Debs

Skidfingers

Hi, debs is in about 3 months. Have a few people planned who I'll ask. I'm just wondering is it ok to do it over snapchat/Facebook instead of in person as 2 of them are in different schools and I'm unsure when I'll see them again to ask in person.

retro:electro

Skidfingers wrote: »

Hi, debs is in about 11 weeks. Have a few people planned who I'll ask. I'm just wondering is it ok to do it over snapchat/Facebook instead of in person as 2 of them are in different schools and I'm unsure when I'll see them again to ask in person.

I wouldn't ask over snapchat. Facebook if you must, but I'm guessing you have their phone numbers? Just call them and ask them.

Skidfingers

anna080 wrote: »

I wouldn't ask over snapchat. Facebook if you must, but I'm guessing you have their phone numbers? Just call them and ask them.

Unfortunately I haven't, as that is what I would do. Not close enough to call them friends, but I know them fairly well.

Czarcasm

Skidfingers wrote: »

Hi, debs is in about 11 weeks. Have a few people planned who I'll ask. I'm just wondering is it ok to do it over snapchat/Facebook instead of in person as 2 of them are in different schools and I'm unsure when I'll see them again to ask in person.

As I was reading your post OP, I thought "Why not, seems to be fairly commonplace nowadays...", but then I read the bit bolded above.

I'm not so sure it's a good idea when you're not even sure when you'll see them again in person. I thought you were talking about people on your friends list that you might see regularly. I mean, if you don't see them regularly you're going to be sweating about whether they'll even turn up on the night or not, and then you'll effectively be strangers to each other which will make for a very awkward atmosphere if you're an introverted person that doesn't really socialise much.

In saying all that though, I went with a blind date arranged by my friends, and it was one of the best nights I've had and have fond memories of it - while my mates spent the evening either drinking themselves stupid, or arguing with their dates (because their dates weren't happy that they were drinking themselves stupid), my date and I had a ball tearing up the dance floor and laughing and chatting all night.

Nothing serious ever came of it but we're still great mates 20 years later!

retro:electro

Skidfingers wrote: »

Unfortunately I haven't, as that is what I would do. Not close enough to call them friends, but I know them fairly well.

If you don't even have their phone numbers I wouldn't be too sure about asking them to your debs.

Rubberchikken

Would you know someone that you could ask face to face?
I'd be concerned one of the others wouldnt show on the night if they're not that close to you.
Good luck

ABajaninCork

What's wrong with using FB/Snapchat to get phone numbers? Then you can ask them! Better still - organise coffee and a catch up and ask face to face...

Time Now Please

I have a feeling that you don't want to ask face to face just in case they say 'no'? that every guys nightmare, however it would better if you asked in person, whats the worse they can say, if they say yes you are sorted and if they say no well then at least you know and no harm done. Good luck!!

Yolandi Boraine

Skidfingers wrote: »

Unfortunately I haven't, as that is what I would do. Not close enough to call them friends, but I know them fairly well.

This is a contradiction.

It is a formal event you should ask in person. If you wish you can stipulate that you are asking as a friend if they would like to accompany you.


But OP would you not have a better time if you asked someone who was a friend?

Asking for numbers on FB is going to make you look like you look like you ask for hoards of girls numbers and have a few on the go.