teenage troubles

LegacyUser

ok i dont know where to turn so ill start here. I am a sixteen year old girl in TY. I have extremely few close friends and feel lonely all the time. I feel like not many people in my year like me as I am quite quiet and rather shy but I feel I come across as being somewhat stuck up. I just feel incredibly alone at times and don't know what to do.

Sometimes I kiss random people at discos just to feel that people might think I am pretty or worth something. I know people have bigger problems but this is just bothering me..

I guess the question is How can i be more likable?

Dellnum

You need to like yourself first and foremost. It is very hard to make friends at any age but if you can get interested in a hobby or sport it will help to share an interest with other people your own age. Try and take a genuine interest in what makes others tick and you will appear more interesting yourself. Never kiss anyone just because you want to be liked. That is not what it is all about. You are still quite young and at your age it can appear like your life will never take off but you will be surprised at how things can change in a year or two. Sixteen is an awkward age and it is hard to understand life and where you are going and sometimes you can get impatient waiting for things to happen but don't despair, it will all come together for you pretty soon.

Other people's inability to see your worth right now does not take away from all of the great things that you are.

Sixteen is often a very selfish age. A lot of people are simply just thinking about themselves, they're in this little world of discos and boyfriends and girlfriends and it can often seem like nothing will ever change. Everyone matures at different rates, and some sixteen year olds simply see things in a different light or perspective. Try to remember that you live in one town, and just because everyone around you is stuck in their bubble right now, it doesn't mean there aren't thousands of other sixteen year olds feeling exactly how you do right now all around the country.

Loneliness is one of the worst feelings. Would you like to better the relationships you have with your few close friends? Maybe going shopping or just texting them more often. Try to work on your shyness as much as you can too, because someone else in your year could feel the same as you and you just don't know it. A sincere compliment about someone's hair or just asking them what they did at the weekend can start up a conversation.