Shoud I stay or should I go

jesus smith

Ok here is my dilemma

Myself and my girlfriend cannot find any work in Dublin despite both having multiple qualifications. recently we both found ourselves broke and having to move out of our old apartment and we began discussing moving to Canada to find work. Then my father offered us the use my grandparents house (which has been vacant since they died)

My father is currently in the middle of sorting out his parents will, which left the house to him and his two siblings (neither of whom want the house just the money from the sale)

For us, we are allowed live in the house rent free in exchange for care-taking it. The plan was originally for us to move in short term to get us over the hump till we found new jobs, but now my father has decided to make an offer to buy out his two siblings and secure the house for our family use. This comes however, with the stipulation that me and my girlfriend stay in the house long term. He has made it clear that he has no interest in letting the house or caretaking it if no one is living there and he doesn't want the hassle of selling it himself down the line.

This sounds great on paper. we would have a house we could live in rent free for as long as we want. it would take a lot of the pressure off us financially.

However we need to be working, every year I stay unemployed is making me less and less viable a candidate for a position as I go up against younger candidates with more up to date skills and equal amounts of real experience (that being zero since I can't find a job)

The same goes for my girlfriend. She has multiple qualifications, including a masters in psychology.
Over here she can't even get unpaid volunteer positions, but in Canada her qualifications would make her eligible for a huge amount of high paying jobs.
We want to be working and we need to get started on our careers.

So the issue is this. we can stay here in a free house. However we would effectively be trapped in Ireland without job prospects.

It's basically a choice between security with no prospects for the future or gambling our futures and taking a shot in Canada where we at least have some hope of starting our careers.

Any advice would be appreciated!

PS: We're also not exactly a rich family, While my father say's he doesn't mind spending the money to secure the house for us (myself and my two siblings) I'm very aware that he would be spending a large amount of money that could be going towards his retirement.

PPS: On an separate but also possibly relevant note, another reason we were moving to Canada is just because we have no real social circle here any more. We've both kind of outgrown the 'go out and get smashed' scene in Dublin and since there's not really much else to do that interests us, we've slowly wound down to just spending our time at home. This is of course worsened by not having money.

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

For me it would be a no-brainer. I'd go to Canada.

I know it might not suit your father, but I'm sure he'll find a way to cope. Surely you've cousins or other relations who'd be only too happy with a free or even low rent house?

Who knows when the jobs market will pick up here, so if you've to go abroad to work in your chosen field, so be it.

Best of luck whatever you decide.

fatknacker

You sound like you know the answer to this one already. There's not much point in having a long term roof over your head if you can't put food in the fridge.

Your father is very generous and kind to be thinking of your future like that but having a job is way more important in terms of planning ahead. A house is just a building and it's not a home if you're miserable in it and wasting the prime of your years with nothing to do.

Typer Monkey

Definitely go to Canada. Your post is one long justification for going anyway so I'd say you've already made up your mind really. Don't stay out of obligation. You'll end up resentful. Go and start your lives while you're both still young

aerotuned

No u can't go and let us here, there are general elections come n up, Kenny has already promised tax cut for the standard worker and jobs a plenty, stay and struggle.
As u said there is no opportunities here and even when they come up your fighting against hundreds more , take the chance

Gokei

Not much advice needed here! Go!!

Have an adventure!

boobar

You've got to explain all this to your dad, and go to Canada. Let him know that you appreciate his offer but both of you need to work

December2012

Canada! It sounds like it will be better for your soul.

sambuka41

Go with Canada, it will be better for you both mentally even if you don't strike it rich over there! And it sounds like it would be better for your dad as well, he is probably concerned about you and thinks he's helping, but you guys will get sorted eventually and he can spend his money on other things!

Your dad might be afraid of losing you and that's why he's putting himself on the line for you. Go to Canada, but make sure your ole dad knows you'll be back often once you're sorted, and ask them over for a break when you're settled.

You have a great dad there.