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I don't really enjoy anything anymore, feel disconnected

  • 18-07-2014 8:13pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I'm 20 and I feel like nothing makes me happy anymore. When I was younger I could get totally lost in a book or film, but it just doesn't happen for me at all anymore. I've always loved football but I didn't really enjoy the World Cup, the only thing that got my blood pumping the way watching football used to all the time was the first half of Germany Brazil. When I try and sit down with a book or watch a film, all I can think about is my problems like paying for college, stuff with my friends, exam results etc. I feel like I'm a barely functioning human being lately. I just want to be able to relax and enjoy things the way I used to, have some level of escapism from the world. Any advice would be greatly appreciated


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  • #2
    thefeatheredcat
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    It sounds like you have a lot on your mind and on your plate OP. Have you anyone you can talk to about your worries? Worries like that can be quite consuming and stressful especially if you are dealing with them on your own and where certain aspects of them are outside of your control.

    It is true - from my own experiences - that a problem shared is a problem halved, and talking to someone, a parent, a family member, friends or even any of the organisations listed on the "Information for Distressed Posters" thread well help you deal with it by getting it out of your head and out into the open. People may not be able to give direct help, but more a sympathetic ear and assurances, but it will lighten the load and burden you are carrying and make it easier that at least someone else knows other than you, and that it won't go around in your head as much, and you'll be able in a while afterwards to enjoy things.

    It can be miserable keeping worries like that stuck in your head, I've been there a few too many times, even in a situation where I felt I had nobody to really talk to because nobody gave me the time of day or were too busy dealing with their own things that I felt I would just be adding to their problems, I did talk to The Samaritans who really listened and were so kind to me. And it really, really helped just to get that stuff out of me.

    If you can't for any reason talk to your friends, parents, family, then do talk to The Samaritans or other organisations like that. It will at the very least take some of the burden off you because you'll be letting what you've kept bottled up, out into the open.


  • #3
    J_E
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    It's important to figure out why you don't enjoy these things... You mentioned 'stuff with my friends' as a problem. What is the issue here? If they're bad friends, you can distance yourself from them. You need to surround yourself with people who make you feel positive and happy about life, and if your friends are part of the problem, it might be time to gently distance yourself from them.

    You are in control of your life, even if it doesn't feel that way. If you need the escapism, go out and try geocaching, drink a coffee and read a book in a strange cafe, discover yourself again.

    Does your college offer a counseling service, by the way?


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for the advice guys. Yes I do ave quite a lot on my plate at the moment. I'm working 31 hours a week and I'm trying to balance that with studying for 5 exams I have in August (Repeat exams becaue I wasted second year being a lazy little ****e). I should have been clearer when I said stuff with my friends, a lot of them are moving away, like my best friend has moved to a different town and a lot of them are going on erasmus trips in September.
    As for talking to people my parents aren't really an option. My friends, yeah there's definitely some there that I could talk to but I know they have their own stuff so I'm not sure I'd want to burden them with that. So something like the Samaritans might be a good idea. My college does offer a counselling service but it's only open from September to end of May


  • #5
    thefeatheredcat
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    The friends that you can talk to probably might be more open to being there for you than you would think. But that said, Samaritans and other organisations are there too.

    Don't be too hard on yourself over repeating exams.... you know how you feel about it, but you don't need to remind yourself to kick yourself down. Think positively about them, it will help focus you and keep you working towards them.

    Talk out your worries though... some of your friends might be in the same boat.. if you feel like it do make contact with an organisation.


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