Pregnant and no where to go.

pinkpanter2014

thank you everyone think im on the right path now!

Galbin

Hi Pinkpanther

I would contact positiveoptions.ie. They can refer you to a local service that will be able to tell you about your entitlements.

I'm sorry about the timing of all of this, but congrats on the baby.

pinkpanter2014

thank you!! really appreciate it! (:

LegacyUser

What happened or was said during the recent fight that can't be undone? If the commitment to allowing you to stay at home was there, then I'm guessing the fight is fixable with some work, with plenty of talking and with some assurances for your family that you and you partner are doing your level best to find a way to make an independent future for the three of you. It might not be easy to start, but open the talks and see what happens. Best of luck to all of you.

Ann84

Hi OP,

I was in your boat 8 years ago, I went to my local community welfare officer and was very lucky to get a place in a home, a kind of goverment run home for pregnant women in difficult positions in cork...

It wasn't ideal, but it helped me get on my feet... It will get easier, just get somewhere cheap and safe to get through the first 3/4 months until you get your head together!

jellyboy

Hi op

What you have described is repeated in houses across Ireland every day
the effects of the collapse in Ireland ,tensions and anxiety have replaced the feel safe factor of the boom


Carrying the guilt isn't doing you or your child any good,
but its still there ..

I have arguments at home with my kids (adults) and like any relationship the make up is brilliant, living with anybody is tough ,but living with familly is tougher as theres a "i own you" attitude and can say anything when i want

you say home truths were told ,bad in an argument but great to be said in a positive way ,remember words are only that ,but the effects and how they
effect you are you responsibility

Hormones are raging not just for you ,but all concerned ..calmness is the key
maybe after the cool down ends you can begin the process of talking and understanding of each other

Begging the process of moving out is very healthy for you as you build your familly

what you shouldn't do is burn bridges with your familly as they can provide the support that you need going forward

Try not to beat yourself with thoughts of what could be with the "IF" syndrome

You are doing your best with what you have ..

All any child needs is to know that they are loved and cared for
(theres all the practail side which where familly comes in )

The options supplied by the above and below posters is good advice (but do what your heart feels )



best of luck op

Tokyo

Hi pinkpanter2014,

I see that it's already been mentioned, but I second the idea of contacting positive options - they will be able to advise you on your pregnancy, what comes afterwards, and what facilities and entitlements are out there for you, your baby and your partner. Links to support agencies during pregnancy and beyond can be found in the forum charter's "Useful Links" section.

Not knowing what your family said to you last night, it's hard to make a call on that, and while I'm not excusing the fact that they ended up in a screaming match with you so close to term, it's obviously a stressful time for them too. Today may have brought cooler heads, and possible regret at words that were spoken last night, so if you feel that may be the case, talk to them before burning any bridges. They're your family, and if you feel that it's possible for you and them to get past the argument last night and that they can be supportive to you for the rest of your pregnancy, it might be worth considering.