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Child DNA testing

  • 13-06-2014 2:35am
    #1
    Mrssflan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1 ✭


    Someone said her child looks like my husband and I've had it thrown at me by different people
    What should I do?


Comments

  • #2
    blatantrereg
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,743 ✭✭✭blatantrereg


    Is it possible that it is his?
    If it's possible that it's his, then I think a test would be a good idea.
    If there is no reason to think it's possible, then dismiss the rumour as someone trying to stir trouble. Anything else would just encourage that sort of thing.


  • #3
    Tokyo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,656 ✭✭✭✭Tokyo


    At risk of pointing out the obvious, before you go down the route of blood and DNA testing, have you spoken to your husband about the comments that are being made? And gauged his reaction? Does the timeline add up - i.e. in your opinion do you think that your husband could have been with this person around the time the child was conceived? You need to talk to him first before doing anything else - considering a DNA test every time you hear an offhand comment would point to far bigger issues in the relationship than infidelity...


  • #4
    Alf. A. Male
    Closed Accounts Posts: 740 ✭✭✭Alf. A. Male


    What an extreme example of putting the cart before the horse. What makes you think the child's mother would allow you to demand a DNA test?


  • #5
    The Princess Bride
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,656 ✭✭✭✭The Princess Bride


    Mrssflan wrote: »
    Someone said her child looks like my husband and I've had it thrown at me by different people
    What should I do?

    This "someone"-she should surely know who fathered her child!
    Whatever about other people, why would she say it to you?

    Talk to your husband.

    Incidently, my neighbour looks like a twin brother of my husband -coincidence,no relation whatsoever.


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I really feel for you Mrssflan. Gossip is just gossip, but I don't think youd be thinking about dna tests unless you felt there was more to it.

    If theres a possibility your husband is the father, he needs to talk to the childs mother. Whatever led to this situation, the child didn't cause it, and they deserve to have both of their parents in their life.

    You might be tempted to just ignore it, but these things never stay buried and its the way people deal with them (or don't deal with them) that causes the worst damage, to your marriage and to this poor child.


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