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  • 08-06-2014 6:27pm
    #1
    Molojan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 40 ✭


    I was at my girlfriends house for the 1st time on Friday, it was the first time I met her mother but I had met her dad once before.
    Anyway they went out for dinner and told me and my girlfriend that we could stay around so we did. Anyway I had my arm around her and she was properly lying on it and when her parents came back I went to move the arm but my girlfriend wanted me to leave it there so I did. I've never felt as uncomfortable in my life cause her dad came over taking to us and she was resting her head on my shoulder as well. I left at 10:30pm cause I didn't want to overstay my welcome and I told my girlfriend that. I made sure that I said goodbye to her parents and all wore I left and they both seemed ok. The next day she said about me not wanting to overstay my welcome and they just said that showed I was nice. Is it a major **** up that I left the arm there? Will he think I'm disrespectful for doing it ?


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  • #2
    FullblownRose
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,501 ✭✭✭FullblownRose


    Molojan wrote: »
    I was at my girlfriends house for the 1st time on Friday, it was the first time I met her mother but I had met her dad once before.
    Anyway they went out for dinner and told me and my girlfriend that we could stay around so we did. Anyway I had my arm around her and she was properly lying on it and when her parents came back I went to move the arm but my girlfriend wanted me to leave it there so I did. I've never felt as uncomfortable in my life cause her dad came over taking to us and she was resting her head on my shoulder as well. I left at 10:30pm cause I didn't want to overstay my welcome and I told my girlfriend that. I made sure that I said goodbye to her parents and all wore I left and they both seemed ok. The next day she said about me not wanting to overstay my welcome and they just said that showed I was nice. Is it a major **** up that I left the arm there? Will he think I'm disrespectful for doing it ?


    I see no reason wny they should think badly of you. It seems like they like you. Try not to worry x


  • #3
    Molojan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 40 ✭Molojan


    FullblownRose wrote: »
    I see no reason wny they should think badly of you. It seems like they like you. Try not to worry x


    Jesus I hope not anyway it'd be some sickner if they did :P. Thanks for the reassurance :)


  • #4
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    You sound like a nice mannerly chap with absolutely nothing to worry about. A harmless arm around the shoulder is not in any way disrespectful and would be just seen as sweet so don't worry, sounds like they like you already!:)


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    You sound like you were being sweet and affectionate. I wouldn't worry about it at all, especially as she told you it was alright. You were very polite too, saying goodbye and everything. I'm sure the parents are delighted that their daughter has found somebody so lovely!

    Good luck for the future. :) x


  • #6
    Stavro Mueller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,673 ✭✭✭Stavro Mueller


    I thought you were going to say they walked in on you going at it hammer and tongs on the sofa or something! Don't forget that your girlfriend's parents were young once and most likely sat like that many a time.


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  • #7
    Ham Sambo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 515 ✭✭✭Ham Sambo


    You'll be grand, It would be worse if you were found in a more comprising position than your arm around her neck when they arrived back!! I reckon they could see how awkward you were when they arrived back home, relax and don't worry about, by all accounts you have appeared to have passed the test with her Mum and Dad.


  • #8
    levi12
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 31 ✭levi12


    Honestly. ..if ye pulled apart when they walked in...then the dad would wonder what u were up to.
    I would imagine the fact that u didnt move lets them know ye are comfortable together...and of course that ye were only sitting there in a cosy cuddle.
    It may also build respect that u werent afraid to act who u are in front of them.


  • #9
    levi12
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 31 ✭levi12


    Honestly. ..if ye pulled apart when they walked in...then the dad would wonder what u were up to.
    I would imagine the fact that u didnt move lets them know ye are comfortable together...and of course that ye were only sitting there in a cosy cuddle.
    It may also build respect that u werent afraid to act who u are in front of them.


  • #10
    desbrook
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,847 ✭✭✭desbrook


    I completely agree with all the above OP. Relax, you did well by the sound of things.

    On a lighter note consider that in years to come you may be back on the dating scene with kids of your own. You may also be dating someone with kids. Rather than dropping your arm because a parent walks in you'll do it when one of the kids walk in!! Ironic but true.


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