Being a parent and going on honeymoon...

January

If you had kids when you got married...
Did you go on a honeymoon?

How long did you go for?

With/without kids?

Did having kids influence how far you travelled? (If you travelled without)

Just trying to figure out our options... would love a few days by ourselves after the wedding but we'll have 4 young kids (age 9 months - 6 years). We have someone to look after them if we were to take off on our own.

daithi55

went by ourselves...went for 10 days... kids didnt influence where we went price did

Liamalone

One 8yr old, went to Maldives for 10 days, was harder for her.

A honeymoon is a one time thing hopefully, the children will survive, so will the parents, just suss out phone options for a daily call.

January

Getting them minded is not a problem, my mum will do it.

eviltwin

We went away for a week, we gave her the option of coming but she wasn't bothered. She was older so leaving her wasn't too much of a issue for us.

javagal

We just have the one and she was 14months when we went. We went for 6 days to Italy and to be honest I missed her terrible but, in we had a great time and it was definitely needed as it probably won't happen again.
I reckon it would be easier to leave her if she wasn't an only child, felt like we were abandoning her!

seosamh1980

My parents went away for 2 weeks to NYC when I was about 16 months, phoned home twice, I was with my Nan. They had a ball, so did I by all accounts. Am only child, did not feel abandoned, too young to register anything like that.

Peregrinus

The point of a honeymoon is mainlyto relax and recover from the stress and exhaustion of the wedding and the run-up to it. In former times it might also function as a time of getting used to a new situation - living with a partner for the first time - but obviously that's not the case for you.

So I reckon, go without the kids. As long as they have one another and their grandmother, I'm sure they'll be fine. Don't go further than you have to in order to find a complete change of scene - travelling half way 'round the world may be exciting, but it's not relaxing, and relaxation is what you're after here. Plus, if you're even the teeniest bit anxious about leaving the children (you don't need to be anxious, but you may be anxious anyway) being somewhere from which you could get back in a few hours if you had to might reduce your anxiety just a tad.

How long? Up to you (and your mother!), but I'd suggest a week or so. You can plan a family holiday for later in the year.

Birdie086

January - have you not a very busy year ahead?? Do I remember you posting you are due a baby and one of your children needs surgery during the year??

I think ye should take off on ye're own, relax and breathe after the year you will have had!!!!!

January

Birdie086 wrote: »

January - have you not a very busy year ahead?? Do I remember you posting you are due a baby and one of your children needs surgery during the year??

I think ye should take off on ye're own, relax and breathe after the year you will have had!!!!!

Baby is due in three weeks time and my eldest will be having open heart surgery after that yes.

Very stressful but also kind of part of the reason I don't want to leave them for too long either haha! I feel like I'd miss them too much! I know they'd be grand without me, they love staying at nanny's house!

Synyster Shadow

I'm 2 years married in a month and still not had honeymoon. I fell pregnant 6 weeks after getting married and was so sick until 16 weeks. Then when my little guy was 8 weeks I magically fell pregnant again. Which leads me to our 2nd anniversary. We will eventually go on one but I don't think we can leave babies behind. Might postpone until our 5 year anniversary

Moonbeam

I didn't get one but baby was only 4 weeks old and well i was pregnant again within 6 months:) I think you definitely deserve one and should go.

Synyster Shadow

I think mammy's deserve honeymoons the most

clint_silver

Go on your own for at least part of it. youll find it very hard to justify ever going alone again. I'd suggest a very romantic at least 4 days in ireland and then come back for the kids and head to the sun for a week.

we've 4 girls at home u10, even my mam says to us to go away for a weekend every now and again but I find it hard to justify it as I hate being away from the kids.

niallam

We went for 2 weeks to Lanzarote, brought our 3 year old little girl. It was her wedding and her holiday too, she loved it and so did we.
We got away for 1 night to Monart for a day/night on our own before we went.

kitty3kids

I'm getting married in 11 days time!!!!
We have 3 kids aged 11, 5 and 2.

The week after we are going to New York for 4 nights just the 2 of us. Then in October we are going on a massive familymoon to Orlando with the kids!!

Sunny Dayz

We went on honeymoon ourselves for 5 days to Rome. Our son was 6 at the time and it was the start of Sept so he was back in school while we were away which made things easier on my mum who was minding him while we were gone. We definity wanted somewhere nearby that if anything did come up at home we could be back in a few hours. We really enjoyed ourselves, it was actually the first holiday we had been on with just the two of us excluding the odd weekend away in Ireland.

Little dude does bring it up now and again "you went off on honeymoon without ME!" - to which we reply " it was OUR honeymoon, kids aren't supposed to go". And then we ask him would he bring us on his honeymoon when he gets married and he says no! I do want to go back to Rome again sometime and bring him with us, he would love it. I think the younger the kids are the easier it is to get away. In our case he's 9 now and would not be one bit happy if we went off without him now.

hoodwinked

it really depends,

having one daughter i hate to be without her and she hates being left out, she was only just 3 when we got married, she was in our room the night of the wedding, (my husband took her up to bed at 11pm as everyone else was drunk and we always have one sober adult with her at all times) we recognize we are clingier than most parents though,

my mum took her for the two nights afterwards as the town where we got married is an irish tourist destination anyway so we had a mini honeymoon there (and got to relax after the excitement of it all and got time to just be and not have to think or organise...etc i completely recommend you try and get this mini break in the days immediately after)

we then only this year managed to save up for our 'honeymoon' which was the three of us heading to Disneyland (the first time any of us had been there too) we all had a ball, and at 4 and a half she LOVED being included, and obviously the place!

Moonbeam

I had 3 kids sleeping in the honeymoon suite with me:)

We did go away for the weekend a few weeks ago though as we had blue book vouchers to use,I missed them but the break was lovely:)