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Wedding abroad numbers

  • 18-03-2014 3:09pm
    #1
    Sala
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,494 ✭✭✭


    Anyone else get married abroad? Can you tell me how many you invited and how many went? What sort of timeline did they reply by? I am try to plan a meal the day after but it's hard to do it when I have very little idea of numbers!


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  • #2
    freshpopcorn
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 31,211 ✭✭✭✭freshpopcorn


    You need to do a guest list first.some people have weddings abroad and the invite 2 people and others nearly invite 100.


  • #3
    Sala
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,494 ✭✭✭Sala


    Thanks I have done that and sent save the dates! Around 70ppl have confirmed, 20 declined, the rest unknown. It's not for another 7 months. When I send the invite hopefully people will rsvp quicker. I was more looking for an idea of how many invited, how many declined from others who have done this


  • #4
    Toots
    Administrators, Business & Finance Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,957 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Toots


    It's kind of a 'how long is a piece of string' question. My cousin got married abroad and invited well over 100, expecting that a lot of people would decline but in fact he got very few declines and ended up with a much bigger wedding than they intended! On the opposite end of things, a friend of mine got married last summer and the majority of the people they invited declined and there was about 20 people give or take for their wedding.

    A lot of people don't respond to save the dates, so would it be worth while sending your invites out early? I'm sure nobody would mind seeing as it is a wedding abroad.


  • #5
    Gatica
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    I would never reply to a save the date card. I thought invitation are for that. So defo follow up with your guests nice and early with the invites and give an early RSVP date so you've time to chase up stragglers.
    Plan and budget on having a party as big as your guest list, As Toots* said you may end up with almost everyone there. Does your hotel require minimum numbers for the wedding?


  • #6
    lazygal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,644 ✭✭✭✭lazygal


    To me a save the date is just a heads up about when the wedding is on. We wouldn't decide whether to go until we received an invitation.


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  • #7
    Sala
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,494 ✭✭✭Sala


    I know save the dates aren't usually for RSVP but I'm getting antsy, might as well send invites soon!! No minimum numbers, or at least we have enough already, in fact if everyone came we have too many! (not an issue with he declines we have now). I'm more concerned about the next day, I have my eye on a restaurant for a meal but I'm not sure if it will fit everyone


  • #8
    Penny Dreadful
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,041 ✭✭✭Penny Dreadful


    Sala wrote: »
    I know save the dates aren't usually for RSVP but I'm getting antsy, might as well send invites soon!! No minimum numbers, or at least we have enough already, in fact if everyone came we have too many! (not an issue with he declines we have now). I'm more concerned about the next day, I have my eye on a restaurant for a meal but I'm not sure if it will fit everyone

    Not everyone who goes to the wedding will necessarily go to the meal the day after too. Some might go home the day after the wedding, others may make holiday plans of their own and head away the day after your wedding, others may just not be a fan of the two day wedding and quite simply not want to go to a wedding day mark II.


  • #9
    Sala
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,494 ✭✭✭Sala


    Penny Dreadful wrote: »
    Not everyone who goes to the wedding will necessarily go to the meal the day after too. Some might go home the day after the wedding, others may make holiday plans of their own and head away the day after your wedding, others may just not be a fan of the two day wedding and quite simply not want to go to a wedding day mark II.

    Yes I figured this, but anyone who is going will be there the next day so far, and after people coming all the way over I think it's good to have something organised. Even if it was just an ad hoc meet at a bar thing I presume I would need to warn a bar in advance


  • #10
    Penny Dreadful
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,041 ✭✭✭Penny Dreadful


    Sala wrote: »
    Yes I figured this, but anyone who is going will be there the next day so far, and after people coming all the way over I think it's good to have something organised. Even if it was just an ad hoc meet at a bar thing I presume I would need to warn a bar in advance

    They could change their minds about going out with everyone the second day all the same. It happens a fair bit.

    Either way, the only way you're going to know what your numbers are is to send out invitations and get the RSVPs. Save the Date cards are not an invitation, people generally don't see them as such and will only reply firmly to an actual invitation.


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