what would you do

whupdedo

I was walking up the hill by penny's in swords village this evening and in front of me were two people who were in wheelchairs, they were seriously struggling and even the lady was kind of turning back to go back down the hill even though she wanted to go up.I did think to myself that I should maybe help her but then I said no, its not my problem she should know her limitations (for the want me a better term) they got to the top of the hill eventually but it was touch and go for a while, Hence my dilemma

Should I have helped her ? I mean she was struggling and in need of some help but on the other hand would i have insulted her by offering assistance.

What would you do ???

Nino Brown

I wouldn't bother either, too many times I've gotten attitude off people I was trying to help,

Zed Bank

Nino Brown wrote: »

I wouldn't bother either, too many times I've gotten attitude off people I was trying to help,

People and their pride huh?

Chucken

Not being familiar with the hill by penny's in swords village, sorry, I can't comment.

mfceiling

I have a stock line for situations like this..

"do you need any help"?

Frosty McSnowballs

You're right OP!

Old women in wheelchairs need to know their limitations! Stupid feckers!

You should have pogo sticked your way past them up that hill.

Iseedeadpixels

whupdedo wrote: »

I was walking up the hill by penny's in swords village this evening and in front of me were two people who were in wheelchairs, they were seriously struggling and even the lady was kind of turning back to go back down the hill even though she wanted to go up.I did think to myself that I should maybe help her but then I said no, its not my problem she should know her limitations (for the want me a better term) they got to the top of the hill eventually but it was touch and go for a while, Hence my dilemma

Should I have helped her ? I mean she was struggling and in need of some help but on the other hand would i have insulted her by offering assistance.

What would you do ???

I once saw a tiny woman struggling to get something off a shop shelf, I asked do you need help.....she shot me a dirty look saying she worked there, moral of the story don't help anyone!

ElizaT33

THIS is what's wrong with society - I wouldn't have hesitated to help ... would have waited to get her home and even made her a cup of tea. My sons, if they had been in that situation, would have been brought up to do the same - without thinking! No offence, OP, but you shouldn't even have to ask this question! If she didn't want the help, fine - but you shouldn't have thought TWICE about doing it!:(

Banjo String

I would have offered help. If they refused, I'd have walked away with a feeling of self satisfaction, knowing I did (what I thought) was the right thing.


Then let out a sigh of relief cos I'm a lazy Bastard.

The Dagda

whupdedo wrote: »

I was walking up the hill by penny's in swords village this evening and in front of me were two people who were in wheelchairs, they were seriously struggling and even the lady was kind of turning back to go back down the hill even though she wanted to go up.I did think to myself that I should maybe help her but then I said no, its not my problem she should know her limitations (for the want me a better term) they got to the top of the hill eventually but it was touch and go for a while, Hence my dilemma

Should I have helped her ? I mean she was struggling and in need of some help but on the other hand would i have insulted her by offering assistance.

What would you do ???

They were obviously racing. It's lucky you didn't intervene, there could've been money on the outcome.

whupdedo

Senor Fancy Pants wrote: »

You're right OP!

Old women in wheelchairs need to know their limitations! Stupid feckers!

You should have pogo sticked your way past them up that hill.

She was about 30, which is partly the reason I kept stumm

whupdedo

ElizaT33 wrote: »

THIS is what's wrong with society - I wouldn't have hesitated to help ... would have waited to get her home and even made her a cup of tea. My sons, if they had been in that situation, would have been brought up to do the same - without thinking! No offence, OP, but you shouldn't even have to ask this question! If she didn't want the help, fine - but you shouldn't have thought TWICE about doing it!:(

No offence taken, but the last thing I wanted was to seem patronising, especially when their was two of them and the fella was giving her encouragement all the time, also I'm sure she's well able to make her own tea

ElizaT33

whupdedo wrote: »

No offence taken, but the last thing I wanted was to seem patronising, especially when their was two of them and the fella was giving her encouragement all the time, also I'm sure she's well able to make her own tea

Of course she could make her own tea - I was just detailing the fact that I would have helped her, and then gone a little step further by saying 'now you're home, why don't I make a nice cuppa'!

