Going for a drink with Italian guy only coz he is hot. Is this wrong?

Weston14

Met guy in a bar who asked me for a drink. He is Italian and we may have nothing in common. He has a great body but is this a good enough reason to go out with him?

baby and crumble

Weston14 wrote: »

Met guy in a bar who asked me for a drink. He is Italian and we may have nothing in common. He has a great body but is this a good enough reason to go out with him?

I don't understand the question. You got asked out by someone you find attractive and sad yes.



On the date presumably you will find out if you have much in common. If everyone knew straight away if they had loads in common the world would be a very boring place.

meeeeh

Definitely wrong. You should go out only with the ugly ones.

sullivlo

Weston14 wrote: »

Met guy in a bar who asked me for a drink. He is Italian and we may have nothing in common. He has a great body but is this a good enough reason to go out with him?

Mutual attraction is a good enough reason. You'll learn about him on the date.

Sauve

Mod

Hi OP and welcome to boards. I have moved your thread to this forum, I think it's more appropriate here.

Sauve.

Meauldsegosha

Weston14 wrote: »

Met guy in a bar who asked me for a drink. He is Italian and we may have nothing in common. He has a great body but is this a good enough reason to go out with him?

You are not going to find out if you've anything in common with him unless you go for a drink. Physical attraction is a very good reason to go on a first date with someone.

Lou.m

It's up to you op. Presumably he likes you too.

I dunno how i would feel about it.

Is he a nice guy?

Lou.m

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

You are not going to find out if you've anything in common with him unless you go for a drink. Physical attraction is a very good reason to go on a first date with someone.

It can be but someone who looks ugly can become attractive after talking for a few weeks. Or they impress you with their character etc.

Chemistry is important.

But he has to be sweet.

Lou.m

Lou.m wrote: »

It can be but someone who looks ugly can become attractive after talking for a few weeks. Or they impress you with their character etc.

Chemistry is important.

But he has to be sweet.

But go for it see if he is nice and you might build commonality after a few dates or something.

CaraMay

Not every romantic encounter needs to be life long. Treat him well, then you are doing nothing wrong.

Meauldsegosha

Lou.m wrote: »

It can be but someone who looks ugly can become attractive after talking for a few weeks. Or they impress you with their character etc.

Chemistry is important.

But he has to be sweet.

Well chemistry and "sweetness" are fine but she is not going to find out about them unless she goes on a date with him. The OP's question is, is a good body enough to date someone? For a first date of course it is. He asked her for a drink not to marry him!!

Maga

OP, first of all, by all means go on that date and have fun with your Italian hottie

Who knows, it may be cold feet and you might actually have things in common. Or not, and still you can make it work as a relationship (as in, maybe your job and family situation are different, but you may find his personality and values are quite compatible).

Now, if you find you don't have anything in common, there are 2 options:

1) You don't have anything in common as in "you have no common interests or are not compatible". In this case, if the chemistry is there and this type of thing floats your boat (and you make clear to the guy you are not looking for a serious relationship with him), you can have a casual fling with him and still enjoy yourself.

2) If you don't have anything in common as in "he is sexy and he knows" (you know the type player, sleazy and thinks everyone is out of their league) - by all means, OP, whatever you do, do not develop feelings for him. In fact, probably run for the hills and don't try a casual thing with this type of guy, cos you may eventually get yourself hurt.

Good luck and fingers crossed it will go well!

PS. Just one tiny thing - and it is a generalisation! - but with some Italians and other latinos relationships develop slower and are very carefree / played by ear in the beginning... and a bit of mindgames and lots of seduction may be involved

hallo dare

Weston14 wrote: »

Met guy in a bar who asked me for a drink. He is Italian and we may have nothing in common. He has a great body but is this a good enough reason to go out with him?

Have you ever thought that's maybe why he asked you out? Cos he thinks you're hot? Or are you fishing for compliments?

Lou.m

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

Well chemistry and "sweetness" are fine but she is not going to find out about them unless she goes on a date with him. The OP's question is, is a good body enough to date someone? For a first date of course it is. He asked her for a drink not to marry him!!

Not saying she should not go out with him.

Big Bag of Chips

Go for the drink, if he turns out to be all picture and no sound the only one affected is yourself, having to endure a couple of hours of awkwardness!