The Relationship life

Gehad_JoyRider

Hi,

I've been in a relationship for a month, How ever she lives a life of going out with her family friends at the weekend being hung over all weekend. Then I get my gf either hung over at the weekends or weekday nights. In some respects I feel kinda like a stop gap to her own boardum at times.

Granted I've a job that takes me away for long periods, 2 weeks to 3 days kinda thing. I like her, but I kinda feel that maybe that I am nothing short of something to keep her busy when needed.

I'm just back from a busy two weeks I work 18 hour days. some times and there long I try to keep in contact. Yet an example she knew I wanted to see her on Sunday she also knew she should be studying for up and coming exams. Yet she goes out and parties till, 4 in the morning.

Then cancels on me via a text. Then today again cancels via text to say its going to be hectic all week.

Its like right ok makes no effort to get in touch with me for 2 weeks leaves it all to me, lets me find out via text that I cant see her when I was really looking forward to seeing her.


I'm a little confused to be honest.

Am I the only one?

LegacyUser

Sorry OP but you're only together a month, that is no time at all to be now flustered about how she lives her life.

She does her thing, you do yours. You really need to give it longer than a month OP. I am constantly trying to organise a night with my other half, who I've been with for 3 and a half years but unfortunately life gets in the way. He is full time at college, I am full time at work. We usually only see each other one night at the weekend and we only live 20 mins from each other. Such is life. That doesnt mean I'm going to give up on our relationship. Maybe this is just bad timing for both of you but I definitely think you need to give it a few more months and if you're still unhappy with how things are then maybe you need to consider that you 2 arent a good match?

Merkin

She doesn't really sound all that pushed to be honest. You say you've been away for two weeks and yet have been in a relationship a month. Are you actually officially in a relationship or merely dating?

Gehad_JoyRider

Merkin wrote: »

She doesn't really sound all that pushed to be honest. You say you've been away for two weeks and yet have been in a relationship a month. Are you actually officially in a relationship or merely dating?

Sorry. What I meant to say is we've been together 6 weeks. I had to go away for two weeks. Yes we are in a c omitted relationship.

Gehad_JoyRider

Turns out she cheated on me!


So thats that then im am single again!...

Thanks for the reply.

Bananaleaf

She cheated on you this Sunday when she was supposed to meet you?


Sorry to hear that OP

It sounds like you are much better off without her.

Always trust your gut.

dixiefly

Sounds like you dodged a bullet there mate.

Lots and lots of great women out there for you to be wasting your time on someone like that.

Gehad_JoyRider

Bananaleaf wrote: »

She cheated on you this Sunday when she was supposed to meet you?


Sorry to hear that OP

It sounds like you are much better off without her.

Always trust your gut.

No she cheated on me on the Saturday night.

marie12

What age group are you and your girl friend? Do you expect her to plan her life around your work? She might really miss you when you're gone and so she busies herself, which then carries over to when you return. If you really like her have a chat with her and see if you come to a compromise. Best of luck.

LegacyUser

Hey OP wrote: »

Sorry OP but you're only together a month, that is no time at all to be now flustered about how she lives her life.

She does her thing, you do yours. You really need to give it longer than a month OP. I am constantly trying to organise a night with my other half, who I've been with for 3 and a half years but unfortunately life gets in the way. He is full time at college, I am full time at work. We usually only see each other one night at the weekend and we only live 20 mins from each other. Such is life. That doesnt mean I'm going to give up on our relationship. Maybe this is just bad timing for both of you but I definitely think you need to give it a few more months and if you're still unhappy with how things are then maybe you need to consider that you 2 arent a good match?

Conversely, I'm a full-time student who works part-time, my girlfriend of a year works full-time and we see each other on average 3 nights a week.

We also live 2 hours apart. If you want to make something happen you generally will.

Gehad_JoyRider

I dont really need to go into it.

I went to collect my stuff to night we talked for about an hour, she said I tuck it very well. I try to remain calm as getting angry doesn't help the situation. I am hurt and it does sting. it was simply a kiss with no meaning. To be honest she doesn't know what she wants and we had been seeing each other since the start of February.

But things are changing for her. Right now she needs to sort her own life out which is fine. Were giving each other space. We wont and dont plan to take things where they left off or anything. We just said we'd get in contact and think about seeing each other again if thats what we booth wanted. ( not sure I even want that)....

Thing is stuck on the radio on the car favourite songs were on the radio the hole way up and back :eek: Either way Life goes on

maria34

So she holds you on the hook? Just in case nobody better comes around.

You should be slin love at the beginning in your relationship not drink and kiss (ya right) around.

Forget her, theres loads of fishes in the sea.

zuhuraswa

Sorry to hear that OP. You are better of without her.

Thanks CPW3 for that reminder- so true!