**RELATIONSHIP ISSUES CHARTER. READ BEFORE POSTING** > 14-Sep-2022

LegacyUser

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TL, DR Version:

- Relationship Issues is an advice forum. Posters are required to offer advice or opinion to the OP in their replies.

- Replies are expected to be mature, civil and well phrased. Remember you are speaking to a real person who has posted a problem that is impacting them.

- Off topic and unhelpful behaviour will result in warnings up to and including forum bans. Ban lengths are accumulative. Posters have been permanently banned from the Personal Issues forum.

- Suggesting violence or advising a poster to break the law as a problem solver will result in an instant forum ban.

- Most of all, if you have nothing relevant to add to the topic, please refrain from posting anything at all.

- Not having read the rules of this forum is not an excuse.

Current Relationship Issues Moderators
@HildaOgdenx
@Big Bag of Chips
@Hannibal_Smith
@shesty

Current Category Mods.
@Big Bag of Chips
@[Deleted User]
@Dizzyblonde
@Toots

Welcome to The Relationship Issues Forum.

The site rules apply as does the general poster code of conduct.
https://www.boards.ie/content/terms?site=desktop

This forum is for relationship issues. All personal issues should be posted in the Personal Issues forum.

If a matter or a subject does not impact you personally then please do not post in Relationship Issues. There are many other forums on Boards.ie where your discussion would be more suited.

No one true way.
No one on this forum has the right to tell someone they are not in a relationship due that relationship not being the same as their own, in terms of agreements between adults
of what ever number or what ever gender.


GUIDELINES
REPLYING TO THREADS IN THE RELATIONSHIP ISSUES FORUM

Relationship Issues is an advice forum. We ask that posters offer advice to the OP when posting.

You only need to start one thread - starting numerous threads over a short period of time will be considered attention whoring and they will be closed.

Reply to threads in a civil and well phrased manner, remember being a Relationship Issues board the contents of some threads may be very close to people's hearts. Any advice given should be mature, constructive and non-abusive. Opinions are welcome. Ridicule and nastiness are not.

Txtspk is not permitted on this forum, posts which are too hard to read will be deleted.

Think carefully about what you're posting, remember it is the interweb after all and you may not be as anonymous as you think.

There is zero tolerance for muppetry here. Trolling, point scoring, bullying, humiliating or belittling another poster will result in cards up to and including a permaban from the forum.

Do not post links to/embed videos, they are banned in this forum.

Polls are not allowed as they are useless to a personal issue.

Do NOT link to / start threads on PI/RI threads on other forums. This will result in a ban from PI/RI

Off topic posts and unhelpful posts will not be tolerated.

Discussion of Pick-Up-Artists (PUA) methods and techniques are not allowed on this forum. Any links to, or naming of individuals claiming to improve a guy's chances with women (Pick-Up Artists), whether free or requiring payment, will be removed immediately as it is impossible for the mods to verify how legitimate these people are. Persistent breaches of this rule will result in an infraction and/or ban.

Suggesting violence or advising a poster to break the law as a problem solver will result in an instant forum ban.

Dragging up old threads is a no no and we will close them.

Do not ask for updates/to be kept updated - this prevents threads turning into blogs or soap operas for others amusement and avoids putting pressure on the original poster to return to the thread.

It is not the done thing on the PI or RI forums to ask an OP to pm/msn/skype/email you. This is done for two reasons:

1. To protect those posting on the internet when they may be in a vulnerable state from trolls and other possible unsavory people. Threads on PI/RI are monitored by the mods so that bad and dangerous advice is not permitted.

2. To protect posters from trolls and unsavory people who pose as a person needing help and advice. This stops posters from ending up locked in to a pm exchange with someone they can not help.

Any posts requesting/offering a PM will be summarily deleted and action taken against the poster. Repeat offenders will be notified to the Admin team, with a possible siteban as punishment.

Should you receive a PM requesting or offering more information/services/private help, please report the post to the Personal Issues Moderator Team (listed at the top of this post).


