Can I wear a white dress to a wedding???

stop animal cruelty

Going to a wedding in July, just to the afters, as I don't really know the couple (lm my bf's plus guest)

Anyway I'v fallen in love with this dress and would love to wear it!!!

Can it be done?? I'v always heard you shouldn't but because I love it so much I'm thinking feck it, haven't come across a dress I have loved as much as this one.....

whiteandlight

I think you already know the answer. Its just not the done thing, whether you know the couple that well or not. Its the wedding couples special day, there are loads of other colours to wear.

Would they not have that dress in another colour

IrishAlice

I wouldn't anyway that's for sure. It's tradition that the bride is the only one wearing white.

It's just one night so it would be better to get the dress in a different colour or go for another dress.

Dancor

Don't

Teach30

Ur only going to the afters I think it's fine. Ur not friends with the bride so why should you really be bothered. Plus it seems like there is some purple in it so it's not completely white. See what your boyfriend thinks, if he is a good friend of the couple he might not want people talking...

ElleEm

I would go with no. It doesn't matter who you know or full day guest or afters, it is not okay.

ElleEm

I would go with no. It doesn't matter who you know or full day guest or afters, it is not okay.

December2012

No. There are more dresses in the world.

Just don't.

Writergirl24

ooooh don't! I've been to a couple of weddings recently and a few of the guests wore white dresses similar to that one (which is gorgeous btw) but they simply looked out of place. Overheard grumblings from some other guests about the white wearing too.
But really, it's only one day, and it's a very special day for the couple who are getting married, I think it's best if you choose another colour.

retro:electro

I wouldn't do it if I were you. Some people may think it's okay but I can guarantee you there will be people there talking about you saying "the cheek of yer one turning up in a white guna!"
There are a million other colours out there and that dress would look just as nice and elegant in black if it's in stock?
You are the bfs guest so you don't want to be talked about for the wrong reasons...

Barely There

anna080 wrote: »

Some people may think it's okay but I can guarantee you there will be people there talking about you saying "the cheek of yer one turning up in a white guna!"

OP - I wouldn't give 2 sh;ts about what people like that think

Babooshka

Barely There wrote: »

OP - I wouldn't give 2 sh;ts about what people like that think

If you're that ballsy / selfish, that's fine...but why the need to make a point that you're allowed to wear white on someone else's big day? It just sounds a bit childish ...OP it's one day, wear a lovely blue dress or something, unless you are superhuman and nothing anyone says will affect you, because they will say stuff if you show up in white to someone's wedding.

TheNibbler

Definitely not!

greenbicycle

I also don't think you should wear white.

For some reason in my head it seems even worse that you are a "plus one" guest who don't really know the couple and you may turn up in white, I cant say what feeling it gives me, almost like it is extremely disrespectful as a guest.

It is a really lovely dress though so you should still get it for other occasions!

Tasden

Same as what others have said, I wouldn't.

Not because I'd be worried about people talking but more that it looks a bit disrespectful or something to the bride when its a well known tradition that you don't wear white to someone else's wedding.

ballsymchugh

Babooshka wrote: »

If you're that ballsy / selfish, that's fine...but why the need to make a point that you're allowed to wear white on someone else's big day? It just sounds a bit childish ...OP it's one day, wear a lovely blue dress or something, unless you are superhuman and nothing anyone says will affect you, because they will say stuff if you show up in white to someone's wedding.

can i just say, i've no intention of wearing a dress anyway!

silly

NO way.
The fact that you dont know the bride does not matter - have a bit of respect.

smcgiff

The amount of times this gets posted... :rolleyes::pac:

Wimmins be cray cray.

Computer says No!

Writergirl24

smcgiff, white is in fashion!!! tis a valid question! :-)

stop animal cruelty

ok.......lm defo not gonna wear it or white!! :pac:

I get yer points that it would look a bit cheeky if l did turn up on it and not really know the bride......

the search shall continue!

Maximus Alexander

Having been to a handful of weddings in the last 18 months, there's nearly always one girl who turns up wearing white.

Nobody is going to stop you at the door and tell you to get out, but most of the people there will immediately judge you, think you're a dick, and say nasty things about you when you're out of earshot. You could also potentially mildly upset the bride.

It's up to you to decided if you care about that. I'd be asking myself though, what's the point of wearing something that you think makes you look good, if it's actually making you look bad.

accountant101

Put yourself in Bride's position would you like if someone wore white to your wedding???

People will always think you are trying to outshine the bride!!

smcgiff

Writergirl24 wrote: »

smcgiff, white is in fashion!!! tis a valid question! :-)

White is the new black. I get it, and white has been the fashion at weddings for a long long time.... for the bride.

smcgiff

stop animal cruelty wrote: »

ok.......lm defo not gonna wear it or white!! :pac:

I get yer points that it would look a bit cheeky if l did turn up on it and not really know the bride......

the search shall continue!

It is a lovely dress though, any other colours?

I had a look on the site, there doesn't seem to be

stop animal cruelty

smcgiff wrote: »

It is a lovely dress though, any other colours?

nope its fab in white....l'd love to get it but its more of an occassion wear than sat night out for me

therealme

Saw a picture of a bride and her new sister in law recently - we all said the sister in law must hate the bride as she wore a cream dress.

Was very hard for me to tell who was who (don't know them both) given the colours.

I think it's a definite NO!

smcgiff

stop animal cruelty wrote: »

nope its fab in white....l'd love to get it but its more of an occassion wear than sat night out for me

Could always wash it with a baby pink towel

Lia_lia

accountant101 wrote: »

Put yourself in Bride's position would you like if someone wore white to your wedding???

People will always think you are trying to outshine the bride!!

If I was a bride I wouldn't give a shite if someone wore white at my wedding. Even if someone turns up in a wedding-ish dress..who cares?!

Saying that I still wouldn't wear white at a wedding. Only because I know that most of the other women there would be gossiping about it, and some brides might not like it.

marquise

Lia_lia wrote: »

If I was a bride I wouldn't give a shite if someone wore white at my wedding. Even if someone turns up in a wedding-ish dress..who cares?!

Saying that I still wouldn't wear white at a wedding. Only because I know that most of the other women there would be gossiping about it, and some brides might not like it.

This. Someone wore a white dress to my wedding with black accessories. I didn't mind and thought she looked great. It wasn't "bridal" at all. However, lots of people commented on it so I'd never wear white myself to a wedding.

Faith

Lia_lia wrote: »

If I was a bride I wouldn't give a shite if someone wore white at my wedding. Even if someone turns up in a wedding-ish dress..who cares?!

Saying that I still wouldn't wear white at a wedding. Only because I know that most of the other women there would be gossiping about it, and some brides might not like it.

Honestly, I'd wonder what someone was playing at if they wore white to mine. It's so well accepted that you don't wear white, that it stands out an absolute mile when someone does.

doriansmith

Someone wore a cream dress to my wedding & I genuinely didn't notice, I was too busy enjoying myself. Only realised it when a couple of people said it to me the next day.
Having said that, I'd notice it as a guest so it'd still be a big no-no to me. Even if the bride doesn't notice/care, other guests will. Someone wore a full length cream lace dress to a wedding I was at a few months ago, my jaw nearly hit the floor when I saw her! It just screams of attention seeking.