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Question about Relationships

  • 03-03-2014 6:41pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey everyone, just a quick question that I probably wouldn't see as on the scale as most problems on here.

    Basically, I'm 22 now and last July I broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years, for the reason that we didn't really have the same aspirations regarding travel and the likes for the next 5 years, something that is very pretty important to me. Tbh, she was way too into it even if it was 5 years tbh, and it would have suited her to have started living together and been married by 26 with kids, something that while I want, is not even close on the top of my list at my age.

    Anyways, on to now, and once we broke up I kinda made a pact with myself that I wouldn't get into a serious relationship for a few years, as it gives me the opportunity to be my own person, do things on a whim and be able to make my own travel plans, such as going away this summer.

    I met this girl 4 weeks ago whilst out and she's great and we have tonnes in common and the same kinda travel plans and whatever, I'm not getting ahead of myself at all, but we've been out on a couple of dates, but tbh, I'm thinking of just letting her know that I don't want anything serious at all, because I don't want to string the girl along, and she seems pretty into it, and while I think she's great, regardless, I don't wanna go from one relationship straight into another whilst I'm young and should be able to be as free as I want.

    Am I mad to shoot this girl down or am I doing the right thing? I think it's the right thing to do myself.


Comments

  • #2
    Tokyo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,656 ✭✭✭✭Tokyo


    AmIMad? wrote: »
    Am I mad to shoot this girl down or am I doing the right thing? I think it's the right thing to do myself.

    Sounds like you're answering your own question....

    OP, you walked away from a five year relationship because you had aspirations to travel etc, that your girlfriend didn't fit into. And I imagine that she was quite hurt in all that. So unless this new girl fits exactly into your future plans (going away this summer for example), then why would you put her through the same thing????

    Seems pretty obvious that the right thing to do is to tell this girl your plans for the future and that you aren't looking for a relationship - i.e. the truth.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    AmImad? I wish I had your sense when I was 22. Go and travel and enjoy being single.. Plenty of time for relationships when you're older


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