Randomly asking a girl for her number??

LegacyUser

As the title suggests, I am currently considering asking a girl I don't know for her number.

Let me give you a bit of background, I live in a small regional town(25,000 people). I do be regularly in the local sports store and there is a girl who works there that I really fancy. She is always so nice when I'm in and I have found myself going in more often in the hope she is there.

I know her name, one of my friends would know her brother, so I know she is single. Now I have been trying to meet her on a night out to initiate conversation in the hopes of getting her number but never see her out.

Now I know she probably doesn't even know who I am and there is a good chance that she is only friendly at work because it is her job. But recently I was having lunch in a local bar and she walked in with a friend. They sat at a table about 10 metres from me. As I ate, I caught her looking at me about 8 times, now this might be my imagination but I don't think it was.

What I want to know, is it acceptable to ask a girl for her number at work? What are the chances she thinks I'm a creep? What is the best advice girls can offer?

b_mac2

Id go for it, definitely. BUT I wouldn't ask her while she is at work, its putting her on the spot IMO. Just hold out until you see her out again.#

Good luck.

cazzer22

As you've said, you've tried seeing if you see her out to ask her first. However, that hasn't happened. I would slip your number in as you're paying for something and just say, 'give me a text if you like' or something. Or could you hold out until you possibly see her out for lunch again/walking around town?
If she was looking at you that's a good sign, although it could've been her trying to suss out where she knows you from, too!
Don't be shy and go for it
Good luck OP.

Lou.m

LetHopeThisWorks wrote: »

As the title suggests, I am currently considering asking a girl I don't know for her number.

Let me give you a bit of background, I live in a small regional town(25,000 people). I do be regularly in the local sports store and there is a girl who works there that I really fancy. She is always so nice when I'm in and I have found myself going in more often in the hope she is there.

I know her name, one of my friends would know her brother, so I know she is single. Now I have been trying to meet her on a night out to initiate conversation in the hopes of getting her number but never see her out.

Now I know she probably doesn't even know who I am and there is a good chance that she is only friendly at work because it is her job. But recently I was having lunch in a local bar and she walked in with a friend. They sat at a table about 10 metres from me. As I ate, I caught her looking at me about 8 times, now this might be my imagination but I don't think it was.

What I want to know, is it acceptable to ask a girl for her number at work? What are the chances she thinks I'm a creep? What is the best advice girls can offer?

Wait for a week see if you can see her outside of work. If you see her at a bar again walk up and say hi introduce yourself and just say I saw you around etc. Ask for no. Or you could ask to sit down and join her. Is this seat taken???

If you don't see her again. Pop in chat say hey my friend knows your bro and ask her or give her your number if you prefer.

You could ask friend to go out in a group with her bro and you guys ??

I'm not great at this stuff.

macplato

I think your best bet would be to ask your friend to introduce her to you through her brother - perhaps by arranging somehow for all of you to be at the same place.

Or maybe you could go to the shop with your friend as customers, and your friend could mention (as a 'by the way') that he knows her brother This would give the two of you a sense of familiarity, and the next time you are there stalking her , you wouldn't be a stranger any more. This would make it easier for you to ask "So what are your plans for the weekend" in a relaxed, casual way.

I don't think giving her your phone number or asking for her number at her work place is a good idea, especially that you do have mutual friends who, with a bit of creativity, could introduce you to each other. I'll keep my fingers crossed. Good luck!

strobe

Honestly man I wouldn't ask for her number or give her yours or anything like that, just ask her if she'd like to grab a drink sometime (or a variation thereof), after striking up a bit of conversation. What's this number business? Just needlessly adding an extra step for no reason and no benefit. 'Limping in' they call it in poker. Silly stuff.

Merkin

Agreed. I'd strike up a decent conversation with her and then ask her out for a drink.

LegacyUser

strobe wrote: »

Honestly man I wouldn't ask for her number or give her yours or anything like that, just ask her if she'd like to grab a drink sometime (or a variation thereof), after striking up a bit of conversation. What's this number business? Just needlessly adding an extra step for no reason and no benefit. 'Limping in' they call it in poker. Silly stuff.

