Can I trust him?

ConfusedCork1

Ive been with my bf for about 2 1/2 years and we moved in together before christmas. He went out last saturday night and the way he was saying things when he came back seemed like he had been up to something. He passed out and I was sitting alone wrecking my head when I decided to look at his phone. I saw that he had been looking up escorts in our area among other things. I dont know what to think, should I confront him or just walk away?

CaraMay

Well you need to ask him what hapoened, tell him what you saw then decide. What did he say yesterday?

Merkin

You ask if you can trust him. I would say evidently not if he has been looking up prostitutes in your area and then coming home hammered, implying that he had been up to no good. I'd probably be cutting my losses simply because any excuses he comes up with will probably be bullsh1t. Sure, confront him if you like, but will you actually believe him? I'd also get yourself tested as well for STIs.

purplecow1977

I agree with Merkin above.

There's obviously a lack of trust if you've looked through his phone.

Has he ever given any reason for this mistrust?

To come home hammered and make suggestive comments that he's been 'up to no good', he sounds like a child that's trying to make you jealous for some reason.

ConfusedCork1

ConfusedCork1 wrote: »

Ive been with my bf for about 2 1/2 years and we moved in together before christmas. He went out last saturday night and the way he was saying things when he came back seemed like he had been up to something. He passed out and I was sitting alone wrecking my head when I decided to look at his phone. I saw that he had been looking up escorts in our area among other things. I dont know what to think, should I confront him or just walk away?

Depends on how he tries to justify -

a) Insinuating he's been up to something (because he can't tell you sober?),
b) Looking up escort services and
c) Among what other things?

It's hard to come up with a reasonable explanation. Drinking to the point of passing out would also be an issue to me, but that's your call.

You haven't showered yourself in glory either by going through his phone, so maybe you're just unsuited and don't bring out the best in one another.

GreeBo

Talk to him.
Anything else is totally jumping to conclusions and most likely wrong.

Who knows who was doing what with his phone while he was out drunk?

/edit
There is a fierce undercurrent of "he is a man, obviously he is up to no good, they cant be trusted, dump him girl you can do better" creeping into this forum that I for one, as a man, do not appreciate.

maria34

OP you just made me curious about these sites. I can check them tho as my bf isnt that insecure.

Some people do stupid things out of curiousity when they are drunk. Wait and see and talk with him.

Sniffing in someones phone is a big no no

ShaShaBear

I wouldn't make any assumptions on the escort end of things.

If I could call my partner a cheat for every "history" link to singles, russians, hot girls, hot men and milfs "in his area", he'd be in the Guinness Book of Records. I visit some links on my phone for, say, downloading music, and I almost always end up with pop-up tabs that suggest I am gay, a sexual danger to the public and an addicted gambler

Hazys

Obviously you don't trust him anyway, if you were up waiting for him to come back home after a night out. Why were you worried?

Can you expand on this "the way he was saying things when he came back seemed like he had been up to something."? This could a complete figment of your imagination based of off you waiting up all night and not trusting him anyway.