Feeling fed up :(

dani27

Hey guys

I have been job hunting for AGES and not having any luck. It's so upsetting and demoralising.
I went for an interview a few weeks ago, and left in tears. I just felt horrible and stupid leaving and worthless,and like a failure. The bitch didn't even have the decency to tell me I didn't get the job,which is so rude!!



I studied really hard in college and have a MA, when I couldn't get any work in my area I went back and got a FETAC level 6 course in Management.

I just feel really down. I send out loads of CV's everyday and never hear anything back. Would sending in a video cv or something different stand out? I just want a fecking job!!!

cantdecide

Chin up, OP. Your working days aren't over. There are lots of us in the same boat feeling your pain

An Ri rua

dani27 wrote: »

Hey guys

I have been job hunting for AGES and not having any luck. It's so upsetting and demoralising.
I went for an interview a few weeks ago, and left in tears. I just felt horrible and stupid leaving and worthless,and like a failure. The bitch didn't even have the decency to tell me I didn't get the job,which is so rude!!



I studied really hard in college and have a MA, when I couldn't get any work in my area I went back and got a FETAC level 6 course in Management.

I just feel really down. I send out loads of CV's everyday and never hear anything back. Would sending in a video cv or something different stand out? I just want a fecking job!!!

You shouldn't be feeling like that leaving an interview, unless you were doubting yourself during it and feeling it slip away? You need to change your focus / your attitude, no matter how hard it seems. When you go to an interview, believe it is to see whether you and they are suited. Be exploratory, enthusiastic, inquisitive. Do not be desperate for a job. Because then you don't want their job. And that is all they care about.

It is awful, yes, that people don't let you know that you didn't get the job. But remember that in the boom many successful interviewees didn't even TURN UP for their first day of work! The pendulum has swung and now the igorance goes the other way unfortunately.

My advice would be to buy '60 seconds and you're hired'. It will re-frame how you are thinking and also help to give perspective when you don't land the job. It is enormously difficult to land a decent job, even a not-decent job, but you simply must keep your chin up. YOU might deserve a job but THEY don't owe you anything. So keep on the sunny side pre-interview, during interview and post-interview. No matter how hard that is. Why you would be leaving upset is inexplicable to me unless you let yourself down at interview or the interviewer was not good at their job. Treat it as a meeting to see if you are suitable. That IS what it is.

This book and approach has landed me some serious opportunities in the last 10 years http://www.amazon.co.uk/Seconds-Youre-Hired-Robin-Ryan-ebook/dp/B006H4C4YS/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1406897621&sr=8-1&keywords=60+seconds+and+you%27re+hired

Very best wishes. I used to get very angry too. Unemployed many times over the years. 2 postgrad degrees. Not in the job I'd like to be in but working in a permanent gig for a few years now. So deal with that rejection and then re-focus.

InReality

Getting a first job is very difficult to do anytime , and in ireland these days makes it worse. I'd recommend 2 things - asking all your relations and friends and friends of friends if they know of any jobs. and trying to treat getting a job , like a job , so do a set number of hours searching each day , ringing around those relations and going to agencies etc.

dani27

Thing is I have worked since I finished college. I've done an internship where I was bullied and also done a CE Scheme too. I';ve moved cities looking for work. I;m worried Ill have to emigrate to find work.

Tarzana

InReality wrote: »

and trying to treat getting a job , like a job , so do a set number of hours searching each day

Excellent advice. Sounds ridiculous in a way, but it's all about volume and quality if applications and treating it as a job is the only way to achieve this.

dani27

Tarzana wrote: »

Excellent advice. Sounds ridiculous in a way, but it's all about volume and quality if applications and treating it as a job is the only way to achieve this.

Trust me I spend two/three hours applying for work. 10.30 - 12 and than around 3/4 to see if anything has been added. I've registered with agencies (even though they are the span of Satan) , and I've applied for 6 jobs today.

Tarzana

dani27 wrote: »

Trust me I spend two/three hours applying for work. 10.30 - 12 and than around 3/4 to see if anything has been added. I've registered with agencies (even though they are the span of Satan) , and I've applied for 6 jobs today.

Spend 8 hours doing those 6 applications. That includes research etc.

Dowl88

Whats the MA in? Unfortuanatly the job market is so difficult at the moment. Maybe start with call centre or administration work to get your foot on the ladder. Spend a couple of hours a day looking for jobs and applying

It took me a year after graduating to get a job as a basic administrator for **** money, qualified in computer science. After six months there I got a job in a good I.T firm as an administrator and worked my way up and now in my dream job in I. T. It will work out.

dani27

Tarzana wrote: »

Spend 8 hours doing those 6 applications. That includes research etc.

Does that mean writing a cover letter for each company, tailor made to show I know all about them?

highlydebased

dani27 wrote: »

Does that mean writing a cover letter for each company, tailor made to show I know all about them?

You should definitely do this- many cover letters/CV's are submitted without being tailored for the job. If you believe you have the skills/experience for the job the cover letter is the place to show it, and show your motivation for applying for the job/why you want to work for them.

It really helps if the job advertisment has a person specification which you can use to help write the cover letter.

Tarzana

dani27 wrote: »

Does that mean writing a cover letter for each company, tailor made to show I know all about them?

Yes, of course!

scheister

dont worry OP you aint alone. I was looking their today i have applied for near 100 jobs since i graduated last year with a masters got maybe 10 interviews finally got a job starting next week as a call centre operator. Its nothing to do with my education but as i always say education is never wasted. you may end up taking a job you dont like but it gets you in the door you never know what moves up you are able to do and hopefully will end up doing what you love

Mrs OBumble

dani27 wrote: »

I;m worried Ill have to emigrate to find work.

What's holding you back from doing this?

fret_wimp2

Emigration is a very real solution to unemployment these days unfortunately ( or fortunately).

Luckily i only had to move across the country to get a job, I have family members who now live happily in the UK, have built lives for themselves and are very very happy.

I have friends who cant find jobs back home, wont move more than a few miles from their home place and yep, those friends are unemployed many years now.

You have to identify if having a job is worth more to you than being close to home and unemployed .

Also remember, the world is a small place nowadays, you can get to the uk in 2 hours, and that includes passing through airport security, at furthest, your a days travel away from home.

dani27

Thanks for all support guys. I've the MA in Media & Communication studies and it's worth SFA. I wish I hadn't done it now! I was doing some work in the media but they let go of all freelancers so that included me! Another company I worked for disbanded. I than did a CE scheme where the company shut down as they owed a fortune! I am cursed I swear! I've done an internship already too. Lifes tough out there.

mozattack

I would recommend doing some volunteer work because that shows a commitment to work and if there are 4 similar applicants going for a job I bet the one who does such work will have the edge.

It can only help and it will also help "your engine" to keep ticking over etc

dani27

mozattack wrote: »

I would recommend doing some volunteer work because that shows a commitment to work and if there are 4 similar applicants going for a job I bet the one who does such work will have the edge.

It can only help and it will also help "your engine" to keep ticking over etc

Do some Volunteer work two days a week and love it. It definitely keeps me sane