Rsvp's

Zane97

Do people getting married end up with many not going or say they are going and not show up?

We are looking to invite around 170
guests

pooch90

They generally say to expect 10-20% decline rate but have seen many people assume this and then get full attendance without the cash to cover it.

dori_dormer

3 years ago we had a 20% decline and a 3% no show on the day. I think the no shows are rare ( unless they are to the afters and therefore don't really affect the day) Most people just aren't as rude as my OHs family!

My sister had a 15% decline and i didn't hear about any no shows a year ago.

I think 10-15% is common enough

Certainly don't invite more than you can afford by counting on declines to bring your numbers down.

Blingy

Everyone we invited rsvp'd and arrived on the day so don't always expect there to be a 10% decline. We had 134 I think.

Toots

I invited 125-130 or thereabouts. I think about 5 declined, didn't have any no-shows. I never even thought there would be such a thing as no-shows to a wedding (aside from if there was a bereavement or family emergency or something) but at my SIL's wedding a few of her friends from work who were invited to the whole day, and had rsvp'd that they'd be there, only went to the church and then told her on the way out that they weren't going to the reception. Apparently there were 4 who told her this at the church, and there were another 7 who didn't turn up for anything at all, despite having sent an rsvp to say they'd be there. They never even texted her on the day or anything.

cookiecakes

We invited 151 and 149 rsvp'd and came! So be prepared in case every person you invite shows up! We budgeted for everyone but expected that about 125 would show up..Not so!!

stargazer 68

My sis is getting married next week. Had invited 164 - 20 declined. If you are inviting 170 - be prepared and cost for 170.

anthonymax

I invited 200 to my wedding, 10 declined and 2 no shows due to a bereavement. My brother's wedding was similar, invited 180 and 10 declined, and my sister I can't remember how many was invited but she ended up having 6 no shows, one couple who no showed even asked her afterwards had she a good day never said anything about not turning up! She did ask them oh we missed ye there could ye not make it? And they said oh we were on holidays so we couldn't go.....eh why rsvp that ye are going then!

Mrs OBumble

anthonymax wrote: »

.....eh why rsvp that ye are going then!

Some people are just dumb: eg ticking "yes" by accident when they were actually meaning "no, sorry".


One option is staggered invites: send the first 50, then the size of the next batch you send depends on the number of "no"'s from the first batch.

berrecka

Mrs OBumble wrote: »

Some people are just dumb: eg ticking "yes" by accident when they were actually meaning "no, sorry".


One option is staggered invites: send the first 50, then the size of the next batch you send depends on the number of "no"'s from the first batch.

I think you have to be very careful doing this. If someone who got in on the first round offers mentions to someone who didn't make the cut, that they got the invite, and then weeks later the second person gets an invite, they are going to know they are only in on second round offers and may be offended by it.

jlm29

berrecka wrote: »

I think you have to be very careful doing this. If someone who got in on the first round offers mentions to someone who didn't make the cut, that they got the invite, and then weeks later the second person gets an invite, they are going to know they are only in on second round offers and may be offended by it.

Yes. My mam got one of these a couple of years back. So close to a wedding that it was quite obvious she was only getting the invite because someone else was unable to attend. It's a bit of an insult.

Toots

Mrs OBumble wrote: »

Some people are just dumb: eg ticking "yes" by accident when they were actually meaning "no, sorry".


One option is staggered invites: send the first 50, then the size of the next batch you send depends on the number of "no"'s from the first batch.

It's for this exact reason that when I was doing my invites I asked for RSVPs by phone or to my parents' address. The previous year my friend got married and put the little reply cards in with the invites, she said the amount of them she got back with NEITHER option ticked was astonishing.

blindside88

We invited 160, 142 replied saying they were going and 140 showed up on the day. The wife's family were very slow in sending them back. My advise would be put the RSVP date as 2 weeks before you actually want to know your full numbers

Sala

I only recently heard of people RSVPing and then not showing up. Rudest thing ever. I understand if there's an emergency but there wasn't.