stressed

aloe 84

Help!
I have become very nervous lately in a lot of aspects of my life. I have lost two very important animals in my life, me little dog died on the vets table on Christmas day she had to get knocked out to get a absence lanced and didnt wake up. 9 weeks later my horse took a bad colic and hand to be put to sleep. I know there animals but my heart is broken, the other day I was asked if I would take two miniature ponies on as there were going to be destroyed by the end of this week! Tonight im having a lot of stress, everything bad is going on in my head im feel physical sick! Is it normal to be this scared and will I ever feel better

Teyla Emmagan

You poor thing, that's all terrible news. What a lot to deal with in a short space of time, no wonder you feel bad. A lot of people dismiss the importance of animals in one's life, but if you've made a bond, the death of a creature you love is a bereavement. I lost a cat a year and a half ago, cried for hours every day for two weeks solid, and still think about him every day. Don't dismiss what you are going through. Grief is grief, and a lost friend is a lost friend, even if they aren't human.

I guess the ponies are only bringing it up again, you may feel like it's 'too soon' for another pet in your life. I know people who have lost dogs and never feel they can take on another. It's like they feel they are are cheating on the dead pet, or are afraid to invest in another animal. It will pass, and you will feel okay again, and ready to take on another furry friend. In the meantime, just go easy on yourself.

Check out the 'Animals and Pets' forum too, it might help.

retro:electro

This is horrible I feel so sorry for you. I lost my dog a year ago I had him for 12 years. I found out he was sick a month before he died and I made sure to never leave him alone so that he wouldn't die by himself, I always made sure a family member was with him at any time.
However one evening I had to drop my mam to a funeral and I was gone all of five minutes, and when I came back he had passed away I was devastated. I prayed every night that he wouldn't die alone, but it happened and I had to accept that. I eventually looked at it in such a way that that was his time to go and maybe he was waiting for us to leave him and give him his peace. I felt the same as you for a long time after and nobody understood, but I am telling you, you will get over this. Give yourself time and don't feel silly by being upset about it. I'm sure your pets had a lovely life with you and you should take that with you and get comfort from it. X

Ham Sambo

I don't have a medical background but from my own personal experiences you appear to be having mild anxiety attacks (aka panic attacks), as for your loss all pets are considered as part of ones family, it nothing to worry about but I would suggest a trip down to your GP, he or she can recommend a few different options on how to deal with your stress / anxiety. best of luck!

RossFixxxed

As said above me here "grief is grief" and that is very true. They are animals, but they are also loved ones, and companions. I've only got my first pet in the last five years, and she is very old and getting a bit sick and it is breaking my heart in two. I totally understand what you are going through.

I've had losses before, family and so on and this, while not exactly the same, really is the same grief, anger, hurt and loss. Don't fall into the trap of baming yourself or chastising yourself for being "silly" just be how you feel. It takes time to recover, and you need to be nice to yourself!