I wish I had handled it differently

ronjo

About 15-20 years ago I worked for a well known assurance company and for a couple of years ago I worked with a complete cow.

She used to boss people around when she had no right to and generally got away with it.

One time I covered for her because she claimed she was too busy and the boss (who was off that afternoon) said I had to do a big part of her job. Stupidly I agreed and ended up missing our monthly meeting with the director who then gave me a tonne of grief when I went to him to apologise for not going.

Her response to this was "I hope you didnt mention me"

I know its totally unimportant but I still really really wish I told her to F*ck off when she "ordered me" to do her task.

Are there any unimportant issues where you look back on years later and think "I wish I had handled that differently?"

paulbok

I sometimes wish I hadn't urged a young Austrian artist to get involved in politics.

RiverOfLove

I live every day with anxiety, some days good and other days bad and wishing I could turn back time and do things differently in relation to an issue.

FollatonWood

Lots of things, but sure that's how you live and learn.

Menas

I am too old in the tooth to ponder all the mistakes I have made. I am still here, living a good life and dont really have any regrets.

Merkin

Hindsight is 20/20, we're chock full of cutting or witty retorts retrospectively.

With all due respect though, if you're analyzing such an inconsequential remark to the extent of starting a thread on the issue some twenty years later then I'd advise you to go and see someone, seriously.

"...Kiss my asphalt."

ronjo

Merkin wrote: »

Hindsight is 20/20, we're chock full of cutting or witty retorts retrospectively.

With all due respect though, if you're analyzing such an inconsequential remark to the extent of starting a thread on the issue some twenty years later then I'd advise you to go and see someone, seriously.

Ah jaysus its not that bad and this is after hours.
It only popped into my ahead the other day as I got an email from a guy I used to work with then.

Thanks for your concern though, seriously.

jackdalad23

Merkin wrote: »

Hindsight is 20/20, we're chock full of cutting or witty retorts retrospectively.

With all due respect though, if you're analyzing such an inconsequential remark to the extent of starting a thread on the issue some twenty years later then I'd advise you to go and see someone, seriously.

I have to agree. Some of us have regrets but for something so insignificant ??!!

Tilly

You're holding on to something that long? It's sreiously time to move on, Dude.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

Why rot away regretting something you can do nothing about? A total waste of energy. Move on. What's done is done. There's plenty going on today to keep anybody's mind occupied!

EyeSight

Merkin wrote: »

Hindsight is 20/20, we're chock full of cutting or witty retorts retrospectively.

With all due respect though, if you're analyzing such an inconsequential remark to the extent of starting a thread on the issue some twenty years later then I'd advise you to go and see someone, seriously.

The jerk store called, they're running out of you!

BTW OP, you really held onto that for 20 years? you must have no real problems

Bipolar Joe

I think the point of pondering these things is that it can help shape what you will become. You did something which now seems insignificant, but you won't do it again. FollatonWood said it, man, you live, you learn. If you just ambled through life forgetting everything that pissed you off, you'll end up being pissed off by the same thing down the line until you figure out that sometimes, you gotta tell people to fuck off.

More on topic, but years ago I had a "Friend" who ended up being a total wanker. He didn't have any other friends, and I felt sorry for the dude. Ended up figuring out why no one wanted to be around him. All he ever did was talk about how great and kind he is, a couple of times tried to convince me he was psychic, a complete conspiracy nut, the type who looked down on you like you were a putz for not thinking lizard people and shit were a thing. Ended up hurting me pretty bad, so I cut the rope and vowed to never let myself get into the same situation.

ronjo

EyeSight wrote: »

The jerk store called, they're running out of you!

BTW OP, you really held onto that for 20 years? you must have no real problems

Haha, I have a wife and 2 daughters. Of course I have problems

I thought other people might have witty stories.... more interesting than mine.
I seriously misjudged that based on the replies so far

burnhardlanger

Merkin wrote: »

Hindsight is 20/20, we're chock full of cutting or witty retorts retrospectively.

There's also foresight, in that if you ever meet them again you know what you will say to them

Merkin

burnhardlanger wrote: »

There's also foresight, in that if you ever meet them again you know what you will say to them

But what are the chances the he's going to encounter the same wench again and for her to repeat the same statement again 20 years later?

OP I think you should do a big smelly post-vindaloo poo and send it to her in the post.

I am pie

What a weird thing to hold on to? Seriously. Let it go.

danniemcq

This always intrigues me, little things can cause massive changes.

For instance with me went to celebrate a joint birthday (me and my mate) in the pub but plans changed at the last minute and long story short instead of the pub i ended up in a night club i had never been to before and hated but it was here that i met the girl i'm still with nearly 7 years later.

I can go further back too, if i had stopped and talked to the girl that i kept bumping into the week before, if instead of going home to Donegal i just stayed in Galway for the weekend, if i came up a day late or left a day early etc etc.

All these are tiny minor things that led to where i am today.

OP the same could be said for you, if you had said something you have no idea how different your life could have been, you coulda been fired for it or maybe you coulda got her fired but that itself could backfire on you or maybe you end up getting promoted and getting more money but not having freedom you have now to do something.

I always think am i happy right now. if so then feck whatever i may get hung up about earlier in life. I'm where i want to be