RSVP +1

littlelulu

Hi everyone,

Just wondering if anyone has encountered the following problem!

We invited all of our guests along with their other half or else a plus 1. No problem there. Some single people replied back and said they would be attending alone, some are bringing a plus 1 and some just sent back an R.S.V.P with just their name so we assumed they were going alone.

It turns out that some of the latter ARE bringing a plus 1 and never told us so now our table plans do not cater for these extra people and we have to redo them!! :eek:

I feel like I have to go back and double check with the people that didn't specify either way because I don't want someone turning up on the day and having nowhere to sit. Is it going to look bad having to do that??

How would you approach it?

Babooshka

littlelulu wrote: »

Hi everyone,

Just wondering if anyone has encountered the following problem!

We invited all of our guests along with their other half or else a plus 1. No problem there. Some single people replied back and said they would be attending alone, some are bringing a plus 1 and some just sent back an R.S.V.P with just their name so we assumed they were going alone.

It turns out that some of the latter ARE bringing a plus 1 and never told us so now our table plans do not cater for these extra people and we have to redo them!! :eek:

I feel like I have to go back and double check with the people that didn't specify either way because I don't want someone turning up on the day and having nowhere to sit. Is it going to look bad having to do that??

How would you approach it?

What a pain, people just don't think sometimes - you've enough to be doing without chasing people for names, honestly. I would check what I could but if it got to a stage I didn't have time to be contacting people who didn't supply a name and I knew they were bringing a guest I would do a name card and print "guest of" and person's name, and I wouldn't care as it's their own fault.

stargazer 68

OP I am afraid there is no getting around this. You will have to contact those who didn't specify and ask. Otherwise it will be a bit like musical chairs! Some people haven't a clue - even those who have planned a wedding themselves can be flaky!

My sisters invites went out recently and have had a few replies. Some though verbally to the groom who, so far, has been as useful as a chocolate teapot so I don't even know if he has passed all them on correctly! Im just hoping they put their reply slip in the post too! :rolleyes:

littlelulu

Dovies wrote: »

OP I am afraid there is no getting around this. You will have to contact those who didn't specify and ask. Otherwise it will be a bit like musical chairs! Some people haven't a clue - even those who have planned a wedding themselves can be flaky!

My sisters invites went out recently and have had a few replies. Some though verbally to the groom who, so far, has been as useful as a chocolate teapot so I don't even know if he has passed all them on correctly! Im just hoping they put their reply slip in the post too! :rolleyes:

You're totally right! I just can't get over some people! I have heard it in the local shop from randomers that invited people are going and its the first I have heard of it! If they have their minds made up why not just bite the bullet and reply :D

I'll just have to ring them all so

stargazer 68

littlelulu wrote: »

I'll just have to ring them all so

The woman who did sis's invites suggested sending a text to any who haven't replied by 2 weeks or so before the wedding along the lines of:

'Sorry you can't make the wedding but we look forward to seeing you soon at another family occasion'

Amazing how many will reply! :eek:

Toots

OP, I'd ring around and just explain what's happened and you're just making sure that nobody is left out on the day. Don't worry about offending anyone, people will understand. Honestly, the lack of common sense people have is staggering! Do they expect you to be psychically aware that they're bringing an extra person if they only fill in the one name on the reply???:mad:

pwurple

You need to ring around anyway before a wedding, in case of last minute changes of plans. Rope in some phone volunteers. Mams and dads are good for relatives.