Young man - feeling meh.

LegacyUser

Hi friendly peeps of AH.

I don't where to begin or even what I'm trying to say or ask to be honest. But I do have a bit of a problem.

I am only 17 and find myself feeing 'meh', constantly. Not great, not horrible, just... meh. (excuse the lack of synonyms coming to mind)

So, I'm doing my LC, which isn't a huge deal as I'm smart enough (not a braniac, but enough to get me into college with some work), I play soccer for a club (although we only have a couple of games left), have friends and a bit of a social life. Fantastic.

Problem is, I'm finding it hard to get excited about things, I go into school each day with a smile on my face and on the surface I am happy-go-lucky. I don't enjoy school, the people there, my subjects or the teachers.

I love soccer and playing it brings me so much joy. Unfortunately we're having a tough time of it this season considering we lost players and are now unfit for the division we're in. Bottom line, it's becoming a bit of chore screaming at my fellow (somewhat younger and more immature) teammates to track their man etc.. (details not important, bottom line, soccer is not fun anymore)

I have a good enough circle of friends and we do hang out. Im not crazy about any of them though and I'm not sure they are me either. Sometimes their attitude is disgraceful, not very friendlike.. they write it off as 'banter' though.

I am finding it hard to get excited about things of late, I am simply not happy with my life and when I go out I drink a lot more than necessary as I find I'm in a fantastic mood when I do so.

One thing I do have going for me is I am (kind of) seeing a girl (albeit we don't see each other too often) and she's great.

Sorry for the long-windedness of this post, I guess I'm looking for advise on how to cope with life when the sun ain't shining ?

Oh and please no condescending adults saying ' ah youre a young lad what have you got to complain about ' etc.

Thanks

kmc25_1

Sorry Op,
a condescending old lad here. Feel free to ignore if you want.

On the soccer it sounds like you are killing your own buzz with the shouting at your teammates. As an old lad I'm delighted to get out once a week playing soccer with friends. Sometimes I'm on the winning side, sometimes I'm not. I put myself under pressure to do as well as i can but I'm not responsible for my teammates. Try and set personal goals for your performance in matches and don't worry about teammates.

On the friends it sounds like you might have outgrown some of them. A lot of people meet their best friends in college. People with similar interests etc. Try and pick a college course you are genuinely interested in. (easier said than done, i had no idea)

Holsten

Low level depression perhaps.

Go have a chat with your GP about it and get their opinion.

You're smart and should get a good enough LC.

I would stick with the football through the good and bad times, great to keep fitness levels up.

Your friends, well they'll change many times in your life so don't dwell on that too much.

You've got a nice girl going for you too.

So lots of ups if feeling meh.

Eeden

You say you love soccer, but it does seem like the team aspect of soccer doesn't suit you. Maybe you prefer to be more in control yourself? It could be that a different sport which isn't team-based, where you don't have to rely on anyone else, might suit you better?

bluemagpie

Your life as you've described it doesn't sound too bad, maybe with the LC coming up and leaving what you know things are starting to get you thinking. Get the LC done, like the other poster said get on a course your interested in and head off to college, loads of people get bored and don't particularly like school. Join clubs, you'll find a better soccer club in college and more people to play with so you can find the team at your own level. You'll more than likely meet better friends there too, most people change throughout life and in college you'll meet a new set of people and more that you have something in common with if they are on your course or in clubs you are interested in rather than when you are thrown together in school. I wouldn't put you down as having any type of depression, everyone has 'meh' moments in life, you just have to make the effort to go and follow what you want to do as opposed to doing what others are doing. So pursue what you are interested in and what excites you, that is the benefit of leaving school, you choose your college course, you choose whether to go, and you choose to join clubs and whether to get involved.

Call Me Jimmy

I'm just coming in to give you one piece of advice:

Do not quit the soccer. Next year or a year or two ye can switch teams when ye go to college but just from someone who did stop at around 19 it was the worst decision of my life!

