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Am I wrong to be upset?

  • 19-07-2014 4:48pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I've been seeing someone the past 2 months, we don't live in the same county so can really only see each other at the weekends so we've pretty much been spending every fri/sat night together the past few weeks.

    I am going on holiday with my family for two weeks on Sunday so I was looking forward to spending the weekend with him before I went. Now I will say we hadn't made any concrete plans but said we'd see each other at the weekend. So I went up there last night and spent the night.

    This morning he got a call from a friend and they were making plans to go watch a match tonight. When he hung up, he said he was going to hang out with his boys tonight if that was ok. I said of course, what else could I say. So we had lunch after that and I said goodbye, he told me to have fun on hols but there was no mention of see you when you get back or anything.

    I guess I was upset as I was hoping to spend the last night with him before I went but I had just assumed that was happening so I can't really be angry or anything. I'm also a little upset as I kind of hoped he's want to spend the night with me too, after all it's going to be three weeks before we can see each other again. So now I'm sort of questioning the whole thing. I am definitely developing feelings for him and now I'm wondering if he even likes me that much or even wants to see me again.

    Am I totally over thinking this or is it normal to be upset?


Comments

  • #2
    danslevent
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 893 ✭✭✭danslevent


    I think maybe you're over reacting a little. Just relax and enjoy your holiday.


  • #3
    Flippyfloppy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,749 ✭✭✭Flippyfloppy


    Unless there's other reasons for you to think that this guy mightn't feel the same as you do , Pp might be right , you might be over reacting.

    I find that males don't tend to panic about not seeing people for a while, and don't see the need in spending every waking moment before the departure time together. He probably just assumed you'd be getting yourself ready for holidays tonight!!!


  • #4
    Czarcasm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,076 ✭✭✭✭Czarcasm


    I'd agree with the previous posters OP, you're over-thinking it just a bit alright. Enjoy your holiday, and if you think of it send him a postcard (maybe that's just me, I like getting postcards :o).

    I would say to you though just to keep in mind that in future if you're thinking something, best just say it to the guy rather than be over-thinking it later and stressing yourself out about it.


  • #5
    Confused12345
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21 ✭Confused12345


    upsetandsad wrote: »
    I've been seeing someone the past 2 months, we don't live in the same county so can really only see each other at the weekends so we've pretty much been spending every fri/sat night together the past few weeks.

    I am going on holiday with my family for two weeks on Sunday so I was looking forward to spending the weekend with him before I went. Now I will say we hadn't made any concrete plans but said we'd see each other at the weekend. So I went up there last night and spent the night.

    This morning he got a call from a friend and they were making plans to go watch a match tonight. When he hung up, he said he was going to hang out with his boys tonight if that was ok. I said of course, what else could I say. So we had lunch after that and I said goodbye, he told me to have fun on hols but there was no mention of see you when you get back or anything.

    I guess I was upset as I was hoping to spend the last night with him before I went but I had just assumed that was happening so I can't really be angry or anything. I'm also a little upset as I kind of hoped he's want to spend the night with me too, after all it's going to be three weeks before we can see each other again. So now I'm sort of questioning the whole thing. I am definitely developing feelings for him and now I'm wondering if he even likes me that much or even wants to see me again.

    Am I totally over thinking this or is it normal to be upset?

    Us woman do things like this all the time over think things and assume

    I would have been like you and assumed you would spend the 2 nights together as well but men just don't see things the same way

    he is gone off out with his friends thinking everything is ok not knowing you are upset
    he probably would have stayed if you explained to him what you wanted


    go have a great holiday and you will have loads of weekends together when you get back


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