ashamed

KOP14

I have been in a relationship for 8 months and he is my first love. I love him so much however both of us are not out and we are in our mid 20’s. He got a job abroad last month I went over to visit him and we had a great time. He comes back home every few weeks. But when I was over there he didn’t introduce me to his friends and they know he is going out with me. He said he would love me to meet his friends but he never arranged for me to meet them. So I asked him if he was embarrassed because he is in a gay relationship. (I was hoping he would say yes because now I just feel like he must be ashamed of me).

His room is covered in photographs of old and new friends he has made and he has a blank frame in his room that I gave him 4 months ago which I was surprised he even kept cuz it’s a €2 frame and looks like crap. I feel like the frame is a metaphor of our relationship as if I am invisible.

I didn’t want to have an argument with him cuz I don’t know when I will get to see him next. Plus I don't want to think i'm pressuring for him to come out.

I is doing my head in cuz I keep thinking he must be ashamed of me

Cait87

He's probably having such good time and doesn't want anything to ruin his new life over there.

KOP14

yeah I guess so

qweerty

Speaking personally, I've started tentatively telling people I'm gay (actually, that I'm into guys), but I'm a long way off introducing them to any bf. I wouldn't be in any way concerned that on your first trip over you didn't meet any of his friends.

I'm the sort of person, like you, who would find significance in there not being a picture of me while there are of others. It could be that he no longer loves you and is postponing the day till he has to dump you. But, far more likely is that there is some really innocent explanation, like that someone else printed the pics for him, or putting you among them reduces your significance, or... Don't assume that he put much thought into giving his room a little colour.

Hope everything works out.