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Refusing a wedding invitation

  • 25-02-2014 12:51pm
    #1
    lufties
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,507 ✭✭✭


    Hi :)

    A lad who was a friend is getting hitched this year. Honestly I can't stand the smug pr**k anymore and we haven't talked in nearly a year. Anyway I've got an invite to his wedding and the thought's of going fill me with dread.
    Is there any polite way of refusing an invitation without making work excuses I wonder:o


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  • #2
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,165 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    You just send back the RSVP with the 'can't make it box' ticked. There is no need for a reason! I have had a couple already and am delighted that the numbers are reduced :)


  • #3
    lufties
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,507 ✭✭✭lufties


    Dovies wrote: »
    You just send back the RSVP with the 'can't make it box' ticked. There is no need for a reason! I have had a couple already and am delighted that the numbers are reduced :)

    yeah fair enough, simply done :)


  • #4
    turbot
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,106 ✭✭✭turbot


    Even if you don't like him, he still invited you, so there is nothing wrong with being graceful in your reply...

    "I'm sorry I can't make it - wishing you all the best - and including a card".

    Some people go through phases and in the future, you might be glad you were nice about it.


  • #5
    Daniela12
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4 ✭Daniela12


    I agree with Turbot, I think it would be wiser to not decline too rudely. I'm about to decline a job offer right now, also thinking about the right way to do it. You never know when you're going to need something from someone again. ;)


  • #6
    lufties
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,507 ✭✭✭lufties


    Daniela12 wrote: »
    I agree with Turbot, I think it would be wiser to not decline too rudely. I'm about to decline a job offer right now, also thinking about the right way to do it. You never know when you're going to need something from someone again. ;)

    Yea true, in my case we have mutual friends so its hard to refuse the invitation. Also Im single at the moment, the embarassment of attending a wedding on your own :o


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  • #7
    littlelulu
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 267 ✭✭littlelulu


    I had no issue with some people declining even though I would have loved them there.

    I had a major issue with people who declined with some bulls**t made up reason that I completely saw through. There is no need to make up an excuse.

    Just say thank you for your kind invitation but unfortunately I won't be able to make it. Wishing you all the best for the future and hope you both have a wonderful day.

    That's it! It's as simple as that :)


  • #8
    Toots
    Administrators, Business & Finance Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,957 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Toots


    If your invitation didn't include an 'rsvp' slip, you can get 'with regrets' cards to send if you can't go to the wedding. As others have said, just something short and sweet saying you're sorry you can't attend and wish them well for the day and their married life. No need to give a reason why you can't attend.


  • #9
    YossiA
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 46 ✭YossiA


    Write him a cheque as present, make no excuse and hope he never cashes it!



    quote="lufties;89181646"]Hi :)

    A lad who was a friend is getting hitched this year. Honestly I can't stand the smug pr**k anymore and we haven't talked in nearly a year. Anyway I've got an invite to his wedding and the thought's of going fill me with dread.
    Is there any polite way of refusing an invitation without making work excuses I wonder:o[/quote]


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