Need advice

TheFarrier

Last Saturday night I went home with a girl I met out. Used protection but the condom broke before I finished.
Next morning we went to a pharmacy for the morning after pill. Thought no more about it.
But last night I got a text to say she's late.

I'm out of my mind with worry here.

How soon can a pregnancy test be used??

Is there any other options I should explore??

Thanks for reading.

Merkin

TheFarrier wrote: »

Last Saturday night I went home with a girl I met out. Used protection but the condom broke before I finished.
Next morning we went to a pharmacy for the morning after pill. Thought no more about it.
But last night I got a text to say she's late.

I'm out of my mind with worry here.

How soon can a pregnancy test be used??

Is there any other options I should explore??

Thanks for reading.

The coil can be inserted up to five days post intercourse so this would still be an option but you'd have to act immediately.

Given that her period is due around now, it suggests intercourse happened at the end of her cycle, long after ovulation occurred. There are no hard and fast rules though so you're best to err on the side of caution.

Buy a First Response test and make an appointment with a GP or Family Planning Clinic for right away.

JillyQ

It sounds a bit dodgy to me. She could only be a few days late. Most woman at some stage have been late.

TheFarrier

JillyQ wrote: »

It sounds a bit dodgy to me. She could only be a few days late. Most woman at some stage have been late.

That's what I thought, she says she's two days late, but is worried as apparently she's never been late before.

ohohseven

TheFarrier wrote: »

That's what I thought, she says she's two days late, but is worried as apparently she's never been late before.

I'm not a woman or an expert on the female cycle but can't being late happen due to stress sometimes. Maybe she's late because she thinks she might be pregnant if that makes any sense ?. But in saying that still go to see a gp and get a test.

JillyQ

ohohseven wrote: »

I'm not a woman or an expert on the female cycle but can't being late happen due to stress sometimes. Maybe she's late because she thinks she might be pregnant if that makes any sense ?. But in saying that still go to see a gp and get a test.

That can happen, it happened to me a few years ago I ended up getting so stressed out about it that i was 3 weeks late.

JillyQ

TheFarrier wrote: »

That's what I thought, she says she's two days late, but is worried as apparently she's never been late before.

The whole thing just dosen't make sense. Most women that i know wouldn't really stress about being a few days late.

Merkin

TheFarrier wrote: »

That's what I thought, she says she's two days late, but is worried as apparently she's never been late before.

The morning after pill can knock a cycle out of kilter so it's not uncommon for a bleed to happen earlier or later than expected.

kylith

Merkin wrote: »

The morning after pill can knock a cycle out of kilter so it's not uncommon for a bleed to happen earlier or later than expected.

That's most likely what it is.

If you met her on Saturday and she was due her period two days ago then ye had sex at the very end of her cycle and it would be much less likely (though not impossible) for her to be pregnant. If ye're worried then there are tests that are usable from the first day of a missed period, but my advice would be to go to the doctor's because the MAP has most likely messed up her cycle.

TheFarrier

kylith wrote: »

That's most likely what it is.

If you met her on Saturday and she was due her period two days ago then ye had sex at the very end of her cycle and it would be much less likely (though not impossible) for her to be pregnant. If ye're worried then there are tests that are usable from the first day of a missed period, but my advice would be to go to the doctor's because the MAP has most likely messed up her cycle.

Here's hoping so anyway.
As I said the condom broke before I ejaculated, and that was the end of it, we didn't keep going without it, so I'm 99% sure were safe, but a 1% chance is still too much. She's taking a test this evening so fingers crossed

skallywag

All things considered (end of cycle, no ejaculation ...) the odds are heavily stacked against you having made her pregnant last Saturday night.

She could still possibly have become pregnant prior to this of course though.

Dial Hard

TheFarrier wrote: »

the condom broke before I ejaculated, and that was the end of it, we didn't keep going without it, so I'm 99% sure were safe, but a 1% chance is still too much. She's taking a test this evening so fingers crossed

I was just about to ask did you actually ejaculate inside her, as it wasn't clear from your original post. Between this and the fact that the took the MAP the very next morning, the chances are almost miniscule that she's pregnant; combination of the hormones in the pill and the stress making her late, more than likely.

Take the test, for both your peace of mind, and if you still don't trust a neg result, go to the doctor with her.

