jealousy...

aob85

I admit it I'm jealous of my friend...

I deleted the post, some of your comments made me see sense.. I'm going to try to be a better friend, and look into counselling myself. Thanks for your time xx

Penny Tration

You sound as though you don't even like her, tbh.

Even your post about her being sexually assaulted was all about you, with her thrown in as an afterthought.

I understand that you're frustrated, jealous, annoyed and think she has it easy, but I doubt she has it as easy as you think she does.

She interviewed for the internship. She earned it through her interview. She failed a year, but got through to the final year and presumably passed, so she's obviously bucked up and put some work in.

And now she's in a job, that you think is safe because the boss fancies her.

She did all of that, while dealing with the horrendous trauma of being sexually assaulted.

Honestly, I think maybe you're unhappy with how things are going for you, and are projecting these bad feelings on to her.

She might smile, and be pretty and charming, but so are lots of desperately unhappy people. When I was severely depressed, I could still have people think I was wonderful by being funny, engaging and warm.

I really think you're projecting a lot of your own negative thoughts on to her, and think that maybe seeing a counsellor to work on your self esteem could really help you.

blatantrereg

No point feeling jealous of people in general. Everybody has different situations, different setbacks and so on. Best just to focus on making the best of your own life.

It doesn't sound like your friend's situation is enviable tbh. It sounds crap, for more reasons than the sexual assault.

Being angry at your friend doesn't make too much sense to me. It seems misdirected: You suggest you were exploited by your employer, and that you passed up other possibilities to work for them - including the position your friend took, which turned out to be easier and more secure... Then again her boss is a creep.

Your friend isn't going anywhere. People like that - they get looked after sometimes, they get severely exploited sometimes sexually, they don't really get anywhere. They get comfortable roles at work with little responsibility and little prospects. The limit of their possibilities is to become attached to someone else's success.

CaraMay

You are not coming across well in your post. With friends like you, who needs enemies.

I would cut the 'friendship' with her but not for your sake.

I really don't see what your issue is with her

aob85

CaraMay wrote: »

You are not coming across well in your post. With friends like you, who needs enemies.

I would cut the 'friendship' with her but not for your sake.

I really don't see what your issue is with her

Im sorry theres so much more that happened, I didnt explain myself well at all. And yes im aware that im coming accross like a complete bitch. I feel so guilty for this anger. Esp anger at what happened to her...
I meant to say that the guy she dated all through college was a really close friend of mine. And he was heart broken because of her. He actually let the country to get over her, and he only knows about one of the affairs.. so ive lost a really good friend.
Anyway its a really toxic relationsgip, all from my end. She says that she wants to move in together now, and she wants to travel together. Im afraid I might go mad. I love her to bits and would do anything for her, unfortunately I feel like im at breaking point, yet I dont have a right to be.

aob85

blatantrereg wrote: »

No point feeling jealous of people in general. Everybody has different situations, different setbacks and so on. Best just to focus on making the best of your own life.

It doesn't sound like your friend's situation is enviable tbh. It sounds crap, for more reasons than the sexual assault.

Being angry at your friend doesn't make too much sense to me. You suggest you were exploited by your employer, and that you passed up other possibilities to work for them - including the position your friend took, which turned out to be easier and more secure... Then again her boss is a creep.

Your friend isn't going anywhere. People like that - they get looked after sometimes, they get severely exploited sometimes sexually, they don't really get anywhere. They get comfortable roles at work with little responsibility and little prospects. The limit of their possibilities is to become attached to someone else's success.

Sorry I think im sngry, because im literally with her 24/7.. i feel like more of a counciller rather then her best friend. The friendship is comprised of her telling me her issues and trying to resolve them. Whenever I try to talk about anything serious with me, she laughs it off. Tells me that ill get over it.. I dont want a patient, I want a friend tbh

CaraMay

Well don't move in with her and don't go traveling with her.

Lux23

Maybe she's just a very likeable person.

Sleepless and Manic

aob85 wrote: »

I admit it I'm jealous of my friend.

I understand completely.

And its funny how this thread kind of continues the whole process doesnt it? You think you're having a nice honest rant and it turns out everyone sides with her. And the worst thing is they dont even see it.

I understand your frustration, and it seems us normal ones have to work even harder to make up for their free rides.

Life huh?

Sleepless and Manic

I dont think you need counseling at all. You need a more sensitive friend thats all. I'm afraid you probably dont love her at all, you've been dazzled by this aura of perfection that follows her around wherever she goes, just like everyone else.

I'm guessing with all this attention she's basically pretty shallow and superficial?

aob85

Sleepless and Manic wrote: »

I understand completely.

And its funny how this thread kind of continues the whole process doesnt it? You think you're having a nice honest rant and it turns out everyone sides with her. And the worst thing is they dont even see it.

I understand your frustration, and it seems us normal ones have to work even harder to make up for their free rides.

Life huh?

Thank you :,)
I honestly think I just wanted to be heard.