This is exactly what I was thinking. Unless your in secondary school asking for her number so you can text/call her seems a bit immature. Try and catch her at some stage and ask would she like to go for a drink, you come off way more confident (even if your not!). Best of luck

Bedtimebaby

Walk over to her and flirt with her, then invite her out somewhere, then exchange details.

certifiedcrepe

Just go for it! Guys never really ask girls for their numbers anymore (in my experience) because they rather add the girl on Facebook or other social media. A guy asked me for my number about 6 weeks ago in uni and I was floored and flattered that he had the balls to ask me instead of adding me on Facebook or whatever, I couldn't say no and now we're dating.

Good luck

Vito Corleone

Pay your friend to rob her purse then catch your friend and give her back the purse. Then ask for the number.

Rekop dog

Clothes shop is a good setting for asking her out. Next time you're in there ask her for her opinion on which hoodie or whatever suits you better. Its a solid opener, engages her into something most woman like doing. Whatever she chooses go with the opposite and tell her jokingly she's got awful taste, have a bit of banter and close by getting the digits.

Snatchy

Dude - just ask her for a drink following a decent conversation.

LegacyUser

b_mac2 wrote: »

Id go for it, definitely. BUT I wouldn't ask her while she is at work, its putting her on the spot IMO. Just hold out until you see her out again.#

Good luck.

That's the problem, I never see her out. I am still a bit uneasy about asking her for her number at work, she could be seen to be unprofessional if she gives it. Forgot to say she is a manager in this -mod snip-

Lou.m

LetHopeThisWorks wrote: »

That's the problem, I never see her out. I am still a bit uneasy about asking her for her number at work, she could be seen to be unprofessional if she gives it. Forgot to say she is a manager in this -mod snip-.

If your friend knows her brother try that route?

Write a card saying hey I think you seem like an interesting person to get to know. Would you like to meet for a drink no pressure or expectations? Here is my number if you don't feel like calling then all the best and no hard feelings.xx

Ask your friend to give the brother the card to give to her.

Or write it down and give it to her yourself.

If nothing happens or she says she can't then you know how she feels.

If I like someone I will offer to meet ...I try and make it so they don't feel pressured or anything and we can just get to know each other. If a guy said no then at least I know.

Good luck OP.

And if she doesn't ..well you tried and you can move on.

OP and lou I've edited your posts just to remove the shop name, it's pretty identifying


thanks

December2012

In my opinion the card sounds like something out of primary school.

And don't get other people involved!

Does she know you?

Lou.m

December2012 wrote: »

In my opinion the card sounds like something out of primary school.

And don't get other people involved!

Does she know you?

I'm a girl and I'd like it :-)

December2012

Maybe if the other people aren't involved it'd be ok. Like having flowers and a note delivered to me with a note saying "hope you like these - John 08xxxxxx" could be good - IF she knows who John is.

Bart Mars

Lou.m wrote: »

If your friend knows her brother try that route?

Write a card saying hey I think you seem like an interesting person to get to know. Would you like to meet for a drink no pressure or expectations? Here is my number if you don't feel like calling then all the best and no hard feelings.xx

Ask your friend to give the brother the card to give to her.

Or write it down and give it to her yourself.

If nothing happens or she says she can't then you know how she feels.

If I like someone I will offer to meet ...I try and make it so they don't feel pressured or anything and we can just get to know each other. If a guy said no then at least I know.

Good luck OP.

And if she doesn't ..well you tried and you can move on.

God dont do the card thing ! You will look so socially inept. This isn't 1974

ElleEm

Lou.m wrote: »

I'm a girl and I'd like it :-)

I am a girl and I think it's wierd! I also have brothers, and know that they would either tell the lad to fe*k off away from the sister/ not give the card/ give the card but read it first/ endlessly rip the p!ss for ever! The OP is a grown up, and should just ask the girl out. I agree with the other posters- involving someone else is very schoolyard.