IlmoNT4

Its very unlikely that she could become pregnant (not 100% impossible) but if her period was due on Monday 21st July, that means that her fertility window (based on a 30 day cycle, different for all women, but most women are between 28-33+ day cycle) then she was fertile roughly 10-14 days after the first day of her last period, so if her last period was on the 22nd of June, then her fertility window was probably between 1st - 6th of July...thats a rough guess...if different for every one. Women only ovulate once a month (there are exceptions but the standard is once, usually mid cycle) so it would certainly be extremely unlikely that she could become pregnant on Saturday (unless of course, she was already pregnant before she you met her)

The other thing that's in your favor is that you realized the condom broke and stopped, so along with taking the MAP, I think you are covered.

Stress, MAPs, getting the dates wrong all affects a womens period. A few days late is nothing to worry about. A womans cycle is always changing. If her period hasnt arrived in a few days then taking an early pregnancy test or go visit the GP, but even if conception took place on Saturday, I'm not even sure that would give a positive pregnancy test result.

You did everything right so I think you should be ok, Good luck

TheFarrier

Dial Hard wrote: »

I was just about to ask did you actually ejaculate inside her, as it wasn't clear from your original post. Between this and the fact that the took the MAP the very next morning, the chances are almost miniscule that she's pregnant; combination of the hormones in the pill and the stress making her late, more than likely.

Take the test, for both your peace of mind, and if you still don't trust a neg result, go to the doctor with her.

I know everything points towards not pregnant, and I genuinely wasn't worried until she text me in a panic last night about her being late.

Thank you all for your replies, I was bricking it and I suppose I needed a bit of reassurance. Feel a bit better now anyway. Just waiting on results of test.

Thank you

Chance The Rapper

Is she hot?

Penny Tration

She more than likely isn't pregnant. She was at the end of her cycle, you didn't ejaculate and shetook the MAP. last time I took tthe MAP, my period was a month late! It's basically a huge dose of hormones, it can play havoc with your body.

With regards to the posters saying it's odd that she's panicking so soon - i don't get periods anymore (thank you, minipill), but if i was even a day late previously, despite using condoms and the pill, I'd freak out. Some people DO panic that early.

Tokyo

Chance The Rapper - we have a very low tolerance in PI for unhelpful, off-topic posts such as yours. Please read the forum charter and familiarise yourself with the rules before posting again, as any further posts of this nature will result in an infraction or ban.

Regards,
Mike

TheFarrier

Test was "inconclusive".

I didn't know pregnancy tests could be inconclusive.

I presume that just means its too early??

Penny Tration

TheFarrier wrote: »

Test was "inconclusive".

I didn't know pregnancy tests could be inconclusive.

I presume that just means its too early??

Tests can be inconclusive because of birth control and such, and the MAP. She should give it a week, or ask her GP to do bloods.

beveragelady

Obviously none of us know this girl, but is there any chance she's fishing for a daddy for a baby that was conceived before she met you?

JeffKenna

beveragelady wrote: »

Obviously none of us know this girl, but is there any chance she's fishing for a daddy for a baby that was conceived before she met you?

Have to admit that was my first thought...was it your condom or hers OP? How exactly did it break?

Chance The Rapper

Apologies Mike,I just wanted to lighten the mood.

OP if it does come to her being pregnant I'd get one of the tests that tells you how far gone you are just to be sure it's yours. She seems to be very worried about only being 2 days late.

TheFarrier

beveragelady wrote: »

Obviously none of us know this girl, but is there any chance she's fishing for a daddy for a baby that was conceived before she met you?

That possibility had not escaped me.

It was my condom, and I wouldn't blame any condom for breaking given the circumstances. We were "ahem" interrupted 3 or 4 times, and I'd say it wax the zip on my jeans tore it.

But I'll be deadly honest, we live three hours apart, and that's not gonna change any time soon.

IlmoNT4

I googled how soon after sex will a pregnancy test show a positive result...This is from Planned Parent hood

It can take up to seven days after sex for the sperm and egg to join and form a fertilized egg. Then, it can take up to eight days, or more, for the fertilized egg to bury itself in the lining of the uterus. Pregnancy begins when this happens.
Pregnancy tests work by detecting a hormone called the human chorionic gonadotropin hormone (HCG). HCG doesn't start being released until the fertilized egg implants itself and pregnancy begins.