Does your thread belong here or will you get a more suitable reply in another forum?

Other forums you may find better suited:

Work Problems
State Benefits
Accommodation and Property.

Adoption
Parenting (subforums: Teens and Pre-Teens, Newborn & Toddlers, Pregnant, Trying to Conceive)

Dental Issues
Long Term Illness
Accessibility & Mobility & Disability

The Gentleman's Club
The Ladies' Lounge
Sex & Sexuality

Fitness
Nutrition & Diet


Posting Unregistered

The option was always available to post unregistered in PI/RI. This is currently not available. As a work around a poster is allowed set up 1 'throw away' account to seek advice on a issue that they might not like linked to their regular username.

Abuse of this feature, creating multiple accounts etc will result in a ban from the forum.


The Moderators

Any problems with the moderators then feel free to PM us. If you are still unhappy then start a thread in The Held Desk
https://www.boards.ie/categories/help-desk

If you wish to dispute an infraction or ban then please follow the steps outlined in The Dispute Resolution Forum
https://www.boards.ie/categories/dispute-resolution

Questioning a mod action on thread in the Personal Issues forum is considered off topic and unhelpful posting and may result in a ban from the forum.


Help by reporting posts

Reporting posts which break the rules of the forum means that the mods will see them sooner and take action on them. This is very helpful as the forum can be very busy at times and moderators can't always see every post.

At the moment The Reported Posts feature isn't working very well, so the Personal Issues moderators are happy to accept PMs from users highlighting problem posts.

If there is a general attitude from someone you've a problem with and it's not just a single post then PM/email a moderator with the details and we will look into it. If you have an issues with a post or a thread do not post "I think this is a troll" as it will be considered off topic posting. Report the post. It could be well that a thread that started out as an attempt to troll could well help people out there struggling with a similar issues and the thread maybe helpful to them now or if they search boards.

Final reminder

- Relationship Issues is an advice forum. Posters are required to offer advice or opinion to the OP in their replies.

- Replies are expected to be mature, civil and well phrased. Remember you are speaking to a real person who has posted a problem that is impacting them.

- Off topic and unhelpful behaviour will result in warnings up to and including forum bans. Ban lengths are accumulative. Posters have been permanently banned from the Personal Issues forum.

- Generalisations and generic sweeping statements are not helpful to an OP and posters will be pulled up on it.

- Most of all, if you have nothing relevant to add to the topic, please refrain from posting anything at all.

- Not having read the rules of this forum is not an excuse.

LegacyUser

USEFUL LINKS & SERVICES

Suicide

1Life Suicide Prevention Helpline - (1800 247 100) - service for anybody who may be feeling suicidal, in crisis or worried about a loved one or friend.

• Freephone Helpline, available 24 hours every day - 1800 247 100
• By text message - Text the word HELP to 51444

turn2me.org - online mental health community providing peer and professional support to people in distress. Boards.ie also has a registered representative contactable at turn2me.org

Pieta House - Suicide and Self Harm Crisis Centre, providing services for those who are in suicidal distress and those who engage in self-harm. Contact information for your local Pieta House can be found here.

National Office for Suicide Prevention - information and signposting resource regarding suicide in Ireland. NOSP is not a crisis support service.



Finding a Counsellor/Therapist/Psychologist

The Psychology forum has an excellent sticky thread on How to find a Counsellor/Therapist/Psychologist which can be found here.



Depression / Mental Health

Samaritans Ireland - (116 123) - 24 hour support organisation for anybody going through a difficult period of their life. You can also contact your local branch of Samaritans.

GROW - (1890 474 474) - mental health organisation which helps people who have suffered, or are suffering, from mental health problems. Grow also hold regular meetings throughout Ireland.

GROW Young Adult - resources specifically to help the needs of young adults.

Aware - (1890 303 302) - service for people who experience depression and concerned family and friends of those suffering from depression.

Shine - national organisation dedicated to upholding the rights and addressing the needs of all those affected by mental ill health.

