Coaching gaa u 8 team with my own child being involved

Hb12

I coach gaa u8 team and my son is one of players , prob is he is being bold and distruptive during coaching during the mini game the other coach who was referee had to put him to the side line for 5 mins when he was having a tantrum during the game would like to get some advice on how to deal with prob thanks

ifah

Treat him like any other child you're coaching. There should be no difference.

savannahkat

The problem is you have to take him home with you while you can leave the other players there. If you carry the punishment home you will alienate him forever from the game. Long term the only solution is to talk to him like you would to an adult while at the same time taking twice the effort explaining to him why his behavior is unacceptable. You cant explain things enough to a child is a very old adage as is "praise a child and they will follow you anywhere." You did not say if you would be the trainer if your son was not involved. If you would then you just have to be ready to tell him not to attend if all else fails if he cant behave, and if you would not be involved if he was not, then you have to be prepared to leave with him.

nice_guy80

split them up into two groups/teams for training and blitzes
let a different coach look after the other group with your child.
simple as

Hb12

Thanks for that,I was thinking of leaving him at home while I go ahead and go into coaching for one week for last week incident , my child like a lot of others has a win win all games and get it hard to deal with defeat at home on the lawn also a win come first attitude,at school he very well behaved and does what he told and never a prob I'd like to try
And help him control temper/anger

nice_guy80

Hb12 wrote: »

Thanks for that,I was thinking of leaving him at home while I go ahead and go into coaching for one week for last week incident , my child like a lot of others has a win win all games and get it hard to deal with defeat at home on the lawn also a win come first attitude,at school he very well behaved and does what he told and never a prob I'd like to try
And help him control temper/anger

never leave him at home. he will resent being left and won't understand why.
agree a simple punishment like 5 minute time out, or missing the game at the end of a session if the behaviour continues.

Lex Luthor

nice_guy80 wrote: »

split them up into two groups/teams for training and blitzes
let a different coach look after the other group with your child.
simple as

I would agree with this post...coached for the past 6yrs with my 2 lads in the teams
If thats not possible, just treat him like other players, but most likely acting up because he thinks he can cos dad is the coach
Also, a lot of the times it can be that they are not kept busy enough during the sessions.
What we used to do and this was with any kid, not just our own was to remove a couple of mins from the game at the end for every time they misbehave and they just have to stand and watch. They soon get the idea that messing isnt its all cracked up to be when they are missing out on the game at the end of training

What was the reason for his tantrum? Did you ask him and get an explanation? Usually I have seen it can be they are not getting the ball enough or players dont get passed to and they start throwing tantrums, especially at this age.
Try to bias the teams that all players get equal time...its good to hear you are playing mini games, far too often at this age I see so called mini matches with 15v15 just because the coaches cant be bothered to set up another small pitch

Hb12

Lex Luthor wrote: »

I would agree with this post...coached for the past 6yrs with my 2 lads in the teams
If thats not possible, just treat him like other players, but most likely acting up because he thinks he can cos dad is the coach
Also, a lot of the times it can be that they are not kept busy enough during the sessions.
What we used to do and this was with any kid, not just our own was to remove a couple of mins from the game at the end for every time they misbehave and they just have to stand and watch. They soon get the idea that messing isnt its all cracked up to be when they are missing out on the game at the end of training

What was the reason for his tantrum? Did you ask him and get an explanation? Usually I have seen it can be they are not getting the ball enough or players dont get passed to and they start throwing tantrums, especially at this age.
Try to bias the teams that all players get equal time...its good to hear you are playing mini games, far too often at this age I see so called mini matches with 15v15 just because the coaches cant be bothered to set up another small pitch

Thanks some great ideas there 5 min time out good idea I may get someone else to explain to kids that this behaviour is not good,instead of it coming from myself sometimes a different voice can b good

Hb12

nice_guy80 wrote: »

never leave him at home. he will resent being left and won't understand why.
agree a simple punishment like 5 minute time out, or missing the game at the end of a session if the behaviour continues.

I think that the way to go ta

Twiceasnice97

five minutes is very long for small children when training is going on.

firstly i have some rules based around the whistle.
when the whistle blows
1 everyone stops moving
2 everyone stops talking
3 everyone listens to the coach.

i also have a red square and when a child needs discipline they are sent to the square for a count of ten and they can then come back.
the count goes as follows
`one i must pay attention , two i must pay attention three i must pay attention
or
one i must keep my right hand on top two i must keep my right hand on top, three etc
or
one i can`t use bad words two i can`t use bad words etc

these are very small kids with very low attention spans and you don`t want to discourage them much

it works fairly well for me

ninty99

Quick question, what would you do when you have under 8's who are eight that have been playing since they have been 6 and what they think your drill you did for them is too easy for them eventhough you got it from the fun do pack for under 8's! like I'm not a parent and the child parent is a coach. tbh the children wouldnt be as adequate as they think in some of the core skills of hurlin like if they play a match they wouldn't be strong enough.

Twiceasnice97

ninty99 wrote: »

Quick question, what would you do when you have under 8's who are eight that have been playing since they have been 6 and what they think your drill you did for them is too easy for them eventhough you got it from the fun do pack for under 8's! like I'm not a parent and the child parent is a coach. tbh the children wouldnt be as adequate as they think in some of the core skills of hurlin like if they play a match they wouldn't be strong enough.

you do whatever you m decide to do and you judge how it goes based on the kids reaction. Small children go to school they are used to doing what they are told in class. they are testing the boundarys
i always try to start training with some training games that involve a lot of running to knock the sass out of them

the best at this is build a square about 20ms square or so. build another square about 1m square about 5ms away from the orgininal.

spilt the children in two. one group get bibs hanging from the back of the shorts the other has no bib.
non bibs chase bibs. when you get a bib you put it in your shorts as a tail and then you are chased. when you lose a bib you have to run to the small square and then come back in as a chaser.
five minutes of that and there wont be a peep out of them