How do you know this Lady? is she a friend, g/f or a one night stand.... When I first read your post it seemed to me, that maybe this lady was already pregnant and was possibly looking to find a willing father... What age is she? If shes youngish, and maybe freaking out and reading into tests incorrectly... tends to go with the territory of being late teens, early 20's...

What does in inconclusive mean...
If she took a digital test, it'll either say, not pregnant, pregnant, or failed (failed meaning there is something wrong with the test, it does not mean shes pregnant)
If she took the older type tests, its either a single line (not pregnant) or a cross (pregnant) theres nothing in between..

TheFarrier

One night stand. Not sure of her age, I think she said she was 20, also said she had two kids from a previous relationship.

If all she's looking for is an easy target to take over from whoever may or may not have sired a potential foal, she's barking up the wrong tree.

Twas Not

TheFarrier wrote: »

One night stand. Not sure of her age, I think she said she was 20, also said she had two kids from a previous relationship.

If all she's looking for is an easy target to take over from whoever may or may not have sired a potential foal, she's barking up the wrong tree.

Nice attitude.

IlmoNT4

well I think its physically impossible to come pregnant in 2 days...so either this Lady is

1. Looking for attention, drama nonsense
2. Looking for a willing father
3. Making out that she could be pregnant so she could see you again


If she's already had 2 kids then she knows how to read a pregnancy test...I dunno dude, I wouldnt be engaging too much with her, or demonstrating any concern re pregnancy, stay cool and see what comes out.
This could be a game to this person to make you squirm.... How did did you two part? Did she ask to see you again? Did you get the impression that she would be into seeing you again.... If she feels rejected, this could be her way of freaking you out. But its hard to say because no one knows this lady except for you. What was your impression of the type of person she is? If you even got an impression (given it was a one night thing)

blatantrereg

You don't have to have a relationship with her.
Find out if she is pregnant.
If she is, ask her what she is going to do. She will indicate if termination is something she is considering. If you would want that, offer to pay and go with her. You probably cannot suggest it directly if she does not bring it up.
Get a paternity test if she has a kid.
Take responsibility if it turns out you are a father.

TheFarrier

Twas Not wrote: »

Nice attitude.

Are you picking me up wrong??

All I meant was I'm not gonna take responsibility for someone else's kid.

TheFarrier

There was no arrangements made to meet again when I left, but she has mentioned it once or twice by text.

I don't want to have a relationship.

But I don't want to be a daddy either.




In all honesty, I don't think there is any ulterior motives in this girls actions, but I do think she may be panicking.
I don't blame her, I am too.

Neyite

Ok, just to clear up a couple of points. The vast majority of home pregnancy tests are superior to the doctors ones. Usually the test has a control line, plus a second window that will stay blank if negative and have a line or a cross appear if pregnant. For one to be inconclusive it means that the control line didnt show, so its a faulty test. Go for a First Response one, they are by far the most sensitive and can sometimes give a result even before the period is due. I've peed on literally hundreds of tests -cardboard cheapies and expensive digital ones and never had an inconclusive, so its a puzzler all right.

The digital ones that tell you how many weeks along you are are rather gimmcky I'm afraid. They measure a standard hormone level, and will only tell you if you are one week, two weeks or 3weeks+ So in terms of dating the pregnancy, these are useless. You can only wait and get a dating scan - if on the public system it might be as late as halfway through a pregnancy, but you can pay for private ones that can give accurate dating from about 7 weeks. That is, seven weeks since her last period, not counting the missed one, so if she has missed a period by 7 days, she would be 5 weeks pregnant, as a pregnancy is counted from the first day of the last period. So for your situation, it would be in maybe 3 weeks time, and you can accompany her into the scan and see the monitor if you want to see proof for yourself.

The morning after pill is a massive dose of hormone and can throw a cycle out of whack. Stress can also do that too, so combined, its no surprise that a period is not arriving when expected after the stress of a contraception failure, the pill itself and the worry that it worked.

If she was due Monday, two days after intercourse, it would be highly unlikely that she is pregnant, unless she massively mixed up her dates.

Might be no harm to get an std test too. Again, probably a very slim chance that you caught anything when the condom broke, but no harm for your own peace of mind.

December2012

A home pregnancy test won't give you an outright "no" - it will say that there's not enough hcg (the hormone) in the urine and this may be because the tester is not pregnant at the time of testing.

Saying it's inconclusive doesn't mean she's being a drama queen.

It's the truth.

It's more than likely just too soon and her period is late for stress / map or other reasons.