Am I Right To Feel This Way

LegacyUser

Ok a brief background with my boyfriend nearly 5 months now. He is working 80 miles away and we are both working so we only see each other when he has a few days off to spend it with me. We moved in together after 3 months being together to have our own space and stuff as living with our parents was putting a serious strain on our relationship and was making us both unhappy. Let me just say when we moved in we complimented each other living together, things were going great.

Fast forward to two weeks ago, I got really sick and had to move back into my parents house as he would not be around incase anything would happen me. Went to the Doctor and was told to stay in parents place until I am a 100% well to go back to my own place.

That's all fine. He has two days off and came home for a friends uncles funeral and said he'd see me after. Funeral was at 11am and I didnt hear from him until about 5.30pm, when he rang to say he would call into me in a few hours actually didn't arrive until 10.30pm. That night when he was leaving to go home to his parents place he swore he'd spend the next day with me. Rang that morning to say it would be 6pm before he could do anything and we'd watch a dvd or something in our own place to have time together. Plans changed yes we met a 6pm but he went off to do work with a neighbour and do this and that, while i was stuck in his car.

The next day he left to go back to work 80 miles away and as he was rushing forgot his bag and stuff which he needs as he will be going on a stag. So I packed his bag and dropped it up to him for the stag the day after my birthday and as I thought he was not starting work till 2pm that day we might get some time together but his phone was constantly ringing and I didnt get much of his time.

Then yesterday really took the biscuit he was working at 6am in the morning and I didnt hear from him for over 12 hours even though I texted him and rang him he said he was too busy and when I finally got talking to him I said to him about all this he said he had a hard enough day already without this on top of it.

This guy says he loves me and I do believe it but I just feel Im being put on the long finger and second best and I dont know what to do about it. He's 35 and I'm 24. Has anyone ever been in a situation like this. Sorry for the long post.

Barely There

You sound really high-maintenance and resentful of the fact that your bf spends any time away from you..
I've no doubt you're completely wreaking his head.

Re-evaluate your life and develop some interests of your own so you don't feel that you need to have your bf constantly providing you with entertainment.

Otherwise I suspect it won't be long until he gets tired of your nagging and dumps you.

Am I Right To Feel This Way wrote: »

he was working at 6am in the morning and I didnt hear from him for over 12 hours even though I texted him and rang him he said he was too busy and when I finally got talking to him I said to him about all this he said he had a hard enough day already without this on top of it.

The poor fecker.

You should apologise for how you've been acting.

retro:electro

I'm sorry but I fail to see the magnitude of your problem. You say the few days you were sick for he was a funeral, yet you are mad at him for not answering your every text and pandering to your every need; are you for real? He was at a funeral! I wouldn't be surprised if that incident and your complete selfishness has resulted in him needing space from you and hence the twelve hour hiatus from you yesterday. Are you usually this needy with him? I honestly cannot believe some of what I have just read.

LegacyUser

Why are you's living so far away from his job? Maybe if he didnt have to travel 80 miles to work everyday then it wouldnt be as bad!

You're not with each other long, this set up is already starting to irritate you and you are now onto him unhappy about it all. That will no doubt start to irritate him!

ManOfMystery

anna080 wrote: »

I'm sorry but I fail to see the magnitude of your problem. You say the few days you were sick for he was at his uncles funeral, yet you are mad at him for not answering your every text and pandering to your every need; are you for real? He was at a family funeral! I wouldn't be surprised if that incident and your complete selfishness has resulted in him needing space from you and hence the twelve hour hiatus from you yesterday. I mean yes you were sick but his uncle had died! Are you usually this needy with him? I honestly cannot believe some of what I have just read.

It was a friend's uncle.

LegacyUser

He doesn't travel 80 miles a day he stays up where he works in rented accommodation. What bugs me I guess is his time keeping. I dunno after writing it, it seems silly as I have apologized to him. I guess just being so far away and only seeing each other for an hour here or there is a bit annoying

retro:electro

ManOfMystery wrote: »

It was a friend's uncle.

I have edited my post. Her behaviour is still unacceptable either way.