can't move on

yellow1010

was in a long distance relationship that was rocky the past few months but we both wanted it to work so I bought a ticket to go see him
within 2 days the fighting had started and he was asking me to leave his house
it has been nearly 2 weeks since it ended and every couple of days I find myself texting him
he just tells me to leave him alone and he doesn't want to talk to me. yesterday he told me he doesn't love me anymore
I am hurt and want to move on but it's hard. I feel it would be easier if he gave me a reason for the breakup/sudden change of feelings but he won't, all he said is "we're done and never getting back together"
he told me he still loved me but now 2 weeks later he doesn't?! you can't get over someone that quick
I am so hurt and confused and wish I could stop caring, I have never had a break up where it was this hard for me to let go.,. any advice?

CaraMay

Why was it rocky?

SineadMarie

yellow1010 wrote: »

was in a long distance relationship that was rocky the past few months but we both wanted it to work so I bought a ticket to go see him
within 2 days the fighting had started and he was asking me to leave his house
it has been nearly 2 weeks since it ended and every couple of days I find myself texting him
he just tells me to leave him alone and he doesn't want to talk to me. yesterday he told me he doesn't love me anymore
I am hurt and want to move on but it's hard. I feel it would be easier if he gave me a reason for the breakup/sudden change of feelings but he won't, all he said is "we're done and never getting back together"
he told me he still loved me but now 2 weeks later he doesn't?! you can't get over someone that quick
I am so hurt and confused and wish I could stop caring, I have never had a break up where it was this hard for me to let go.,. any advice?

You need to give yourself time its only been 2 weeks. Stop texting him. Delete him from fb etc. I know its easier said than done but believe me it helps. Clear out your room bag up anything that reminds you of him be prepared to get upset! I know it hurts now but it does get easier go out with friends keep busy basically. He wasn't the right guy for you and if it only takes him 2 weeks to get over you then its best you know what hes like now. Plenty of fish in the sea good luck

yellow1010

CaraMay wrote: »

Why was it rocky?

he cheated in March, swore it was the biggest mistake of his life and he wanted to marry me.. we talked about getting married next time I visited everything was grand for a while then we broke up for a few days and I found out he was on dating sites which upset me that he went straight onto them. the week before I went to see him we weren't "officially" a couple we were still broken up but he said he wanted to wait to see me in person to get back together...
then the first 2 days in person things were grand til I started asking about our relationship that's when the fighting started he "didn't want to talk about it" then told me he'd never marry me and was stupid for saying it and didn't want to be in a relationship with me...already back on the dating sites too

yellow1010

SineadMarie wrote: »

You need to give yourself time its only been 2 weeks. Stop texting him. Delete him from fb etc. I know its easier said than done but believe me it helps. Clear out your room bag up anything that reminds you of him be prepared to get upset! I know it hurts now but it does get easier go out with friends keep busy basically. He wasn't the right guy for you and if it only takes him 2 weeks to get over you then its best you know what hes like now. Plenty of fish in the sea good luck

he has me blocked on everything apart from email that's the only way I have of contacting him now..it's just so hurtful if he's really over me already then he probably hasn't loved me for a long time/ever? because you can't get over someone in 2 weeks...someone you told a few weeks prior you were going to marry them I suppose I'm just hoping if I bug him enough he would want me back but it's highly unlikely

Kyro

yellow1010 wrote: »

he cheated in March, swore it was the biggest mistake of his life and he wanted to marry me.. we talked about getting married next time I visited everything was grand for a while then we broke up for a few days and I found out he was on dating sites which upset me that he went straight onto them. the week before I went to see him we weren't "officially" a couple we were still broken up but he said he wanted to wait to see me in person to get back together...
then the first 2 days in person things were grand til I started asking about our relationship that's when the fighting started he "didn't want to talk about it" then told me he'd never marry me and was stupid for saying it and didn't want to be in a relationship with me...already back on the dating sites too

Sounds like you are better off without him OP. Doesn't sound like someone I'd want to spend the rest of my life with.

CaraMay

He is a cheat and a toe rag. The fact that he treated you so badly should hasten your recovery. Don't contact him again. Why would you give him the ego boost when the relationship is going nowhere.

Chances are op he has met someone else and you are in his way. Sorry

SineadMarie

yellow1010 wrote: »

he has me blocked on everything apart from email that's the only way I have of contacting him now..it's just so hurtful if he's really over me already then he probably hasn't loved me for a long time/ever? because you can't get over someone in 2 weeks...someone you told a few weeks prior you were going to marry them [/quote

I know how you feel my ex did the exact same thing to me in January its now May and im still hurt but feeling better and stronger. Hes a liar and a cheater and its sounds like you can do so much better. Best advice I can give you to to keep active and talk away the pain.l to friends family. Im sorry for your trouble wouldn't wish it on anyone

yellow1010

CaraMay wrote: »

He is a cheat and a toe rag. The fact that he treated you so badly should hasten your recovery. Don't contact him again. Why would you give him the ego boost when the relationship is going nowhere.

Chances are op he has met someone else and you are in his way. Sorry

he hasn't met someone else as he's using dating sites listed as single again... not that it stopped him from using them when we were together but he didn't during the beginning of the relationship. I just don't know how to move on. usually it's easier and all of my past exes lived closer.. he's in another country and I can't get my mind off him

yellow1010

for some reason I just feel like I need to know why he dumped me...it makes me feel like it would be easier for me to move on if I knew

CaraMay

He cheated on you - that's why it's over. He wants to be single or tbh not in a relationship with you. I'm sorry to be so harsh op but you don't seem to want to face the truth

yellow1010

CaraMay wrote: »

He cheated on you - that's why it's over. He wants to be single or tbh not in a relationship with you. I'm sorry to be so harsh op but you don't seem to want to face the truth

yeah I understand he cheated but that was a few months ago and he apologised like crazy and tried to make it up to me, surely if that's how he felt he would have dumped me instead of wasting his time and asking me to marry him?

seenitall

Hi OP,

ok I'll give this a shot. Why did he dump you? Because He Doesn't Want To Be With You Any More. That's all the reasoning you need from him, if you have some self-worth and self-respect, that is.

Sorry if I'm being harsh, it is just irritating to read a thread like this, by someone who doesn't even appear to have enough self-respect not to pine over a useless, using CHEAT.

Get over him, because you can be damn sure you're history to him. And always remember that actions speak louder than words.

yellow1010

thanks for the replies... I know I have low self esteem and need to work on it. I do think the break up is for the best even though I don't want or agree with it...it's just so hard to move on and I thought knowing why he dumped me would help. thanks everyone