Why Don't I care anymore

dan397

Hi to all.

just thought I'd tell you i'm new here and tell you why i joined boards.

My problem is this; I don't care about anything, nothing excites/stimulates/evokes any kind of emotion in me anymore. For example if i hear a really funny joke that i know is funny and i would usually laugh at i don't laugh or smile the feeling of humour just passes through me in a few seconds. Basically everything has become boring and nothing interests me in the slightest.
I have no dreams, i turn 19 on saturday and i am still unemployed, not because i am lazy, its just i have no hobbies or anything that i would really consider a fun job that i would be passionate about like most people do. I live with my sister and spend most of the day on the day watching tv without really taking it in or caring about it, i just watch it so it looks like im interested in something, otherwise i could just stare at the wall for hours and i would still feel exactly the same emptiness. Even making friends doesn't bother me anymore, and in school i was very sociable, i just seem to have lost interest in interacting with people. Has this happened to anyone here before and is there a solution?

dan397

dan397 wrote: »

Hi to all.

just thought I'd tell you i'm new here and tell you why i joined boards.

My problem is this; I don't care about anything, nothing excites/stimulates/evokes any kind of emotion in me anymore. For example if i hear a really funny joke that i know is funny and i would usually laugh at i don't laugh or smile the feeling of humour just passes through me in a few seconds. Basically everything has become boring and nothing interests me in the slightest.
I have no dreams, i turn 19 on saturday and i am still unemployed, not because i am lazy, its just i have no hobbies or anything that i would really consider a fun job that i would be passionate about like most people do. I live with my sister and spend most of the day on the day watching tv without really taking it in or caring about it, i just watch it so it looks like im interested in something, otherwise i could just stare at the wall for hours and i would still feel exactly the same emptiness. Even making friends doesn't bother me anymore, and in school i was very sociable, i just seem to have lost interest in interacting with people. Has this happened to anyone here before and is there a solution?

I don't think strangers on the internet can help you, but please do go see your doc, and say exactly what you've described there. There is always a solution to these feelings, but people often need help finding them.

Mrs W

I don't normally reply to this sort of stuff either but you need to do something ASAP before you get into a deeper hole.
Get out for a good walk, take a job of any description just to get out and meet new people before this becomes a permanent and more serious situation.

I have basically the same thoughts, I didn't go back to work after maternity leave and other than my LO I don't feel I have anything else. That scares the **** out of me so I get out for a good walk to clear my head, make me time when I can and talk about how I'm feeling rather than dwelling in it

Sauve

Mod

Hi Dan397 and welcome to boards
I have moved your thread to this forum, I think you will get better and more appropriate advice here.
Best of luck,
Sauve.

dee_mc

Hi Dan!
Welcome to boards
I've felt how you described in the past, and i kept it to myself for a long time before a stranger (though not one on the internet!) advised me to see my GP. When i did, i was diagnosed with depression and prescribed antidepressants. After a few weeks i started caring again. I never felt 'sad' as such, which is what i would've imagined depression would be like, i just felt... nothing, really. I didn't need to stay on the meds for long (everyone is different). Counselling works well for some people.
Bear in mind that lots of people don't know what they want to do or be when they're 18 or 19! My life is alot different than i planned or expected at that age, and all the better for it.
I'd advise going about getting a job, literally any job, and working from there. You may or may not find something you feel passionate about, but remember your passion in life doesn't have to be your job! Think back to what you liked doing when you were younger, do a few aptitude tests online, make a list of jobs you'd hate - give it lots of thought and you never know what you might come up with!
But step one, and i know I'm repeating myself and reiterating what another poster advised, go to see your GP. You won't regret it
Best of luck!

Lou.m

Hello OP

I think you should absolutely see your GP.

We cannot say if you are depressed or what but it does sound like you could use some support.

I would also let your family know so that they are aware of the situation.

It sounds to me like you are saying it is not that you are uncaring but your emotive reactions are not firing in your brain as they should or as you feel you would like them to.

It could be that you are under-stimulated by this life style and chronically bored and that changing it up would help. Or you might need care and advice that your GP can help you with.

They always say sleep diet and exercise helps.