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Confidence is gone way down

  • 21-06-2014 11:49am
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    LegacyUser
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    Since this exact time last year my confidence and esteem seem to have taken a nose-dive,

    last summer i was on a J1 in usa and i was in flying form !! i was happy with the way i looked, living with friends, making lots of new friends, i went out of my way to chat to people id never met, i had sun, sea, partying, i was basically living the life

    after the J1, i was the person in my group of friends who had the balls to chat to the girl every lad was eyeing up

    then after i returned to college it started to go down hill.. most of the friends i made had moved home/abroad and were working, i couldn't afford a place of my own so i lived at home on my own with my (boring) parents, i ran into money difficulties trying to pay fees and live the college lifestyle.

    usually the friends i make are popular, confident people but it takes a lot of time for me to integrate into a group of new people. other people would regard me as "quiet" "extremely laid back" and i "think a lot"

    I started to lose confidence with the way i interact with people, my motivation to make friends, i started questioning my own abilities to seem like an interesting person. the commuting and college work made me (think) id looked run down and tired so i felt paranoid about my looks and attitude and so my confidence and esteem was affected

    I went months without any interaction with women, whether it be in nightclubs or texting etc. id become the guy in my group of friends who was least likely to have the stones to chat up the girl everyone was eyeing up.

    i don't know how do i get myself back to that level where i was happy with everything!

    another way to say it is i feel like my balls have fallen off and i cant grow a pair to do things i want to do. Also i kind of have the feeling that if i could sort out my problem (lack) of women that i would be 100% times better but i cant seem to get started


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