Cheater or not?

honeyb

Hello all

I've been with my fella for 2 yrs now. Never been happier with a man like this. Until recently!.. To cut a long story short, I found pictures of other girls on his phone. Not naked ones now, just ones screenshotted from FB, 2 of such are very good (and attractive) friends of mine! No I wasn't snooping, I was showing one of my friends a pic of something else as he gave me his phone to show. Anyway.. the main thing going on in my head is, is he being unfaithful? Ye may think i'm probably overreacting but I've been cheated on in the past and really don't wanna go down that road again. I haven't confronted him yet. It just hurt me as he has none or very few pics of me on his phone. Plus one of the pics (of my friend) on his phone he always banging on about how lovely she is and why doesn't she have a boyfriend etc..

Any ladies ever been through this either?? Love to hear yer opinions.

Czarcasm

OP best thing to do just ask your boyfriend straight out what's the story. Nobody here could even possibly make a judgement call based on what you've written. I think it's good that you've acknowledged you have a basis for your insecurity but really, the only person who can give you any sort of definitive answer is your boyfriend.

honeyb

Yeh i'm gonna have to. Wont be for awhile though as hes away at work. Will have to hang in til then! Thanks

P. Breathnach

He handed you his phone? That hardly suggests that he is being very secretive, which you would expect from somebody who was cheating. More like indiscreet: he collected some pictures, and probably didn't make that big a deal of it in his own mind.

Don't be surprised if he squirms with embarrassment when you ask him about them. And if he does, don't press the matter too hard. There really aren't any good ways to explain that sort of idiocy, so he won't do a very good job of it.

He won't do it again. But, life being what it is, he may do other stupid things from time to time. Don't equate stupid behaviour with bad behaviour.

Big Bag of Chips

Sometimes if I click a photo on FB on my phone it automatically starts to download. Were there any other "unusual" pictures that you wouldn't have expected him to have?

It could be a case of something completely innocent. All you can do is ask.

Michael D Not Higgins

Could he have been sending the pictures to one of his single mates as a potential setting up scenario?

banquo

If these are pics already available on Facebook, then I'd say there's pretty much no evidence he's cheating. Especially since he handed you his phone.

AnonMouse

Michael D Not Higgins wrote: »

Could he have been sending the pictures to one of his single mates as a potential setting up scenario?

That was my initial thought as well.

Meauldsegosha

honeyb wrote: »

Hello all

I've been with my fella for 2 yrs now. Never been happier with a man like this. Until recently!.. To cut a long story short, I found pictures of other girls on his phone. Not naked ones now, just ones screenshotted from FB, 2 of such are very good (and attractive) friends of mine! No I wasn't snooping, I was showing one of my friends a pic of something else as he gave me his phone to show. Anyway.. the main thing going on in my head is, is he being unfaithful? Ye may think i'm probably overreacting but I've been cheated on in the past and really don't wanna go down that road again. I haven't confronted him yet. It just hurt me as he has none or very few pics of me on his phone. Plus one of the pics (of my friend) on his phone he always banging on about how lovely she is and why doesn't she have a boyfriend etc..

Any ladies ever been through this either?? Love to hear yer opinions.

You really need to talk to your boyfriend and try not jump to conclusions. Think about it logically, he gave you his phone knowing you would access the photos to show your friend. Someone who has something to hide, like cheating wouldn't do that.

You should also try to deal with your own trust issues. If I saw photos of other females on my boyfriends phone my first thought would be "he must be cheating". Actually I wouldn't give it any thought at all.

Bananaleaf

I once looked at my camera roll and there were two pics of children at a birthday party that I didn't know or had no recollection taking. I didn't know who these kids were or how they got on my phone

Turns out I was sent them by my sister, via viber I think. She was sending me pics of her boyfriend as a child.

They automatically saved themselves to my camera roll.

They could have gotten there by accident via something that was sent to him. If you're going to ask, maybe make it into a bit of a joke??

Penny Tration

If you use your phone and click 'view full size' when looking at a photo on facebook, it automatically downloads it to your gallery.

I really wouldn't worry about this.

kingtut

green_screen wrote: »

If you use your phone and click 'view full size' when looking at a photo on facebook, it automatically downloads it to your gallery.

I really wouldn't worry about this.

Can't say my phone ever does this
...and I usually have photos open in full-screen.
Maybe it depends on the type of phone.

Lux23

My boyfriend has lots of pics of big, booby women on his phone. I think it's just **** fodder, I don't really pay much attention to it. They aren't women he knows though.