Some one give me some opinions please.

burke027

Good afternoon boys and girls
I'm a male and I'm 30 I'm in a great relationship to be married next sept.
I'm hoping some one can basically help me out a bit as I'm trying to sort my head and my feelings out so if u can relate to or understand what I'm saying please don't hesitate to answer.

So when I was younger some stuff happened when I was 8 and 9 my dad was never around and wasn't in my life.the things where horrible which I won't go into then at 15 I finally got to meet my dad who I didn't like one bit with stuff he said he also had 3 other kids younger then me.
I've had a father figure since I've being 2 and my mam and him are married and he is good to me sometimes some times he's hard on me to.
When I was about 22 I was away for a while with work and was taking medication to prevent something and it had horrible side effects and unwanted side effects sometimes I think I still have the effects of it.
Met my first proper girlfriend at that age lived together for years then split and I try ed to end my life stupid I know.
This is when my mam found out about what happened when I was younger attended councilling but didn't find it any good.
I know have a 3 year old boy who I love so much me and his mam are not together but I have him half the week.
The problems I face daily are my moods the tiredness the anger and the anxity and depression. I'm attending councilling again but I don't know what it's doing I seem to be feeling worse all the time. I can't smile I can't be happy I can't enjoy time with my son as I'm always so worked up I really feel like someone with bipolar and I don't kniw what I need to do.
With my job I don't want them knowing how I feel because it will be used again me so I need to see a private gp r something to help me to try get something to make me feel any better.
Does any one have any advice anything at all that the think might help

Thanks for listening and look forward to the responses

Merkin

Counselling can be wonderfully helpful for anxiety and dealing with issues from ones past but medical intervention is often needed for the depression, fatigue and anxiety you describe. Depression is a chemical imbalance after all and while talking is good, sometimes drugs are needed in conjunction with therapy. Are you happy with the GP you attend? Find a good one, write down how you have been feeling and ask for their help. Like I say, counselling and pharmaceutical treatment aren't mutually exclusive so with an effective combination of both you can begin to heal and feel better and love the life you deserve.

burke027

Merkin wrote: »

Counselling can be wonderfully helpful for anxiety and dealing with issues from ones past but medical intervention is often needed for the depression, fatigue and anxiety you describe. Depression is a chemical imbalance after all and while talking is good, sometimes drugs are needed in conjunction with therapy. Are you happy with the GP you attend? Find a good one, write down how you have been feeling and ask for their help. Like I say, counselling and pharmaceutical treatment aren't mutually exclusive so with an effective combination of both you can begin to heal and feel better and love the life you deserve.

My gp is done through work. The doctor has a very bad stance on depression and things like that and would not hesitate to have your position checked and reviewed by a medical review board. So basically she won't help me I need to find a different gp

Merkin

Yes, you definitely need a new GP! Do some research and go and see one privately.

mylefttesticle

You need to find a GP as quick as possible and get referred for counselling it seems like you never really dealt with what happened you as child.

For your own sake and that of your son do it as quickly as possible as you really have to imagine the effect it is having on your relationship with him, a good counselling professional will be able to help you understand and accept what happened you eventually.

Until you do this then do not look to diagnose yourself by googling etc etc as it could just end up confusing you or worse misdiagnosing yourself.

for now Just try and go to bed early and get a good nights sleep, drink plenty of water, go for walks and even try meditation and try and do some light exercise until you get an appointment.


Best of luck and truly hope you get on the mend soon, there is always hope and there is always light.

burke027

mylefttesticle wrote: »

You need to find a GP as quick as possible and get referred for counselling it seems like you never really dealt with what happened you as child.

For your own sake and that of your son do it as quickly as possible as you really have to imagine the effect it is having on your relationship with him, a good counselling professional will be able to help you understand and accept what happened you eventually.

Until you do this then do not look to diagnose yourself by googling etc etc as it could just end up confusing you or worse misdiagnosing yourself.

for now Just try and go to bed early and get a good nights sleep, drink plenty of water, go for walks and even try meditation and try and do some light exercise until you get an appointment.


Best of luck and truly hope you get on the mend soon, there is always hope and there is always light.

Thanks guys as I said I'm attending councilling now but I just don't knowwhat a gp that I've never ever dealt with before can do for me if the can I'm pritty sure they wouldn't be to inclined to give me medication or would they

Rubberchikken

Talking to a different gp would be a good thing.
I cant give any advice about meds as i dont know anything about them, but a good gp would be able to make those decisions with you.