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Am I being anti-social?

  • 20-06-2014 5:50pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi,

    I would just like a bit of advice on this relatively minor issue but one that annoys me. Anyway, I am in my first post-college job for the last few months. I'm a relatively shy guy and am definetely seen as quiet compared to the rest of the guys in work, although I do talk to around 3 of them a bit. But for the most part, everyone else is more extroverted and I kinda get the impression that some of them think i'm weird.

    Anyway, today I passed up the chance to go for after work pints as I had already made plans with my friends that I know since school and would of felt bad for not showing up just to go on the lash with work colleagues. But strangely I feel really bad having decided not to go. The thing that is going through my head is the fact that i'm already seen as shy/quiet and I'm passing up on social invitations so the opinions of the people in work will be reinforced even more.

    Am I overthinking this and being too harsh on myself? I can be pretty self-critical and have went out a couple of times with work colleagues in the past. The thing is I just prefer the company of friends who I grew up with and I don't like to plans on people. Should I be taking every opportunity to socialize with colleagues that comes my way? Cheers for any thoughts.


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  • #2
    Alf. A. Male
    Closed Accounts Posts: 740 ✭✭✭Alf. A. Male


    Don't sweat this kind of thing. Go along once in a while, but it's not a requirement. If being thought of as quiet bothers you, make a little more effort in the office, but don't force it, just a little more chat will do.

    And this may seem like a small thing, but don't go labelling yourself as anti-social, not least because you mean unsociable and they are very different things. Overall though, don't buy yourself a label, you're allowed be yourself and socialise where you want.


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