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Would you leave an 18 year old with free access to the house with out supervision while you go on holiday.

Off course the preserved wisdom is depends on the 18 year old.

I hear too many stories of party's that went wrong from other parents, and promises to cut the grass, keep the house spotless, water the plants that never materialised.

A relative of mine made her son live in a sort of shed in he garden when she was on holiday it had a loo, electricity, a kettle and couch to sleep on that all he had to go to his granny's for a shower and food.


One teenage girl did the usual think of asking few friends over thinking it would be alright and of course friends said can I bring a friend and soon It was a party,... but she had enough sense to go next door when it was getting our of hand and ask for help the man next did come in and turf them all out before too much damage was done.

Buzz Killington the third

Is this anything to do with the thread in personal issues about the 18yr old that's being shipped off to her aunts while her parents go away?

Mr. Incognito

I think you are watching too many crap American movies.

And your relative is a moron. A child is for life, not just for Christmas.

Irishcrx

Depends on the maturity of the 18 year old , I was left on my own many a time, I had a few people around for drinks they all will but everything was cleaned up and the house was looked after and it generally a small affair with close friends nothing hollywood about it.

I woulnd't worry too much tbh.

The_Pretender

It really depends on the teen. You'll probably have a fair idea of whether they're too wild to be left alone.

Maximus Alexander

Completely depends on the 18 year old, but 99% of the time I'd say yes.

Sure I was left on my own with a free house at 16, maybe younger and there wasn't a bother on me.

My little brother on the other hand is 19, and I wouldn't leave him to boil the kettle.

caustic 1

Mine have never given me reason not to trust them, however that's not to say I would give them free reign. It's an opportunity not given to them before and I know my 18 yr old thinks he can handle any situation that arises, so I know he would say sure it's only a few friends. Yeah sure it is. Then when all goes wrong it would be, it wasn't my fault I only invited so and so over but they brought her and him etc.
I wouldn't do it. Baby steps, night away, then weekend etc, all goes well then try it. Good luck.

Awkward Badger

Well its better than leaving them in a shed in the garden like a fcuking dog anyway.

Slicemeister

Just install a few video cameras in the house. A tannoy at the front door with a few instructions like "where the f*** do you think you're going?", "get that lawn cut ya pleb", "get off your arse and do the dishes". Pre-record them and play them at random intervals just to keep her on her tippy toes.

biko

If my kids are anything like I was at that age there is no way I'd leave them alone over a weekend.

UCDVet

Depends on the child. There are some 40 year-olds that should be trusted with an empty house.

Sadderday

well, I was a good teenager and did have two friends over or the BF over when the folks were away at 18 and there wasn't a bother but I know the folks had an aunt ring me and drop over to see if I was alright...

On the other hand, when my OH was a teenager he did the usual thing of having a party that got out of hand and caused damage and all so probably depends on teen.

I reckon if the teen has a GF or fell on the go, its not too bad, leave a pack of condoms there they be glad of the free gaff and can just ride in peace

Mine are grown up but when they were teenagers one was the type you could leave at 14 and one was the type that as soon as you were out the door the friends were over for a party, so I treated accordantly, but the fury at the perceived unfairness was funny to behold. As far as I am conserned precede with caution and trust has to be earned, parent know full well what their children are like.

Legs.Eleven

18 is not 14. I would expect a party to happen but I'd also expect them to have enough cop on and maturity to tidy up after at that age.


I've seen plenty of damage done to houses/flats at parties in my adulthood as well.

Akrasia

A few of the 18 year olds I know would be in exactly the same position as you left them when you come back a week later. On the couch playing xbox.

Main worry about leaving them on their own would be the risk of deep vein thrombosis

Other 18 year olds I know would definitely have a massive party.

If the teenager has regular facebook updates about drinking, don't trust them. If they have a xbox live gamerscore in 6 digits, the house is probably safe but the kid might develop bed sores.

dylano_k

I think the kids are calling it "Grinding The Grass" these days.