gods sake, surely by now I should have well moved on.
    Im in my thirties and have been in several relationships but have never had this trouble I've always just, well moved on. What the hell is wrong with me is this normal. I've never really been in love in any past relationship so I'm thinking maybe its just gonna take time. Am I right? Or have I lost it? I can't seem to stop thinking about her. This should not be an issue after three months surely? I recently even had the opportunity to start dating a very pretty lady who I was very attracted to in the past, and I passed it up. Argh. What's wrong with me am I broken or something? What has she done to me. :(

    There's your answer OP. You always moved on before with no trouble because you weren't in love. This time, yes of course it'll take time.

    Sorry for what you're going through - it's always horrible to be in that place where you can't stop thinking about the person you've broken up with, and yes I'd say at the moment you are a little bit broken, but you'll mend. I think you were right to pass on the dating for a while.

    This is completely normal OP - all I can recommend is that you try and focus on other areas of your life and when you think of her just acknowledge to yourself that you're still hurt but try not to dwell on it. The hurt will be there for a while but it will ease in time. You've managed to hit 30 without any baggage seemingly, but now you have some. It'll get less heavy, chin up :)


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