Pieta House - Suicide and Self Harm Crisis Centre, providing services for those who are in suicidal distress and those who engage in self-harm. Contact information for your local Pieta House can be found here.

Mental Health Ireland - Information Service on issues relating to mental health and mental illness.

IACP - Irish Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy. Provides services to help you to find a therapist in your area.

(help for those under 18 years of age)

ReachOut - services aimed towards providing mental health information to help young people get through tough times.

Childline Ireland - (1800 66 66 66) - free and confidential support organisation for anybody under 18. They provide telephone, SMS and online chat services with those who can help.

Teenline - (1800 83 33 64) - freephone helpline for young adults.



Abuse

Women's Aid - (1800 341 900) - provides support services and information to women experiencing abuse from their partners.

Amen - (046 902 3718) - confidential helpline and support service for male victims of domestic abuse.

ISPCC - Irish charity that advocates for children's rights and provides services for children in need.

One in Four - support service for men and women who have experienced sexual violence, many of them during childhood.



Self Harm

Pieta House - Suicide and Self Harm Crisis Centre, providing services for those who are in suicidal distress and those who engage in self-harm. Contact information for your local Pieta House can be found here.

Bodywhys - (1890 200 444) - national voluntary organisation supporting people affected by eating disorders.



Marital Breakdown / Family law / Family Support

Relationships Ireland - Relationship and Marriage Counselling Services.

One Family - Organisation for people parenting alone.

Solo - Support for people parenting alone.

Treoir - Information for Unmarried Parents.

Parentline - (1890 927277 or (01) 873 3500) - Confidential helpline for parents and guardians.

AIM Family Services - Family services group offering counseling, crisis management & more.

(help for those under 18 years of age)

Childline Ireland - (1800 66 66 66) - free and confidential support organisation for anybody under 18. They provide telephone, SMS and online chat services with those who can help.

Teenline - (1800 83 33 64) - freephone helpline for young adults.



Rape / Sexual Assault

Rape Crisis Network Ireland - Representative Body for Rape Crisis Centres across Ireland.

Rape Crisis Help - (1800 77 88 88) - helpline/information about the professional support and the choices available to survivors of sexual violence. Also provides the facility to find a Rape Crisis Centre in your locality.



Bereavement

Bereavement Ireland[/B] - support information for the recently bereaved.

Barnardos Children’s Bereavement Service - support service for children and young people who have lost someone close to them through death.



Miscarriage / Sudden Infant Death

The Miscarriage Association of Ireland - support website for women and men who themselves have been through miscarriages.

ISIDA - (1850 391 391) - Irish Sudden Infant Death Association; support service for families bereaved by the sudden unexpected death of an infant or young child.



Contraception / m.a.p. / Crises Pregnancy

Positive Options - service to encourage those experiencing crisis pregnancy to talk to a State-funded counsellor for free counselling.

The Irish Family Planning Association - provides sexual health, family planning, pregnancy counselling and training services.

The Well Woman Centre - family planning advice and services.

BPAS - British Pregnancy Advisory Service; provides help to women with an unplanned pregnancy, or a pregnancy they choose not to continue with.



Addiction

Alcoholics Anonymous

Al-Anon Ireland - information about Al-anon and Alateen in the Republic of Ireland.

Gamblers Anonymous

Narcotics Anonymous



Money Issues

Money Advice and Budgeting Service (MABS) - (0761 07 2000) - free, confidential service for people in debt, or in danger of getting into debt, in Ireland.



Housing

Simon Community - organisation that provides homeless support services and emergency accommodation to help prevent homelessness.

Focus Ireland - nonprofit organisation that provides services for homeless people.

Threshold - registered charity whose aim is to secure a right to housing, particularly for households experiencing the problems of poverty and exclusion. They provide comprehensive advice and information on your rights and options as a tenant.



Body Issues / Eating Disorders

Overeaters Anonymous

Bodywhys - (1890 200 444) - national voluntary organisation supporting people affected by eating disorders.