Frosty McSnowballs

whupdedo wrote: »

She was about 30, which is partly the reason I kept stumm

That makes so much more sense!

Nino Brown

ElizaT33 wrote: »

Of course she could make her own tea - I was just detailing the fact that I would have helped her, and then gone a little step further by saying 'now you're home, why don't I make a nice cuppa'!

If I helped a handicapped girl up the hill, then followed her home, then invited myself in, I'd imagine I'd have to make a cup of tea for the Gardai who would be arriving shortly after me.

Larianne

Chucken wrote: »

Not being familiar with the hill by penny's in swords village, sorry, I can't comment.

Swords is a TOWN, not a VILLAGE!! :mad:

Now.
If it's the hill that Penneys faces onto to, between Roxy's Diner and the old ESB shop, then shame on you OP. That's a bítch of a hill to walk up, nevermind wheel yourself up in a wheelchair. I'm guessing they were using the road as the path is very narrow there. Even MORE reason to help them up to the top, to get out of harms way!!

I would have offered to help. The worst they could have said was "No, thank you".

The Th!ng

Sell the wheelchairs and their valuables on ebay.

Legs.Eleven

I know the hill. Very steep. Would you not have at least offered?

Fr_Dougal

whupdedo wrote: »

I was walking up the hill by penny's in swords village this evening and in front of me were two people who were in wheelchairs, they were seriously struggling and even the lady was kind of turning back to go back down the hill even though she wanted to go up.I did think to myself that I should maybe help her but then I said no, its not my problem she should know her limitations (for the want me a better term) they got to the top of the hill eventually but it was touch and go for a while, Hence my dilemma

Should I have helped her ? I mean she was struggling and in need of some help but on the other hand would i have insulted her by offering assistance.

What would you do ???

You did the right thing, OP.

Will you post the link to the YouTube video as soon as you have it uploaded, thanks.

Chucken

Larianne wrote: »

Swords is a TOWN, not a VILLAGE!! :mad:

Now.
If it's the hill that Penneys faces onto to, between Roxy's Diner and the old ESB shop, then shame on you OP. That's a bítch of a hill to walk up, nevermind wheel yourself up in a wheelchair. I'm guessing they were using the road as the path is very narrow there. Even MORE reason to help them up to the top, to get out of harms way!!

I would have offered to help. The worst they could have said was "No, thank you".

Aw thanks. That description makes me feel like I've seen it before

You can't beat a good description of a hill.

Larianne

Chucken wrote: »

Aw thanks. That description makes me feel like I've seen it before

You can't beat a good description of a hill.

I can further the description:
It curves to the left as you approach the top of it, where it meets the Old Dublin Road.
Also, it's a two way road until it passes the apartment block on the right and then turns into a one way.

You can see it if you go onto Google Earth no doubt.

Oh, also! There is a little holy well to the right of the start of the bend in the hill.

cloud493

Like, penneys as it comes out of pavilions? I don't recall there even being a slope.

Chucken

Larianne wrote: »

I can further the description:
It curves to the left as you approach the top of it, where it meets the Old Dublin Road.
Also, it's a two way road until it passes the apartment block on the right and then turns into a one way.

You can see it if you go onto Google Earth no doubt.

Oh, also! There is a little holy well to the right of the start of the bend in the hill.

So there's now a New Dublin?

My how the world changes!

caustic 1

Does that mean there was an old York?

Zen65

whupdedo wrote: »

What would you do ???

I think I'd have politely offered help, in fairness.

Most of the time when I offer help (lifting bags on trains, helping blind people to cross roads, seats to the pregnant etc) it is accepted gratefully. Yes once or twice people will take umbrage but I would not let that change how I behave.

