Crazy friend

scarymoon1

I have a friend and her ex text me a couple of times, I replied out of politeness. Now my friend has gone mad and said its strange I'm texting her ex and if I continue to she wants nothing to do with me. I only replied to him to be polite. Is she crazy??!

Overheal

That escalated quickly: it's hard to call someone 'crazy' with such a shallow description of the issue and a lack of details. For instance, what were you texting about? Figure skating? Relationships? Going out for a drink? Flirty compliments? When did they break up? How long were they dating? Why did they break up? That's all just for a start. Not ready to call someone a whackjob just off that ^.

scarymoon1

Overheal wrote: »

That escalated quickly: it's hard to call someone 'crazy' with such a shallow description of the issue and a lack of details. For instance, what were you texting about? Figure skating? Relationships? Going out for a drink? Flirty compliments? When did they break up? How long were they dating? Why did they break up? That's all just for a start. Not ready to call someone a whackjob just off that ^.

He was asking about a farm. I've no interest in her leftovers at all. She said she doesn't trust me and it's my fault that he contacted me as I liked a picture of his on Facebook

Legs.Eleven

What advice are you looking for? Confirmation that your friend is crazy?

Overheal

what about a farm? and why ask you?

Meauldsegosha

From your previous posts here it seems all your friends give you hassle or grieve over one thing or another. Maybe its time to get a new set of friends.

scarymoon1

Overheal wrote: »

what about a farm? and why ask you?

I've no idea why he asked me but it's not my fault he contacted me. I just replied to him and now she's gone crazy saying I'm lying to her etc

Legs.Eleven

scarymoon1 wrote: »

I've no idea why he asked me but it's not my fault he contacted me. I just replied to him and now she's gone crazy saying I'm lying to her etc

Surely this is something you can sort out between yourselves? You know the details. I can't see what advice we could give you on this.

scarymoon1

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

Surely this is something you can sort out between yourselves? You know the details. I can't see what advice we could give you on this.

I'm looking for advice is she over reacting

Merkin

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

From your previous posts here it seems all your friends give you hassle or grieve over one thing or another. Maybe its time to get a new set of friends.

+1. You probably need to find new friends OP judging by the endless threads from you in PI on how vile they all are.

Legs.Eleven

scarymoon1 wrote: »

I'm looking for advice is she over reacting

Maybe or maybe not. I don't know the ins and outs of it. You haven't give any details.

I advice you to sort it out with her instead of getting confirmation on the internet from strangers that won't sort anything out. Surely you need to sit her down and talk to her.

scarymoon1

I was just wondering if she was over reacting

scarymoon1

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

Maybe or maybe not. I don't know the ins and outs of it. You haven't give any details.

I advice you to sort it out with her instead of getting confirmation on the internet from strangers that won't sort anything out. Surely you need to sit her down and talk to her.

The in and outs of it are her ex sent me a message or two on Facebook, I replied and now she is gone mad!!! That's it

harry Bailey esq

scarymoon1 wrote: »

He was asking about a farm. I've no interest in her leftovers at all. She said she doesn't trust me and it's my fault that he contacted me as I liked a picture of his on Facebook

you own a farm?? pm sent seriously though,i would have just ignored the text,i agree with the post above,its a bit quick to be branding anybody a headcase.For all you know the guy could have been cheating on her and now she reckons he's trying it on with you. I've been in a couple of similar situations and have concluded that a cooling off period of at least a few months is best.Sure,if you see the guy on the street by all means be polite,but knock the texting on the head.break ups are hard and your mate doesn't need the idea of her ex and her mate getting too pally on top of everything else going through her mind.Be a good friend,bring her out,cheer her up,and after a while loverboy will have been long forgotten.best of luck.

scarymoon1

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

you own a farm?? pm sent seriously though,i would have just ignored the text,i agree with the post above,its a bit quick to be branding anybody a headcase.For all you know the guy could have been cheating on her and now she reckons he's trying it on with you. I've been in a couple of similar situations and have concluded that a cooling off period of at least a few months is best.Sure,if you see the guy on the street by all means be polite,but knock the texting on the head.break ups are hard and your mate doesn't need the idea of her ex and her mate getting too pally on top of everything else going through her mind.Be a good friend,bring her out,cheer her up,and after a while loverboy will have been long forgotten.best of luck.

Too late for that - we have had a few rows in the past and this was the last straw I think. Fair enough about the texting but he always text me first and I just replied - I did nothing wrong my parents have a farm lol

Legs.Eleven

scarymoon1 wrote: »

Too late for that - we have had a few rows in the past and this was the last straw I think. Fair enough about the texting but he always text me first and I just replied - I did nothing wrong my parents have a farm lol

Sounds like you're better off. You don't need this kind of stupid drama in friendships. Leave her off.

harry Bailey esq

scarymoon1 wrote: »

I'm looking for advice is she over reacting

how would you react?

scarymoon1

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

how would you react?

Not like her accusing me of lying to her and she didn't trust there was nothing going on. It's just crazy I think

Meauldsegosha

scarymoon1 wrote: »

Not like her accusing me of lying to her and she didn't trust there was nothing going on. It's just crazy I think

Well if you think she is crazy it doesn't matter what the rest of us think. What you should examine is why you need constant validation from people on the internet on the relationships you have with your friends.

scarymoon1

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

Well if you think she is crazy it doesn't matter what the rest of us think. What you should examine is why you need constant validation from people on the internet on the relationships you have with your friends.

I don't need constant validation. Plus isn't that what boards is for anyways?!

CaraMay

scarymoon1 wrote: »

I don't need constant validation. Plus isn't that what boards is for anyways?!

You post incessantly about your 'friends'. They seem like very unhealthy relationships.

Meauldsegosha

scarymoon1 wrote: »

I don't need constant validation. Plus isn't that what boards is for anyways?!

Yes you do and on a previously thread you admitted you rely on other peoples (friends and family) opionions too much. You need to work on your own self-confidence and self-esteem. Then silly issues like a friend's ex texting you wouldn't cause this much hassle.

scarymoon1

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

Yes you do and on a previously thread you admitted you reply on other peoples (friends and family) opionions too much. You need to work on your own self-confidence and self-esteem. Then silly issues like a friend's ex texting you wouldn't cause this much hassle.

Eh?! It was no hassle until my friend went mad!

Taltos

OP - you were asked 3 months ago not to post here again as we really cannot help you in any way.

Instead you were told to seek professional help. You are not leaving us with much choice here other than to issue a ban - something we really don't want to do. Please go and talk to your GP as soon as you can. If we see another thread here from you we will be left with no choice but to ban you for your own sake.

All the best
Taltos