change in personality

Amprodude

There is this guy at work who i have worked with for 5 years. He was always a quiet and nice man who is pleasant and very helpful. However over last few weeks this man has being falsely accused by his manager of doing something he hasnt done and eventhough he received a written letter with an apology. His supervisor also has come down hard on him and is being unfair to him and now the guy looses his temper very easily with his work collegues who he used jto get on with. Now we dont know what to think of him, he seems very upset and his attitude and personality as completely changed. He has gone from sound to a crank in weeks. We know its the situation hes in could be affecting his personslity we just dont know.

we know this guy deep down is a lovely fellow but we dont know if i should say something to him to see if everythings ok?

Opinions?

loalae

There are two separate but probably related issues here - 1. This man is being unfairly treated at work and 2. This man is behaving in an unprofessional manner towards his colleagues.

There is not a lot you can do about the first issue unless you report it higher that he is being treated badly by his supervisor.

In regards to the second problem, could you talk to him? He could be stressed but that doesn't give him permission to take it out on colleagues. Is he above you? If not, you could either sit down with him and explain that you find his behaviour inappropriate and that if it continues he is leaving himself open to formal complaints - if not from you, then from someone else. If he is above you, could you ask for a meeting and ask for feedback on your performance and broach the subject then?

If his outbursts continue, you should certainly bring it to the attention of someone higher up than him. Obviously, it's important to have compassion for people and it sounds like he is having a rough time BUT you and his other colleagues shouldn't have to bear the brunt of this.

Amprodude

loalae wrote: »

There are two separate but probably related issues here - 1. This man is being unfairly treated at work and 2. This man is behaving in an unprofessional manner towards his colleagues.

There is not a lot you can do about the first issue unless you report it higher that he is being treated badly by his supervisor.

In regards to the second problem, could you talk to him? He could be stressed but that doesn't give him permission to take it out on colleagues. Is he above you? If not, you could either sit down with him and explain that you find his behaviour inappropriate and that if it continues he is leaving himself open to formal complaints - if not from you, then from someone else. If he is above you, could you ask for a meeting and ask for feedback on your performance and broach the subject then?

If his outbursts continue, you should certainly bring it to the attention of someone higher up than him. Obviously, it's important to have compassion for people and it sounds like he is having a rough time BUT you and his other colleagues shouldn't have to bear the brunt of this.

He snapped at one worker today, we have never seen this before from him but he called this worker aside afterwards and apologised and said he didnt mean it and he said he was totally out of line. This worker accepted apology and moved on. I do think he was honest by doing this and knows he shouldnt have snapped. I do admire people that apologise when they know they are in the wrong because most dont.

Soft Falling Rain

It sounds like he's gotten a very raw deal but it's no excuse for taking it out on his colleagues. The fact though that he apologised to your co-worker makes me think there's nothing more at play than frustration getting the better of him.

Usually it should be the manager/supervisor that has a word in this situation but right now he won't appreciate anything they have to say at the moment, given how they've treated him. Would he be friends with anyone in particular on the floor? If he is then it'd be best to ask them to have a word, rather than some random co-worker overstepping their boundaries.

Amprodude

Soft Falling Rain wrote: »

It sounds like he's gotten a very raw deal but it's no excuse for taking it out on his colleagues. The fact though that he apologised to your co-worker makes me think there's nothing more at play than frustration getting the better of him.

Usually it should be the manager/supervisor that has a word in this situation but right now he won't appreciate anything they have to say at the moment, given how they've treated him. Would he be friends with anyone in particular on the floor? If he is then it'd be best to ask them to have a word, rather than some random co-worker overstepping their boundaries.

Im good friends with this co worker and i will say it to him politely. In fairness this guy has a heart of gold but this frustration he has encounted at the moment is getting the better of him and i hope he rediscovers his true character again.