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terrified of mothers death

  • 03-03-2014 7:26pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi, im not really sure how to deal with this or why its even happening but for the last few months I've been getting waves of almost crippling fear regarding my mothers death. She is in no way sick but im constantly worried about it.

    Im in my late 30's and single and an only child so i suppose its the fear of being completely alone in the world whenever she does actually die. Does anyone have any ideas as to how to stop worrying about it? Even as im typing this i feel physically sick with the worry...

    Thanks


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  • #2
    Tokyo
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    Hi OP,

    Some things are inevitable in life, such as the death of our parents, and being aware of that can be a good thing in that it reminds us of what is truly important in our lives, and not to squander the time that we have together. However, when that natural fear reaches the level of dread that you are suffering, then that living in fear of the future, just like living in the past, takes away the one thing you do have, which is right now.

    From how you describe your mother, it sounds like for whatever reason, something has triggered that fear of losing that constant in your life, that safe place and unconditional love. However it's a fear you're going to need to let go of in order to make the most of the time that you DO have, and if it's consuming you to the degree that you say, then have you thought of getting support from a professional, perhaps a counselor?

    How you feel is not uncommon, and simply talking it out with a person who has dealt with this before may give you the perspective that you need on this. Because at the end of the day, life is precious, and you don't want to squander it away worrying about things you don't have any control over.


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