Hallmark holidays

Fred Swanson

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dee_mc

I don't ignore mother's day (because it means something to her), we acknowledge it with a card and a small gift, usually a plant or flowers . Father's day doesn't apply in this house. Valentine's day and all the rest, I suppose it's nice to mark them with a small gesture and/or gift but I wouldn't be lining Hallmark's pockets!

kneemos

You need to be brought in for cultural realignment.

Ruu

Richard Pyror

Can't wait for Love Day again this year.

Archeron

Ruu wrote: »

Can't wait for Love Day again this year.

Wow, it seems like only yesterday I dismantled love land last year...

Grandeeod

Richard Pyror

I have a simple philosophy.

Any day can be Fathers Day.

Any day can be Mothers Day.

Any day can be Valentines Day.

One should not need to be told when to express appreciation and one should express it regularly.

The Cool

I would mark them, yes - I think it's nice to show your appreciation on Mother's and Father's day, even just with a card or whatever. I would have always been anti-Valentine's Day, whether in a relationship or not but actually did mark it this year as we were trying to put a bit more effort into that side of things. However I wouldn't buy into them in terms of buying expensive presents etc. I think it's more about the thought and effort than spending money.

Fred Swanson

Richard Pyror

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I know it's a commercial thing, but that doesn't make it intrinsically evil. It's nice to be nice to the people who put you in the world, and for them to have a day to look forward to where they're at the centre of attention. If you don't want to do anything for it, then don't, as far as I know, it's not compulsory.

One single day a year that puts Dads at the centre isn't a big deal. It doesn't have to be expensive or a grand gesture. When I was a kid I used to bring my Dad his breakfast in bed, and I'd valet and wash his car. Never spent any money, but did something nice for him anyway.

Same goes for Mothers Day, a little special effort to show a bit of extra appreciation doesn't make you a sheep or a materialist. And it means the world to them to have their roles acknowledged. I also spoil my gran on Mothers Day, and she loves every thing about it.

Wacker The Attacker

when is steak and blow job day

roshje

My wife says its Fathers Day every day

Alf. A. Male

Wacker The Attacker wrote: »

when is steak and blow job day

Pre-marriage, every day.

mikom

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i7gIpuIVE3k

The Cool

Wacker The Attacker wrote: »

when is steak and blow job day

March 14th supposedly (a month after V-day)

Shakespeare's Sister

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They're not saying you "must" do anything whatsoever.

It's a corporate thing for sure, but no harm in a collective celebration of those dads and mams who are so awesome.

Fred Swanson

Richard Pyror

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Fred Swanson

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You know it's not compulsory to celebrate Fathers Day, right? No one has a gun held to their head so there's no point in acting like you're a hero for dodging the bullet.

It's not been enacted into law, you're safe for now.

Fred Swanson

Richard Pyror

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Muise...

Richard Pyror

Magaggie wrote: »

They're not saying you "must" do anything whatsoever.

It's a corporate thing for sure, but no harm in a collective celebration of those dads and mams who are so awesome.

My Mam is so awesome she hates that sh1t. My Dad is happy out if I call over and make him dinner (well, mostly cake) the odd time.

It's hard to figure out who would like to do the Valentine's Day thing or not. I was caught off guard with a super-cynical type boyfriend who got me a card one year. It was a jokey, sarcastic card, but his face at my empty handed cardlessness was even funnier.

I'd always prefer individual celebrations of awesome fathers, mothers and boy/girlfriends, and nice little gestures to cheer them up if they're having a hard time, to the once-a-year thing. But it's nice that it's a happy day in some families who want to do it.

anncoates

I don't really care much for valentines day but fathers and mothers day is cute when the kids are (and when I was) young otherwise not that bothered.

I'm not being forced at gunpoint by The Evil Corporations to do anything I don't agree with so it's fine.

Tail Docker

Mine chose to mark the occasion by buying me a razor. From Aldi. With my money. Which I was going to buy anyway. E for effort, imo.

anncoates

Fred Swanson wrote: »

No harm but leave me out of it..

What part of elective celebration do you fail to grasp?

Fred Swanson

Richard Pyror

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dee_mc

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But it's not being forced on anyone! Forcibly suggested maybe, but that doesn't mean you have to join in the fun - I look at it like this: at the moment, there are ads and tv coverage and boards posts and conversations everywhere about the world cup, which i have no interest in... but nobody's forcing me to watch it

Muise...

Richard Pyror

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Who's forcing it? I had an embarrassing (but secretly hilarious) unreciprocated Valentine's card once. I don't do any of the days. If they were important to my mother, father or imaginary boyfriend, I'm sure I could meet them in the middle with a smile.

Arthur Beesley

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No harm but leave me out of it.

It is the typical sheeple attitude to their corporate gods.

I'd have said it was more sheeple to object to this stuff, trying to be different like everyone else.

Do you have a beard?

anncoates

Fred Swanson wrote: »

It is not elective when others force it on you.

I feel your pain.

Had to ground my kids for the week for reducing the complexity of our shared relationship to their hideously anodyne manufactured "feelings" this morning.

Muise...

Richard Pyror

anncoates wrote: »

I feel your pain.

Had to ground my kids for the week for reducing the complexity of our shared relationship to their hideously anodyne manufactured "feelings" this morning.

In fairness, those handmade cards (how fiendishly genuine!) and nice words and kisses were just a bid for newer, dearer toys and days off school.

Shakespeare's Sister

Fair play to those anti corporate types who go on about sheeple, and the way they never ever buy any product from a large corporation.

It's lovely for there to be a mass appreciation of mothers and fathers - it's up to individuals how much they want to spend, if they want to spend at all. But the symbolism is nice, and it would be extremely churlish not to treat your parents on that day and just leave them out of it. It's about them, not their child(ren).