Gmol

It sounds like you're outgrowing this part of your life and feel like you're treading water, I think everyone goes through stages like that. It's going to get a lot more interesting and exciting when you head off to college you''ll make new friends who will have more in common with you and will be more mature than your friends at home. You can switch to the college team which will be a new challenge for you too

Best of luck with it

Chazz Michael Michaels

YoungManBlues wrote: »

Hi friendly peeps of AH.

I don't where to begin or even what I'm trying to say or ask to be honest. But I do have a bit of a problem.

I am only 17 and find myself feeing 'meh', constantly. Not great, not horrible, just... meh. (excuse the lack of synonyms coming to mind)

So, I'm doing my LC, which isn't a huge deal as I'm smart enough (not a braniac, but enough to get me into college with some work), I play soccer for a club (although we only have a couple of games left), have friends and a bit of a social life. Fantastic.

Problem is, I'm finding it hard to get excited about things, I go into school each day with a smile on my face and on the surface I am happy-go-lucky. I don't enjoy school, the people there, my subjects or the teachers.

I love soccer and playing it brings me so much joy. Unfortunately we're having a tough time of it this season considering we lost players and are now unfit for the division we're in. Bottom line, it's becoming a bit of chore screaming at my fellow (somewhat younger and more immature) teammates to track their man etc.. (details not important, bottom line, soccer is not fun anymore)

I have a good enough circle of friends and we do hang out. Im not crazy about any of them though and I'm not sure they are me either. Sometimes their attitude is disgraceful, not very friendlike.. they write it off as 'banter' though.

I am finding it hard to get excited about things of late, I am simply not happy with my life and when I go out I drink a lot more than necessary as I find I'm in a fantastic mood when I do so.

One thing I do have going for me is I am (kind of) seeing a girl (albeit we don't see each other too often) and she's great.

Sorry for the long-windedness of this post, I guess I'm looking for advise on how to cope with life when the sun ain't shining ?

Oh and please no condescending adults saying ' ah youre a young lad what have you got to complain about ' etc.

Thanks

I’m bored’ is a useless thing to
say. I mean, you live in a great,
big, vast world that you’ve seen
none percent of. Even the inside
of your own mind is endless; it
goes on forever, inwardly, do
you understand? The fact that
you’re alive is amazing, so you
don’t get to say ‘I’m bored.

- Louis CK

SoFarSoGood

Gmol wrote: »

It sounds like you're outgrowing this part of your life and feel like you're treading water, I think everyone goes through stages like that. It's going to get a lot more interesting and exciting when you head off to college you''ll make new friends who will have more in common with you and will be more mature than your friends at home. You can switch to the college team which will be a new challenge for you too

Best of luck with it

I completely agree with this post. I remember feeling very similar to you during my leaving cert year. I believe the word 'meh' is an excellent way of describing the feeling!! In leaving cert I was well and truly ready for new experiences, new challenges and to make new friends (while keeping in touch with old ones too of course). I didn't in any way hate school, but I was completely ready for a new chapter in my life. I had a serious dose of itchy feet syndrome. I wonder if you have a touch of this yourself? It is fantastic that you are very capable of achieving a good leaving cert result, this offers you an abundance of opportunities for your future. College was the best experience of my life and I look back on those years with many fond and happy memories. It is all ahead of you! So maybe start planning where you see yourself this time next year and what you would like to have achieved by then. I promise you this 'meh' feeling will pass. And just as an aside, I cannot disagree more with whoever said that school years are the best years of your life. It is all to come. I hope this helps in some way

Taltos

Chazz Michael Michaels - please read our charter when your ban is up.
The core thing we ask is for posters to only post with constructive advice in a civil manner.
Quoting poetry that basically (depending on how you interpret it) to cop on, that you have no right to feel down is a severe breach of our rules here.

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Thanks
Taltos