Possible Harassment Case

stresscase69

Badly need advice about a possible harassment case.
Heres the deal , im with my fiancé over 10 years. We have a house together, but have only recently moved to England.
In the last 6 months there was a speculation that my fiancé may have fathered a child 13 years ago with a different woman.
This other woman has contacted me through facebook, has also wrote letters to me and my family and also my fiancés family. (But has never gotten in touch solely with him , just everyone else)
We have also found out that this other woman has arrived at my fiancés mothers place back in Ireland with all these speculations about this child and how my fiancé is the father,and is also bragging on facebook about her petty mind games.

This woman is completely driving me insane as I feel that she is interfering with all of our family and causing a huge amount of grief, which is crazy after 13 years,

Im wondering is it possible to go ahead with a harassment charge - do I approach gardai in Ireland or do I send a solicitors letter? - Which is the best approach - the polite and legal way of course ;-)

Lambofdave

Why not do a DNA test and see if he is the father that will sort the issue once and for all. Or is that opening another can of worms?

Santa Cruz

While the parentage of the child should be sorted (if not the father then there is a good harrassment scenario) you should also keep a record of all contact between this person and all family members. Also it may be advisable to have a solicitor write to her requesting that she make no further contact with any member of the family. If she persists then bring your evidence to the Gardai

stresscase69

Thank you for the replies , We were thinking about DNA but the child is in a solid family unit since the child was born as far as we are concerned . (Child also calls her husband daddy ) So she is not only wrecking every one elses heads but her poor childs head also. So we do feel that this is opening a can of worms, we both feel this crazy woman only started because we bought a house and also were speaking of our travels so im guessing there was jealous rivalry. Im in a catch 22 was thinking the solicitor route. I just cant understand this crazy woman after 13 years !!!! ... Why cause us grief now?!

Could I send a solicitor letter on my own side or is it recommended we send it from the both of us to both her and her husband?

Flippyfloppy

Still, at least the child's head will stop being wrecked if you just get the DNA test. If the child's mother has been telling them your fiancé might be her father s/he will always wonder. Then it will be over either way!

Keep a record of all correspondence & get her to fund the DNA test and take it from there.

dharma200

Child needs to know who its biological father is. Perhaps get your partner to con act her and sort out something for the childs future if he is the father?
Jealpous rivalry and buying house aside, surely your partner might be a tad interested if he has a child?
I asm sure a solicitor would sort it out, and if he is the father then a solicitor could sort it out from the childs end to.. regardless of the child being in a family unit, at 13 years old he /she needs to know and had a right to know who the father is and your partner should want to know, and has an obligation to sort it out.
petty mind games or not, your partner may have fathered a child before he met you and your judgement of the woman is nothing to do with it. good luck with it, and put yourself in the childs position....