My recent ex bf changed his status on facebook to in an open relationship?

xxalexa12h

He broke up with me only 5 days ago. He changed his status right away to single when he broke up with me. Now today he changed it to in an open relationship. Does that mean he's already met somebody else? I was ok with breaking up, but this really is hurting me because he told me there was no one else when we broke up and I believed him because he's a workaholic and doesn't have time for much else. We were together for 5 years and this comes as a real blow to me. I was accepting the breakup, but him changing his status like that so soon is so insensitive. He left photos of us up on his facebook if that means anything.

strobe

Could mean a number of things. Delete him from your Facebook today. Its going to make things unescesarrily harder for you to get over the breakup if you're privy to all his comings and goings. Relationship status changes, pictures of him with other girls, etc. Will only wreck your head and no good can come of it.

ivytwine

What I would do in this case is deactivate your Facebook account for a while.

I know you're hurting but worrying about this will not help you.

Do a bit of a digital detox and I guarantee you will feel better.

I have no idea whether he met anyone else, nobody here does, but what I do know, it's not your business anymore. I hope that doesn't come off as harsh but you do need to take a step away from FB for a while and get some distance from this.

ElleEm

xxalexa12h wrote: »

He broke up with me only 5 days ago. He changed his status right away to single when he broke up with me. Now today he changed it to in an open relationship. Does that mean he's already met somebody else? I was ok with breaking up, but this really is hurting me because he told me there was no one else when we broke up and I believed him because he's a workaholic and doesn't have time for much else. We were together for 5 years and this comes as a real blow to me. I was accepting the breakup, but him changing his status like that so soon is so insensitive. He left photos of us up on his facebook if that means anything.

Block him from Facebook. You are doing yourself no favours checking on his page. Noone here can tell you what his recent status change means. It could be him messing, he could have met someone, it may have been a mistake or he could be trying to appear mysterious. He could also be doing it as he KNOWS you check his page.

I am sorry for what happened, but you will heal quicker if you stop checking up on him. Look after yourself x

Block him from facebook and forget about him

ABajaninCork

I wouldn't place too much emphasis on FB updates. Most of them actually mean fcuk all...

Just unfriend him, block from FB and move on. Looks as though he has. And so should you.

Good luck!

Why is "Open Relationship" even an option on Facebook when you think about it? It's just odd. Yeah, delete him and block him on Facebook - you checking his updates/whatever else will only do you more harm than good.

pinkfloyd34

its only natural to wonder what he is doing or who he is with, 5 years of him as your partner is a long time and to get over that takes time but you need to just get away from facebook, I made that mistake and it done me no favours, then you see updates and read into them too much and it really just wreaks your head, there is no easy fix for this only time and no contact what so ever, try and just hide your phone or laptop so your dont have it beside you all the time.

Merkin

What a wind up merchant. An "open relationship" status could mean absolutely anything from just doing it for a laugh to actually seeing someone. Goodness only knows. For that reason I'd probably just block him because you're going to torture yourself every time he updates his status or is tagged with a girl and being fed constant titbits of gratuitous daily tripe about his life is just going to drive you UP THE WALL. Block him and be done with it.

Stavro Mueller

My cousin has open relationship as his status on Facebook and he doesn't even have a girlfriend just now. He did it for a laugh and something tells me a lot of people who pick open relationship as their status are also joking. I mean, I've seen people pretend to be married and engaged to their friends as a joke.

Getting steamed up about your ex like this is going to do you no good. For your own sake delete him from your friends and cut contact. If his changing his status to something daft like this (apologies to all of you out there in open relationships), imagine how bad you'll feel when you see pics of him out with other women

Sleepless and Manic

xxalexa12h wrote: »

He broke up with me only 5 days ago. He changed his status right away to single when he broke up with me. Now today he changed it to in an open relationship. Does that mean he's already met somebody else? I was ok with breaking up, but this really is hurting me because he told me there was no one else when we broke up and I believed him because he's a workaholic and doesn't have time for much else. We were together for 5 years and this comes as a real blow to me. I was accepting the breakup, but him changing his status like that so soon is so insensitive. He left photos of us up on his facebook if that means anything.

I'm afraid I'm in agreement with most other responses.

Breaking up means not following someone on FB.

And unfortunately, it also means ceasing to care about their "status" whatever it might be.

A horrible process I know, but there it is...

such is life 2

my ex left me and the first thing i did was block and unfriend her from fb, i cant see her or whats she doing or photos and doesnt come up in news feed. I also blocked her septic friends to i know would perv on my book, its the only way for me to be honest but everyone different

FurBabyMomma

Notice how he hasn't blocked you? Because this way he still has power over you - he knows you'll be checking his page and can say what he wants knowing how it will affect you. You need to get rid in his online presence for your own sanity.

zozo339

Unfriend and block him - yourl torture yourself otherwise and in a way may keep checking up on what's going on praying that it's gone and another update may upset you more....I would do this straight away as it's not healthy to do this to yourself. You need to try and move on as this probably means nothing...he may just be adding salt to the wound deliberately to try and get a reaction from you and if he sees it isn't working, may try something worse, people can be poisonous at times.. I really do wish you the best of luck with everything, and here's to finding someone who really knows how to treat you. Forever, we hope.

God bless.

Idle Passerby

I doubt the 'open relationship' status has any bearing at all on the reality of his romantic life. He could have done it because he didn't like the 'single' status, or because he's trying to wind you up, or as a joke, or because it makes him feel glamorous or something. If he is actually in an open relationship 5 days after a break up and felt the need to announce it on facebook, Id pity him more than anything.

As others have said, hard as it is to do, block him from your newsfeed or if you still feel the urge to look at his page, block him full stop. You don't need the wound to be opened up again every time you're in front of a computer.