Always want to go out

LegacyUser

Hi all,

A bit of a strange issue here I know. Basically I'm in college, returned from my year abroad where exams finished earlier, as a result many of my friends are stuck doing theirs for the next 2 weeks.

I'm 22, and I always want to go out. Its not even to get with women, I've never been in a serious relationship, although I would like to, however I do tend to suppress it on nights out and just enjoy myself, which I've been told is what you should do.

Even after a good night out, I'm dying to hear how friends are doing when I'm back at my family home the next day, I would waste some time on Facebook, the usual. It doesn't matter if its just a few drinks in my local or a nightclub, I'm cool with whatever. In college I would go out most Thursdays, sometimes another time during the week, and then during the summer it takes ages to get back in touch with people and I would have a night out maybe once a month.

So yeah, appreciate the advice.

xzanti

You're a college student who loves going out and having the craic?

I don't see where the problem is isn't that what you're supposed to do at that age?

As long as your grades aren't suffering as a result.

Just enjoy it while you're young is my advice.

whirlpool

I remember being exactly like that. I think they call it "being 22!"

Of course, in the end it turned out there were some deep seated demons I was trying to drown out with alcohol and distraction. But sure what 22 year old isn't :pac:

Legs.Eleven

Can't see the problem. I was the very same at your age and went out 3 or 4 times a week. Enjoy it while you can!

LegacyUser

I suppose the problems I see are:
- I'm so impatient about waiting to go out the next time
- I always check on Facebook the next day to see how my friends are doing
- I don't get to go out enough when I'm not in college
- Friends are currently doing exams (which I finished earlier due to studying abroad) so I'm bored for at least the next 2 weeks and having a lot of nostalgia for nights out I had with them before

Boombastic

addicted-to-going-out wrote: »

I suppose the problems I see are:
- I'm so impatient about waiting to go out the next time
- I always check on Facebook the next day to see how my friends are doing
- I don't get to go out enough when I'm not in college
- Friends are currently doing exams (which I finished earlier due to studying abroad) so I'm bored for at least the next 2 weeks and having a lot of nostalgia for nights out I had with them before

do you have any other hobbies? It seems you are very reliant on your friends for your entertainment?

nothing wrong with going out, wanting to go out and I don't think you are going out excessively (imo)

seamus

Yeah, I'd maybe have a think about hobbies. You want to spend time with your friends, that's pretty damn normal. I remember in college all of the hardest partiers were those doing crazy courses - engineering, medicine, etc - because they spent so much time working their ass off during the day that they just wanted to chill and catch up with their friends in the evening.

I don't know if your course is particularly intensive, but it sounds like you don't get to spend much time with friends during the day so you do it in the evenings.

Impatience is also a feature of being young. Two weeks is nothing, in ten years time you'll need two weeks just to recover from a night out

Stop overthinking things and find stuff to do with your free time so you're not just lounging around the house surfing facebook.

December2012

Do you do this to try to distract yourself from something?

Is there an emptiness you're trying to fill or a problem you're trying to avoid?

Why do you think this is a problem?

retro:electro

I don't think you sound any different to anyone else your age OP, it certainly doesn't sound like you have any kind of problem anyway. I finished my exams two weeks before most of my friends also and was counting down the days until they were finished so we could go out. I was so bored, and boredom can do funny things to people, I even found myself planning my outfits for all the nights out I was going to have! Sad I know! I think you sound normal, you have a healthy social life and that's great! You also take an interest in your friends thoughts on night the next day which is cool. Go to the gym or watch some cool series for the next while until they're finished, two weeks really isn't that long!