Death Threats

LegacyUser

Hi all,

Bit of a odd one but anyway ill try keep it simple. The father of my partners child is senting me death threats against me and my family and various things like burning out my car,shooting family members etc.

His problem im guessing is im now with his ex girlfriend and me being around his child.

Now ive never met this chap and dont know him. But pretty much chap is a scumbag.

Ive never replied to any his messages and all just sent to be through facebook.

Not quite sure what to do about it or how serious to take the threats. Anyone ever in this situation?

Being going on 6 months now really. Dont want to make the situation worse by going guards but i feel i might have to soon.

Thanks

Tokyo

At risk of pointing out the obvious, this isn't the kind of thing you sit back and think about, or hope it goes away. This man is making continued threats against your physical property, your life, and the lives of your family members. Over an extended period of time. And may very well pose a threat to his child as well, should he decide to try and take the child away from you both. Contact the police immediately, and hand them any recorded evidence of said threats, and let them take care of it.

Zed Bank

Have you come into contact with him in real life or is it just all been through the internet?

Mozzeltoff

If they are through Facebook can't you take a screenshot of the messages on your laptop, print them and then show it to the Gardaí? They may just have a quiet word with him. If he's threatening you through the internet and has been doing so for the last six months and done nothing, he's blowing steam and just been a spineless twat. However best to get the Gardaí to have a few stern words with him.

LegacyUser

Met him in real life yesterday but only walked past him at a event. Which he later sent a message to me again.

Problem is this chap isnt phased by the guards it wouldnt bother him in the slightest. Hence not sure what they could do or if they would just make things worse.

Have screenshot of the messages he has sent me just incase.

Tokyo

They may not do anything initially other than give him a talking to, but more importantly it would get the threats on file, and every reported threat to the police after that would be added to the file. Should you or your partner decide to get a barring order against him if his threats continue, having a it on record that he has a history of threatening behaviour makes it that much easier.

Snake

He'll do nothing by the sound of it.. He sounds like a scumbag who thinks he's more ballsy than what he is..

LegacyUser

GrayFox208 wrote: »

He'll do nothing by the sound of it.. He sounds like a scumbag who thinks he's more ballsy than what he is..

maybe but you cant take that chance

Lou.m

Hello OP.

I had death threats and rape threats over the phone from an abusive ex both after and during the relationship.

He even was stupid enough to leave a message on my mobile. I went with a friend to a garda station and played it for them. Unfortunately they were not useful.

I could not prove it was him.

But he sent me an email also which was deffo from him.

I would say get it all on record and tell as many people as you can. He wants you to feel isolated. So tell everyone and remember ANYTHING on the internet is traceable. Anything by phone is traceable.

Let him know you are not alone and people are on your side not his. And apart from that give him no contact.

Obviously you must know anyone who is sad enough to harass someone like this is miserable and scummy it's their issue.

I would let the guards know and try and keep it out of your life.

Snake

You could try getting a few mates to tell him to back off? Like the poster above said if he knows you've got friends to back you up he'll be more likely to leave you alone

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As Mike said, contact the guards and have it on record. its a criminal offence to threaten someone and they take these things very seriously,

Lux23

If this guy is a criminal type then I can understand that the Guards might not help the situation. I think I would be wary of getting them involved in this case.

Lou.m

GrayFox208 wrote: »

You could try getting a few mates to tell him to back off? Like the poster above said if he knows you've got friends to back you up he'll be more likely to leave you alone

Don't do this ...he can use it against you and your gf with the guards.

tawnyowl

GrayFox208 wrote: »

You could try getting a few mates to tell him to back off? Like the poster above said if he knows you've got friends to back you up he'll be more likely to leave you alone

That could backfire very easily - the guy making the treats could make it look like the OP is threatening him.

Lou.m

tawnyowl wrote: »

That could backfire very easily - the guy making the treats could make it look like the OP is threatening him.

Agreed and it is dangerous and will be distressing to the GF and child. It is NOT a good idea.

blatantrereg

Discuss it with the guards.

Keeping quiet about it is a bit like being an accomplice in your own harrassment.

You can also get his number blocked if you contact your provider.

It is ongoing harrassment. I know about two cases of harrassment being brought to the guards. In one instance they attempted to catch and arrest the person concerned. In the other they said that there wasn't enough to arrest them. In that case they suggested a restraining order and said they could arrest the people concerned if it was broken. I'd imagine your case would be prosecutable right now given that it includes death threats.

Don't underplay the distress this is causing you if you do speak to someone about it.

eviltwin

It might be worth getting a Safety or Protection order but you're girlfriend will have to apply. She is legally entitled to apply as they have a child. The threats may be specific to you but I would imagine she can still apply as you are a couple.