Ex-girlfriend and new guy

LegacyUser

Hey everyone, just something on my mind that is troubling me a small bit.

Basically I broke up with my ex of 9 month as in February after a rocky few months due to an LDR which wasn't working out well. It was fairly messy as she insisted we be friends but I disagreed and needed no contact to move on. After awhile I got texting her as the pain of cutting her off was too much at the time.

In the meantime we kept our chats friendly, but with her wishing me happy birthday and telling me how much she missed me etc. On one drunken night I replied and said that we both just need to move on.

We drifted apart and didn't text for about 3 weeks. I broke no contact just to see how she was doing. Which was silly but I'm newish to breakups etc. Her response was that she now has a new boyfriend and doesn't need to speak with me. Fair enough I said, but I can't help feel like her new relationship is just a rebound and I felt hurt, which I know myself is stupid but I can't help feeling this way.

Any advice just to get it out of my head?

SingItOut

The best advice I can give you is to just move on and stop texting her, you're only hurting yourself and confusing her, her new boyfriend is probably not too happy about you texting her either and i can't blame him. Not to sound harsh but you were the one who who didn't want any contact when she did and now the roles have changed. It's best for all involved if you cut your ties and move on. Delete her number and from any social media if need be.

Czarcasm

OP you need to get over yourself. You had a nine month LDR, then you broke up with this girl, initiated contact again, called it off, not once but twice, and a third time when you again feel like contacting her and she tells YOU she's moved on and is with someone else now... You think that means she must be on the rebound because she couldn't be with you?

All due respect OP but you're deluding yourself, and until you realise that you can't control other people, and you can't do their thinking for them - you're always going to end up on your own.

You need to mature a fair bit and stop thinking this girl must be on the rebound because she doesn't want to be with you. She's not the one with the problem. You are. The best way to get over this is to go out and meet new people (honestly, I'd recommend people a bit closer to home than trying to do LDRs) and occupy your mind with someone or something other than yourself.

retro:electro

Even if it is a rebound why is that any of your business? Leave the girl alone and let her get on with her life.

Vision of Disorder

It's never a nice feeling when you realise that the door has been wholly closed on something. That said it is better for both of you to have no further contact, she is in a relationship with somebody else now and that is a clear sign that you need to just get on with things at your end and start looking forward rather than back.

IrishEyes19

Not trying to be harsh here, but when she reached out telling you she missed you, you kept blowing her off, telling her no contact and move on. So basically she does what you told her to do , meets someone, and you feel miffed because it seems so soon

You can't control someone like that, OP! You need to take the same advice