Am i being stupid?

LegacyUser

Hi there.

Im not happy where i am. I am back living at home, in the middle of country and working a crappy retail job.

So recently there was a change in events where my last two remaining friends are now moving away.This means ill be stuck here by myself.

I decided ill move up too. I cant find work here in my sector here, most of the work for this area is in major cities. I have been trying to find a job and at the moment have got an interview soon for a great position.

I am considering if handing in my notice for work at the end of the month. I must give in a months notice however. I have also been trying to get a transfer to another branch of the store but to no avail, there are no openings.

I am completely miserable where i am, both the place and the job, absolutely miserable. And i dont know how i will cope without my friends either.

So my plan is to move up with or without a job. I have been applying for jobs left right and centre.

I am terrified of not finding a job! Absolutely terrified!

Am i being stupid???

thefeatheredcat

I don't think you're being stupid, but it is a bit of a risk to move without having a job first.

The worst that can happen: you'll move, not find a job as quick as you like, interviews go nowhere, rely and eat into savings, be broke, struggle financially with rent and bills, either end up in a similar job you are in but not in your sector, or end up on the dole, feel under pressure financially so you don't get to meet friends or do stuff you'd like.

The best that can happen: you could get a job in your sector, or get a job in retail as you'd have the experience, and that would give you the ability to look for a job in your sector and things will be grand.

I think you just need to be both realistic and optimistic and prepare yourself for the worst, especially with savings and money if you don't get a job straight away. Move to somewhere affordable on a budget, and keep yourself to a budget and when you have found a job you have room then to expand on it. I think you should also prepare yourself if you don't get a job and can't afford to keep living there... I would advise checking up on the dept of social protection website and inform yourself about applying for jobseekers because there might be a wait time of 9 weeks before it might be applicable if you have left a job and moved. You need that information as a safety net.

GERALD GIRAFFE

GO! GO! GO!! You're not stupid at all!! If you're not happy, then GO be happy!!!!!

Or at least try...

Or don't.

I don't want to influence you. I'm backing down.

Calm has been restored.

And breath...

If you are truly happy to do as you have proposed; then go for it.

If you're a little unsure; take some more time and think about it.

Good luck.

yes there

Would you rather be miserable with a job or the chance to be happy jobless or not. If you opt for the former then yes you are being stupid.

Matteroffact

get the job first and then move.

R.D. aka MR.D

I think that you should move but you should do some planning first.

Do you have savings that you could use for a month? if not, work on that.

Then try to get interviews or take a few trips to the place that you want to work in and see what odd jobs are available. Hand in your CV etc.

I know it's horrible to be at home without your friends. I hastily moved to South America after college and it was an utter failure. I had to stay at home for 2 years and they were terrible but what kept me going was working towards my goal of being financially independent.

I saved (after paying off massive debt) and planned. Now, I never have to live at home ever. i'm in a position to do what I want.

It's fair enough people saying go for it, you shouldn't be unhappy. I agree but plan, plan, plan so you are less likely to fail.

Set yourself a time frame and stick to it e.g by September I'll be in XYZ place.

Rubberchikken

think it through calmly.

ok you hate your job and you'll miss your friends, but it's a lot easier to find a job while employed (so i've heard), so be applying for jobs, save whatever you can and in the meantime, go easy on yourself.

LegacyUser

OP here

Thank you for all your replies.

I know a few people are saying i have got to plan and make sure i have savings etc... Ive been saving for 2 years so i have a big bulk of savings to keep me going.

Im currently on casual signing so i wont be switched to the new rates.

I genuinely cant stand this job. Every time i go in there i just feel like giving up hope altogether.

I just think i cant be there any longer at all. Ive been miserable there for a while even with my friends here.



Im scared but i think i have to do it and move!

Thank you all again for all of your advice. x

GERALD GIRAFFE

Good luck OP! You deserve to be happy.

Deranged96

No risk no reward
Staying where you are is doing nothing for you and there is nothing to keep you there, with no opportunities about you've no hope of happiness.
Take the gamble and move up to a city or wherever you have in mind, a shot at improving your situation is a million times better than wasting your days in a place where getting up in the morning is in itself a job...