in despair riddled with guilt

lieable

Hi..
I know I am probably going to sound awful but I seriously need advice <mod snip>

qdawg86

God no, say nothing and have nothing to do with your ex (except in relation to your child) or his brother again.

The situations you were in with them sound toxic so get away from them and start afresh. Focus on meeting new people that are positive influences in your life.

As for your friend, I wouldn't mention anything about the kiss. They were separated at the time. Try to separate your relationship with her from the relationship you both have with the two guys. Moving away from the chaos of the past is more difficult if you have to keep mulling over things with her. Maybe draw a line in the sand and make a point of avoiding discussing your old relationship(s).

You don't have to feel guilty. It sounds like you have had a tough time in the past. Look to the future and the changes you can make to get yourself out of the situation.

dessierb

This is going to be very short because that's all it needs to be.
It was only a kiss, forget about it. Tell, say, do nothing. Why? Because it was only a kiss. My opinion why you feel so bad is that prick of an ex has destroyed your confidence through his abuse, thus removing your ability to rationalise this simple action. Move on, forget about it and try to enjoy the next one. Good luck.

Tokyo

OP - I am really sorry but when a poster is entertaining suicidal thoughts, it is our policy to close the thread. Please understand that we do this in your best interest, as with the best will in the world, none of us can put ourselves in your shoes right now and we don't want to inadvertently give you the wrong advice. Instead, I have passed the details of this thread to the user turn2me.org who will be in touch offering their services to help you through this difficult time.

In the meantime, please have a look at our charter - there are resources there that are ready, willing and able to help you right now - all you need to do is pick up the phone and ask for the help. I have posted the links below.


Regards,
Mike

Depression / Mental Health
http://www.irish-counselling.ie/
http://www.dublinsamaritans.ie/
http://www.mentalhealthireland.ie/
http://www.grow.ie/
http://www.aware.ie/
http://www.shineonline.ie/
http://www.recover.ie/ (Schizophrenia Ireland)

Suicide
http://www.nosp.ie/ (national suicide prevention)
1Life Suicide Prevention Helpline - 1800 247 100
http://www.pieta.ie/
https://www.turn2me.org/ - registered rep on boards contactable at turn2me.org

Tokyo

Introduction to turn2me.org

Hello,

My name is Eoin O'Shea and I am a counselling psychologist working at Turn2me, an online mental health organisation (www.turn2me.org)

A Boards moderator recently brought a post of yours to my attention (as part of a collaborative support arrangement which Turn2me has with Boards.ie). It seems you were quite distressed - I take this very seriously as you must really be suffering quite a bit at the moment.

What I would like to say is that we can provide anonymous support at Turn2me should you wish to (a) avail of our support forums, (b) take part in our Online Support Groups which run every day, or (c) use any of the other features at our site.

As part of a programme called 'Engage' (details of which can be found at www.turn2me.org), I would be happy to offer you a number of free online counselling sessions which are then combined with at least two of our other services to make sure you get the support and help you deserve - free of charge.

Please let me know if you'd have an interest in this - just so that I can touch base with you and make sure you've received this message - and you can then apply for the Engage programme online by visiting our site.

I wish you the very best and hope to hear from you soon,

Eoin