I do recall passing an elderly lady on the street during a downpour in Dublin city centre, while she was carrying bags of groceries. I was wearing a suit and carrying an umbrella, so I held it over her (getting drenched myself) while chatting to her and keeping her dry as best I could. When we came near to her house she became nervous (perhaps fearing that I'd follow her inside and mug her? or perhaps she'd have found it embarrassing to have accepted help? I don't know) and she asked me to walk on ahead so she could walk the last 30 yards to her house without me. I did as she asked. Later I had to dump the suit (and my undergarments) as the downpour had destroyed it beyond restoration. Thankfully I kept spare clothes in the office so I did not spend all day being wet. Anyway the point is that I still look back on that day with a smile, just knowing that I helped her to avoid being totally drowned, even if she appeared to be a little put out at the end of it.

Helping others is one of life's genuine pleasures! It's a shame to miss an opportunity.

Larianne

Chucken wrote: »

So there's now a New Dublin?

My how the world changes!

Old, as in the road is old, not the Dublin.
Although, if you search for another Dublin, it happens to be in America, which isn't as old as the Dublin in Ireland so technically it is an old Dublin. :pac:

Larianne

caustic 1 wrote: »

Does that mean there was an old York?

Yeah, the one in the UK.

Chucken

Larianne wrote: »

Yeah, the one in the UK.

Not old. Original.;)

whirlpool

...if your son was at home, crying all alone on the bedroom floor and he's hungry......

(Come on, I can't be the only one?)

Mr Keek

Feck sake OP, you should have offered to help at least. The way you described it makes it pretty obvious they would have appreciated assistance.

I think you know you should have too, otherwise you wouldnt be here asking.

Free good karma, and you turned it down! Tut tut😀

Tail Docker

Banjo String wrote: »

I would have offered help. If they refused, I'd have walked away with a feeling of self satisfaction, knowing I did (what I thought) was the right thing.


Then let out a sigh of relief cos I'm a lazy Bastard.

Lol. Same as. "Err, can I help you? No? Cool."

whirlpool

To give a serious answer, OP, it's a case of you could be damned if you do and you could be damned if you don't. There is no right answer to this, just do what comes naturally to you yourself. You can't please everyone and don't bother wasting your time trying.

whirlpool

Mr Keek wrote: »

Feck sake OP, you should have offered to help at least. The way you described it makes it pretty obvious they would have appreciated assistance.

I think you know you should have too, otherwise you wouldnt be here asking.

What a load of w_nk. There is just as much chance that the person in the wheelchair would have disliked the offer of help as much as they would have liked the offer of help. There was no way for the OP to know either way and they're not a mind reader.

PizzamanIRL

whupdedo wrote: »

Should I have helped her ? I mean she was struggling and in need of some help.

You answered your own question. Definitely ask if she wanted help.

shopaholic01

Had she nice boobs?

Frosty McSnowballs

shopaholic01 wrote: »

Had she nice boobs?

They were wheely nice ones

whupdedo

Mr Keek wrote: »

Feck sake OP, you should have offered to help at least. The way you described it makes it pretty obvious they would have appreciated assistance.

I think you know you should have too, otherwise you wouldnt be here asking.

Free good karma, and you turned it down! Tut tut��

Yes, but, she was within about ten metres to the top of the hill, if I had gone and given assistance i really think I'd have burst her bubble seeing as she had gone all the way up on her own and with the other guy giving her encouragement all the way, I think it was best that I say nothing and let her go it alone

desultory

Can we get a google street view of this hill for science purposes?

everlast75

Just wanted to say thanks for all the funny AH remarks - having a poxy morning* but got a few giggles ☺




*some pr*ck walked by without offering any help as I was struggling up a hill in a wheelchair

whupdedo

everlast75 wrote: »

Just wanted to say thanks for all the funny AH remarks - having a poxy morning* but got a few giggles ☺




*some pr*ck walked by without offering any help as I was struggling up a hill in a wheelchair

You should invest in an electric wheelchair :pac: