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I miss him; totally cut off

  • 04-07-2014 9:08pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    My boyfriend of six months broke it off last month over text. He said he cant be in a relationship as he needs to sort himself out. It came out of the blue and i never heard from him again. (We dont have mutual friends) I do know hes fine so no concerns there.

    Im left feeling so angry at him.

    I got no explanation just complete cut off. Any guys out there that can shed some light? Will he come back? Why the cut off?

    Has anyone else had this experience?


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  • #2
    Stavro Mueller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,673 ✭✭✭Stavro Mueller


    I see your boyfriend broke up with you by text. Now that's a cowardly thing to do - he didn't even have the courtesy to say it to your face. He just sent the text and ran for the hills. You'll not be hearing from him again. It also shows how much he thought of you and the relationship you had if that's how he ended things.

    As to why he broke up, who knows? The "I can't be in a relationship" line should have "with you" tacked onto the end because that's what it actually translates into. If he met someone else who ticked the right boxes, all the reservations he has about being with you would magically disappear.

    If you look through any of the break-up threads in here, the one thing that everyone says again and again is that cutting contact is the only way for anyone to get over a split. Anything less than radio silence can give people false hope and stop them moving on. I doubt he's cutting contact for your benefit but it is better for you that you're not hearing from him.


  • #3
    bnagrrl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 996 ✭✭✭bnagrrl


    Hi OP

    My ex did this to me. Everything was great between us, we'd been away for a weekend when the topic of our future together came up. Then a few days after we got home he text me, while I was in work and said pretty much the same as your ex did. To say I was shocked and devastated is an understatement.

    That was in February this year. To this day he has never met me face to face it tell my why we split and has cut all contact with me. We have some mutual friends so I've had to miss a few events in case I see him as I'm not sure how I would react. I think I would be shell shocked to see him now.

    Anyway about a month ago I realised I could keep wasting my time hoping he'd have the decency to explain to me face to face or even get back together... Or I could move on with my life and meet someone who actually wanted to be with me and treat me well. I'm not gonna lie it's taken a lot it get to get I this point and I do have the occasional moment where I think of him and my heart aches. But those moments are becoming less frequent.

    Be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to hurt and grieve for the loss... And then take positive steps to move on. Distract yourself, be it with socialising or hobbies etc. And whatever you do, do not contact him no matter what. You will only set yourself back.

    Best of luck x


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