Lou.m

ElleEm wrote: »

I am a girl and I think it's wierd! I also have brothers, and know that they would either tell the lad to fe*k off away from the sister/ not give the card/ give the card but read it first/ endlessly rip the p!ss for ever! The OP is a grown up, and should just ask the girl out. I agree with the other posters- involving someone else is very schoolyard.

Ok I'm out voted.

zozo339

I think you should just go for it, the above comment (before mine) says write a note to her...that would be perfect, as an 18 year old girl, I myself would love something like that if a guy was interested in me. I doubt there will be any hard feelings if it does all fly at the fan...:)

If you caught her looking at you that amount, while you were sat eating, then as a girl, I know, that if we're interested or even thinking about that person, we may try and catch their attention, or find ourselves looking at them, as they're on our minds...It would be very odd if after all of this behaviour, she turns you down...update us all on what happens please excited to know..

All the best, God bless.

homerjay2005

OP, go for it (but make sure she is single first)....try get chatting to her and before you leave give your name and ask for the number.

strobe wrote: »

Honestly man I wouldn't ask for her number or give her yours or anything like that, just ask her if she'd like to grab a drink sometime (or a variation thereof), after striking up a bit of conversation. What's this number business? Just needlessly adding an extra step for no reason and no benefit. 'Limping in' they call it in poker. Silly stuff.

this is complete nonsense...ive been asked for numbers by complete strangers who ive met minutes before on multiple occasions. my current girlfriend asked me for my number before even saying hello to me!

it happens and is perfectly normal as long as its done right and is not invasive or rude.

LegacyUser

Thanks for all your great advice here.

Just an update on progress so far, I have decided to take the majority advice on here and I am going to ask her for her number this weekend.

I would not consider going the brother route, as I know he would not approve of someone trying to hook up with his sister through him.

I know she is single, had a look on Facebook. She is 27 years of age, which I feel makes the whole sending a letter through someone else a bit immature.

I have never asked a girl for number before(Sober).So I am just going bite the bullet and do it, I will keep you guys posted, watch this space :P

Azwaldo55

LetHopeThisWorks wrote: »

As the title suggests, I am currently considering asking a girl I don't know for her number.

Let me give you a bit of background, I live in a small regional town(25,000 people). I do be regularly in the local sports store and there is a girl who works there that I really fancy. She is always so nice when I'm in and I have found myself going in more often in the hope she is there.

I know her name, one of my friends would know her brother, so I know she is single. Now I have been trying to meet her on a night out to initiate conversation in the hopes of getting her number but never see her out.

Now I know she probably doesn't even know who I am and there is a good chance that she is only friendly at work because it is her job. But recently I was having lunch in a local bar and she walked in with a friend. They sat at a table about 10 metres from me. As I ate, I caught her looking at me about 8 times, now this might be my imagination but I don't think it was.

What I want to know, is it acceptable to ask a girl for her number at work? What are the chances she thinks I'm a creep? What is the best advice girls can offer?

Have a conversation with her first. You would have to be talking for a good while before you get to asking for a number. You don't just go up to her and ask for her number. Guaranteed she'll say no or give you a fake number so you will go away and leave her alone.

splashthecash

LetHopeThisWorks wrote: »

Thanks for all your great advice here.

Just an update on progress so far, I have decided to take the majority advice on here and I am going to ask her for her number this weekend.

I would not consider going the brother route, as I know he would not approve of someone trying to hook up with his sister through him.

I know she is single, had a look on Facebook. She is 27 years of age, which I feel makes the whole sending a letter through someone else a bit immature.

I have never asked a girl for number before(Sober).So I am just going bite the bullet and do it, I will keep you guys posted, watch this space :P

Any update with this???

splashthecash

splashthecash wrote: »

Any update with this???

Do not ask for updates in this forum. Read the charter please.


OP please PM if you need further advice on this